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2017.10.01 20:52 RelaNarkin Where wishes are dismantled.

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2023.06.06 17:41 berdel__ Gator under water MAP - where to lose it and where not.

Gator under water MAP - where to lose it and where not.
We all know stories about alligators lost under water, which really happend, what creates a spooky legend "alligator hunt is so hard because they are gone under water". Yes, technically it is possible to lost them under water because this is how the game is designed, how alligators "dive and hide" mechanic is designed. However there is a huge BUT.
My beginnig of alligator grind was hard as spooky legend says - losing gators under water, must hit neck or head. I was trying, exploring, taking that pain, taking my lessons, analysing and planing how to make things just easier. After some time I got all pieces together and got a new concept how to try grinding them and not to lose them under water.
Now, when I'm absolute in love od grinding them, after over 1700 kills, I have a lot of arguments and final conclusions, which can denify a lot of problems and mistakes of most of players trying hunt gators. The same mistakes and problems with I had to deal and which I did. There was no easy way out on beginnig.
It can be unpopular opinion, annoying one, making some ppl salty, but we have to say it loud - losing alligators under water is mainly an effect of bad shot placement. I don't care what kind of shot - gator hunt don't tolerate bad shots. Bad head or neck shot which don't instant kills is bad shot, bad shot at lungs, which ends in leg or not in lungs is mess. If you can't take perfect shot on gator, you are taking NO SHOT - that's all. Your job is to make everything to get to place and time for perfect shot. End of story.
Of course we can blame the game about allowing that kind of problem. So of course, reason is not bad shot, reason is, because gators can be gone under water, right? Just let us hit them like we want, no matter good or not, let us make them complete mess and please give me my gator from water back.. Is this the way? This game mechanic should be not working like that but even if it is what it is there is possibility to hunt them efficient with fun and with no problems. And this mechanic makes gator hunt 'easy to start but hard to master' and gators as animal 'easy to hit but hard to get'. Which is something special in COTW. It is absloute another level and world of hunting compare to white tails or any other ground animal.
As I wrote - I killed over 1700 gators. My way is to (only) lung shots. In my opinion neck and head shooting is only a space for making huge mistakes (specially on very long ranges), letting them reach the water and losing them there. Because WOUNDED AND SLOW DYING ALLIGATOR WILL BE ALMOST ALWAYS A UNDER WATER LOST ALLIGATOR. But - perfect hitted gator is not a lost one. The reason is here how deep are waters on hunting spots. If they have to much time to dive and reaching the deepest spots, they will be gone - that's the reason why bad shots giving them time to dive that deep (more details in my YT video).
Now, why am I mentoning my number of kills? Because I let all alligators run in water! I even want them run in water to easier collecting them! I have absolutely no stress about gator in water. So far I lost ONLY 45 (saying my newest notes) gators under water. 10 of them because I really lost them even with beeing sure spot is safe or low risk. But just think about it - 10 of 1700. It is marginal.
35 of them were lost because I was lazy - there were just bad shots or I just could do more to avoid their reaching the very worst spots. For example - in near of 'black hole' spot I could take (last chance solution) neck shot or just make more effort for double lungs. But no - I was lazy and took bad shot and I was not angry or suprised it was lost. Or I just kill them 'anyhow' - you know, grinding right on some days.
So, after all that kills and taking gators from water (aside some hundreds killed on ground on short ranges) I got some experiences where you can lose gator under water and where not. And I give you that knowledge on a plate to stop talking all over "yOu haVe tO lOsT gaToR unDEr WaTeR". Because you don't have.
KEEP in mind - this map will be working like that only if gator dies in the marked point after a one perfect vital shot. Hurting them, messing them up, machine gunning them will not making this map works. And I'm thinking about guns with class 4-8 ammo and 4-9 ammo like M1 or zarza .308. (in case someone is planning to rush gators with ranger or solokhin - no, it will not work)
The colours of spots*:
  1. Green (safe) - literally no risk.
  2. Blue (low risk) - Im taking them as safe but there are sometimes somewhere deepness under water, which can be hit very rare
  3. Yellow (risk) - every time I'm shooting there I'm still thinking I will get my gator, but a lost can happen here. I would be nervous about hitting diamond there.
  4. Red (high risk) - you will lost there more than get to harvest
  5. Black - you will never pull something out from black hole *green (like lost 1 of 200), blue (1 of 80), yellow (1 of 30), red (11 of 20), black almost ALL.
You can make these colours a one step "safer" by doing double vital shot. But be sure you can - angle is perfect, there is enough long escape route to still get second shot etc. Or try to bow hunt (even two steps safer). Or neck or head - decisions are on you as all later mistakes and loses.
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2023.06.06 17:40 Stlavsa How long to feel effects? Nearly immediate?

Last night did first one .25 mg. It was late, after 10 PM. Fell asleep but woke up around 11:30 and tossed and turned all night. Haven't been hungry much today either.
Placebo effect or does it kick in that fast?
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2023.06.06 17:40 DeflatedJungler He’ll be remembered as an all time great.

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2023.06.06 17:39 Evidence_Orange_0945 AITA for not letting my 16 year old daughter hold her newborn sister?

Hello Reddit. This is a throwaway account obviously.
I (42f) recently gave birth to my second daughter. My first daughter (16f) has been very excited to have a sister, and has been eager to help me care for her. An hour or so after I gave birth, my brother picked up my daughter from school and brought her to the hospital to see her sister and I.
Something important is the fact that earlier in the pregnancy, I had promised that my daughter would get to hold her baby sister soon after she was born. My older daughter was excited to have that opportunity to bond with her new sister. My daughter is very responsible, she babysits, is a straight A student, and is very gentle with kids and animals.
When my daughter got to the hospital with my brother, she asked to hold her sister, and I had to tell her no. Her sister is too fragile and I don't want the baby getting sick. My 16yo offered to wear a mask and gloves to avoid germs, and she had already washed her hands, but the risk is too high. I didn't trust her to hold a newborn. There's just too many things that could go wrong.
I think there's a chance I might be an asshole though because I previously told her she could hold the baby. However, things do change and she doesn't understand that. I understand that she might be upset because I told her she could hold her sister, but I think it'd be best to wait a few months or even a year.
Note: I'm not a native English speaker, so I'm sorry if there are errors here.
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2023.06.06 17:39 LaticusLad Time Marches Ever Onward: Chapter 3

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Memory transcription subject: Tassak, Arxur Paleontologist
Date [standardized human time]: July 15, 2165
I nervously clicked my claws against the wooden table as I waited for the rest of the invitees to arrive. The UN had brought me to the senate building privately so as to not cause panic, and I was grateful. I only hoped that the people whom I was going to be working with wouldn’t freak out at my appearance.
The war against the Federation and the subjugation of the Arxur by the Dominion had ended shortly after my birth, but the effects of the past few centuries of conflict could not be eliminated in such a short amount of time. Societal ideals have to be rewritten over long stretches of time by strong people with strong will, and there simply hasn’t been enough time to do so. As a result, though it has been many years since the last battle against the Arxur, it was still uncommon to see any outside of the space they already inhabited, and still VERY common to see hatred and fear of us among Fed species. It has always been my ultimate goal to show those who fear us just how similar we are, that is why I sacrificed everything to attend the Meiers Institute of Knowledge.
On the Arxur’s side of the societal coin, it was social suicide to interact with “prey” species willingly. [Oh how I hate that word.] Most of the elders of our society could not get over their hatred of the Federation species, despite the fact that they were under just as much, if not MORE subjugation than we were. When I made the decision to go and learn at MIK, I was shunned from all social groups at home. Not that there even were many, most Arxur rarely interacted with each other if they could help it.
MIK was a chance for me to experience new ideas and try new things. For once, I wasn’t discriminated against because I had front-facing eyes and scary teeth, and I learned just how much I loved socializing with like-minded people. I was finally allowed to let my love for knowledge flourish in a way that other Arxur would never have condoned. I graduated some time later with several degrees and a doctorate in paleontology.
Though to some, the idea of digging up bones and putting them together like a puzzle seemed macabre, it felt liberating to me. I felt like I truly understood the value of life and death. I could look at the cracked tooth of an ancient ancestor of the Arxur or the fossilized chitin of one of the Tilfish’s predecessors and identify a pattern, showing the divergent evolution they underwent to achieve their current form. I could see the similarities all life inherently had. Sometimes the similarities between us were shocking, and occasionally it was kind-of scary, but that only made me more passionate about my work.
I assume that is why the UN decided to send me a job offer 3 weeks ago. When I received it I was ECSTATIC at the prospect. The UN government sending ME, a small-time nobody Arxur paleontologist, an invitation to work with them? If I could tell my past self what I would be up to now, I would almost certainly scoff at myself. Even as I boarded my UN funded private ship to Aafa I was subconsciously wondering if it was some elaborate prank. My thoughts were interrupted as I heard footsteps from the other side of the door. This is it, I’m about to meet my partners, please don’t run away screaming.
A human, a venlil, and a gojid stood in the doorway staring at me. The gojid seemed slightly fearful but hid it well, the human and venlil however just seemed confused. [Okay, okay, they didn’t scream at me. That’s a good start.] The three, along with their escort, settled into chairs at the table I sat at, looking at me expectantly. I straightened my posture and prepared myself mentally to greet them. “H-hi, my name is Tassak. Are you the other three invitees?” The human sitting across from me spoke. “Yes. I hope I don’t offend by saying this but I wasn’t expecting an Arxur invitee.” He raised an eyebrow as he ended his sentence. He quickly started talking again, probably to try and explain his reasoning. “Sorry, I-I mean, don’t the Arxur frown upon interacting with “prey” species?” The venlil and gojid looked at me as I thought of a response. “Yes, they do. I had to cut a lot of ties to get into this profession. Let’s get introductions out of the way please.” “Alright, my name is James. I’m 31 years old. I was born on Earth and now live on Venlil prime. I went to MIK to become a historian. My diet is mainly coffee but occasionally I drink coffee as a treat.” The man smiled as he awaited our amusement, but it never came. James’ smirk faded and he coughed into his hand before continuing. “I was invited along with my friend Lemva, she’s the venlil next to me, and Cayek, he’s the gojid to your right.”
I exhaled quietly, James seemed friendly enough. “My name is Tassak, as I said before. I’m 29. I got a doctorate in paleontology at the Meiers Institute of Knowledge, along with some other degrees. I hail from Wriss I currently live on Earth.” As I finished my statement, I couldn’t help but criticize the way I spoke. [Why did I talk so rigidly, ughhh! My first impressions are going terribly!] James spoke up. “Wait, did we all come from MIK? Weird coincidence huh?” I could tell he was trying to ease the tension in the room. “I thought I would’ve noticed a giant lizard guy walking around campus.” Wait, did he call me a guy? “Uh, I’m a girl, actually.” I spoke timidly. The man before me became as red as a fresh cut of steak. His embarrassment was plainly visible, which I found amusing, it lessened my anxiety slightly.
The venlil that James had referred to as Lemva spoke up, changing the subject. “Weelll… Anyhow, my name is Lemva as James told you. I’m 30 years old. I’m an archaeologist and got my doctorate from MIK. My current home is on Earth but I’ve lived a little bit of everywhere. Me and James have been friends for a long time, we met in the institute’s history club.” Everyone focused their attention onto Cayek as Lemva’s introduction concluded. It took several seconds for him to compose himself. I could tell that my presence was uncomfortable for him, and him being seated closest to me of the three people probably exacerbated that feeling. I didn’t blame him for his fear, but it still stung a little. He gulped and started talking.
“My name is Cayek. I’m a 41 year old linguist who also went to MIK for my doctorate. I was born on the Cradle, was taken in at a young age by the UN after it got bombed, and was offered a home in one of the cities constructed by the Cradle Re-colonization Project, where I now live.” The man stopped talking and I thought he was done, but he straightened his posture and started speaking again. “I just want to get this out of the way before it causes trouble later down the line.” He spoke with a sigh. “I was born in a… you could call it a “hostile” household. My family raised me during a time when hate against… “people who were different” was acceptable. My upbringing cemented a couple habits into me that I’ve been trying to chip away at, so to speak, ever since I saw the sheer good that mankind is capable of. I’ve been attempting to be more open to new ideas ever since. Hell, I even took the anti-cure and tried some-” He gulped. “-non-herbivore cuisine, to get some perspective. So if I accidentally say or do something offensive to you please tell me, I truly want to leave that part of me behind.” As he ended his speech, he slouched and let out a breath he had been holding in. I was surprised by his honesty.
James and Lemva both processed the information. I responded first. “Thank you. You have no idea how much anxiety dropped off my shoulders just now. I was worried you’d all run away at first sight of me or treat me like some bloodthirsty beast. I very much appreciate the effort you’re putting into reforming.” James spoke after me. “I appreciate it too. After all these riots it’s such a breath of fresh air to meet a person that won’t cry if I look at them.” In the past 10 minutes, this man had crammed in jokes at any time he could. I think I’m gonna like him. I could tell that the joke came from a place of sadness though, I could see the sadness in his eyes.
James started to look impatient, he tapped his fingers on the table in a rhythmic pattern while he checked his holopad for the time. “I thought we were here for a job offer. How long is this gon-” The sound of the heavy wooden door opening filled the room, as a small group of well-dressed men and women filed in through the doorway. As my eyes scanned over each person who entered, my heart skipped a beat and I jolted upward to attempt a human salute as I spotted President Zhao at the tail-end of the group. [What the fuck? Why is he meeting with us?] The other three followed my gaze and stood to salute as well. In his surprise, James nearly fell over. My three partners were as equally dumbstruck as I by the sudden appearance of the head of the government.
President Zhao took on a small amused smirk as he witnessed James straighten himself out. “At ease. You may take a seat.” We did as he commanded. “Welcome to the Capitol. It’s good to see that you all accepted your invitations. I can see from your confused expressions that you probably want some answers, so let’s get started.” As Zhao took a seat at the head of the table, one of the men who had accompanied him lifted a briefcase from his side and placed it delicately on the table. The man inputted a code into a small keypad and the briefcase unlocked with a click. Inside was a holo-projector, which the man placed on the center of the table. “Before we begin, our four guests will need to sign a Non-Disclosure Agreement, the information spoken of in this meeting must never leave this room.” Another of the officials, a small woman in a black dress, passed four holopads to us, which we promptly wrote our signatures into. The holopads were collected and Zhao spoke. “Excellent. You’re probably all curious about the reason we invited you specifically for this opportunity, why all the security measures and guards, why we’re trying to keep this under such tight wraps.” The holo-projector on the table switched on and briefly displayed the Coalition logo, before transitioning to a hologram of Talsk, the Farsul homeworld. “As you know, for hundreds of years the Federation had been keeping archives filled with classified knowledge and confiscated or outright stolen items. On the nineteenth of june, approximately four weeks ago, after extensive search efforts, we found the motherlode. The Federation had kept many archives but this one was special. It wasn’t a library, it was a tomb. Buried under several kilometers of rock and deep ocean, the Federation sealed away items and information that, if released, could possibly threaten their hold over the galaxy.”
The holo-projector transitioned to a diagram depicting the archive, there was no entrance-way and no exit, just kilometers of water and stone between it and the surface. The hologram zoomed in on the archive, showing a more detailed view of the gargantuan structure. It consisted of several levels, each with a number of chambers housing items or information. At the very bottom of the structure, one chamber stood out among the rest. 10 meter thick walls of an ultra-hard titanium alloy encased a small cell filled with toxic gas. Suspended in the middle of the chamber by hundreds of metal rods was a vacuum-sealed prism of diamond. Finally, inside the prism was a small metal cube along with a holopad.
I felt a chill down my spine as I studied the intricate carvings etched upon the surface of the artifact. I could tell that the carvings were of some language, but it did not match any that I could think of. “Within the records, this artifact was designated as Class-Hydrogen1. The Federation’s information classification system is far too complex to discuss in full, but in summary, the more important something is, the closer to 1 the atomic number of the element it is assigned will be. The classification is then proceeded by a 1 or 2, 1 signifies dangerous information and 2 signifies dangerous materials. For example, in this same archive we discovered an experimental and dangerous singularity generator with a classification of Fluorine2, which has an atomic number of 9.”
“To put into perspective how scary the idea of a Class-Hydrogen designation is, the second highest classification object on record is a self-powered anti-grav receptacle of strange matter. Strange matter will turn any other matter it touches into more strange matter, I shouldn’t have to explain why that is incredibly dangerous. The receptacle was classified as a Carbon2. There are 4 classifications between Hydrogen and Carbon and none of them are being used.” My blood ran cold as I listened. What power could this artifact possibly hold? The question in my mind was quickly replaced by another. Why are WE the ones being told this? Before the window of opportunity ended, I opened my mouth to speak.
“Permission to speak, sir?” Zhao looked at me and nodded. “I still have a question, and I’m sure my partners do too, but why us? Why did you choose to tell us this instead of someone more qualified?” “I’m glad you reminded me.” I heard the clacking of a keyboard as one of the men beside the President switched the holo-projector to a different tab. A close-up of the cube appeared, showing the four sides of the object.
The first side depicts a bipedal creature covered in spikes turning their back on two similar figures cloaked in blood and flames. The creature holds a defiant posture. Flames trail behind them, turning to embers, then to smoke, and then fading entirely.
The second side depicts a small fluffy figure being chased by a dark version of themselves across a variety of settings and locations.
The third side depicts a large being covered in scales bound in chains kneeling on an altar, their arms being stretched to two different sides. On one side a crowd of identical creatures and on the other side a crowd composed of different figures of varying shapes and sizes, both sides pointing weapons at the central figure.
The final scene depicts a man screaming in anger and sorrow pointing a dagger toward a small creature with bloodied hands. Tears stream down his face. A man and woman lie dead in the background.
A gojid, a venlil, an arxur, and a human.
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2023.06.06 17:38 Ok-Telephone6612 when will it start working?

I’ve been on effexor (venlafaxine 75mg) for about 6/7 weeks now. I haven’t really felt any difference. I had a great couple of days last week, I had a spring in my step and I actually felt happy and confident. But it stopped after work stressed me out. I’m moving up to 150mg but i’m worried how long i’ll have to wait. Does anyone have any advice or knowledge on how long it’ll take to feel the full effects for anxiety/depression?
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2023.06.06 17:38 Aging_Lifter_196 Poor results after 9 weeks on TRT

I'm a 46-year-old male (generally pretty fit, active, and healthy) who started TRT at a local men's clinic 9 weeks ago after testing at 259 ng/dL with the hope that it would improve mental focus and motivation, something that has declined noticeably for me in recent years. I was started with an initial injection of 200mg of testosterone cypionate followed by weekly doses of 150mg. Almost immediately, I started experiencing ED, bloating, weight gain, and even more demotivation. The clinic suggested that it was likely high E2 causing those symptoms and the week 6 blood test results confirmed that with an E2 level of 52.1 pg/mL up from my starting level of <15 (although T was up to 801 ng/dL). They prescribed one weekly 0.5mg dose of anastrozole and suggested that it would take effect quickly.

Three weeks later, I'm still not really feeling any different. So far, all the effects of TRT have been either neutral or negative for me. I know that the mood and focus improvements that I was hoping for tend to take 3 and 6 months to experience, but I wasn't expecting these other negative effects. Any suggestions for me either on things I could do or how I should adjust my expectations for TRT?
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2023.06.06 17:37 Ivy444621 I have two best friends who kind of don't get along?

I (19) have two childhood friends. Let's call them A and B (literally thier initials). I met A when I was 10 and B when I was in kindergarden. We were in same school but they didn't talk much. My friendship with A deepened when my contact with B broke off for 4 year (no particular reason just I was the asshole for not even trying to stay in contact. Tho she told me she doesn't mind but I still feel guilty). But we reunited and our friendships been going strong since then. They both know what's going on in each other's life through me but never talk themselves. I would like to call us a trio but if not for me they won't stay in contact. But it's also not like they don't enjoy each other's company when we three are together but after that no calls or texts between each other. They are not interested in each other and I'm worried that they will completely stop all contact with each other cause I'm leaving for college in a month. What should I do? Should I talk to them? Or leave them for this to handle on thier own cause I think this is gonna be a very uncomfortable conversation
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2023.06.06 17:36 SourcerBot Zelenskiy says Russia must be held to account over Kakhovka dam blast

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2023.06.06 17:34 LuckStrict6000 Did anyone develop side effects from IUD after having it for a long time?

It was smooth sailing for me and mirena until suddenly things went south after like 1.5 years.
Also am wondering if anyone developed gastro problems as a side effect? I don’t want to blame everything on iud but I started getting gastro problems at the same time as spotting and other more accepted iud side effects, so it seems like not a coincidence… but I am slightly in denial that side effects could start so out of the blue after so long 🤷‍♀️
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2023.06.06 17:34 moosita_ Dreading the visit to my in-laws

So after being VVLC, DH and his mom started to talk again. I won't get into the details there because what's done is done. We are going down to visit them soon... I think this weekend.
This will be the first time they've seen my son in person since he was 3 months old. My son is now 12 months old and thankfully he is healthy and very attached to me. However, since he's not a newborn does the whole don't kiss baby, don't pass him around like a hot potato, etc... still apply? What boundaries for a one year old do ya'll enforce with "faMiLy"?
Also, what's the best way to handle snide comments from your just nos? My JNMIL and JNGMIL may behave during this visit (fingers crossed) but I'm trying to mentally prepare myself. Ignore them or bite back? I've stayed pretty quiet since the original ordeal and still only "defended" myself when I responded to her Xmas text. I've got a lot bottled up lol.
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2023.06.06 17:33 ThrowRA-SadDuckie My spouse [31/F] has moved out but is coming over or calling me [34/M] often, should I respond or not?

TL;DR Spouse moved out and has been contacting me periodically, how should I respond to her? My spouse [31/F] and I [34/M] have been married for 6 years. It's been a bit up and down, but we always stuck through with each other. She complained that I wasn't invested in the relationship, like I didn't take initiative. She's been pushy on things and doesn't listen to me. Like flat out says "I wasn't listening". I always have to serve her as well, like get her things and so forth. It bothers me because she doesn't bring an income, so I feel added stress. But we love each other and I care about her. We've been to couples therapy. Last week she found I was looking up massage parlours (the happy ending kind), got angry and decided to move out. We discussed what I did and I said it wasn't sex and motivation was curiosity, neglect from her standpoint, and after she suggested we should maybe have sex with other people. She's been at some place, but will text me and ask questions about insurance. Sometimes she'll have like a winky face. Or she'll video call me and we'll talk. Or she'll come over to the house. The relationship has been tough on me and has made it hard, I feel I do all the work and get no appreciation (I do dishes, laundry, bring an income, etc). Why would she be reaching out and how should I respond?
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2023.06.06 17:33 Alkyanne [A4F] Not everyone can be a hero - PART 2 [Established relationship] [Powerless Listener] [Gifted speaker] [Comfort] [TW : War, Angst]

Author’s note : Everything’s free to use and monetize or paywall as you wish, just remember to credit me please.
Summary, Reader perspective : You’ve fled the city to go far from the fights and arrived at your partner family house.

[ ] = stage directions
*\* = sound effects

*giggles\*

I told you, your mother was fine!
Good evening Ma'am.
Oh! Easy with the hugs, You know I’m not a very touchy person..

[shy]

Your daughter is an exception..
You’re welcome, but you know how much I love her. There is no way I would have let anything happen to her. I gave you my word I would protect her at any cost, and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing since then.
Thank you Ma’am, but I’ll come inside later, I’ll have to put some gas in my bike. If we ever need to get out fast, we need to be ready. If I remember correctly there is a station not far to the west, right?
Alright, I don’t need much time. I’ll be back shortly. You both should be fine until then.
Ma’am? Can I talk to you real quick?
Yeah.. So.. She saw a lot today.. She might have to talk to her mother.. Yeah.. please take care of her.. I won’t be long.
See you later.
Baby? come here.

*kiss\*

Settle down with your mother, get comfortable, I’ll be back soon.
I love you too.

*bike engine starting and sound of it going away\*
[pause]
*sounds of the bike returning\*

Hey my love, what are you doing out there? Aren’t you cold?
Waiting for me?

*giggle\*

I told you I wouldn’t take long!

*kiss\*

I miss you too darling. But I knew you were safe here.
Yeah I guess you couldn’t know I was too. I’m sorry, I should have taken the time to reassure you before leaving.

*kiss\*

Come inside now? To the warmth?

*doors opening and closing\*

Hello again Ma’am!

*sniffing\*

Hmmm that smells delicious ! How did you know we didn’t eat anything yet?
Yes, that's true. Do you need help with anything?

*giggle\*

Alright, we’re gonna go upstairs to rest a little before dinner.

[The mom making some comment about sexy time, making reader uncomfortable]

wha… Ma’am !! No ! We’re not.. How can you..
What baby?
No I didn’t see that joke coming !

[suddenly serious]

Wait.
I didn’t see that coming. Oh god..
I.. I don’t see anything. I don’t know what’s going to happen ! How is it possible ?
No baby you don’t understand ! How can I protect you if I don’t know what’s going to happen?! You’re in danger, I can’t keep it that way, I need to get my powers back ! Now !
Of course I’m panicking baby ! What if you get hurt or worse when I’m like that?! I could never forgive myself !
How do you know it’s not my fault ? We don’t even know why they’re gone ! Or how, or since when !

*crying\*

Baby I can’t lose you !

*starting to hyperventilate\*

I.. I can’t.. breathe.. baby..

*tries to get a long inspiration but fail\*

I’m trying!

*tries again\*
*multiple breathing exercises, breathing in and out loudly\*

Alright, I’m ok. I think. I’m sorry. I lost it.. I was so afraid for you.
You’re right. I said that. We are safe here, we’re far from the fights. And we’ll have time to see them coming if we need to flee even further away..
Let’s eat.. Your mom made her delicious lasagna, I’m sure I’ll feel way better after that !

*laughing\*
*footsteps\*

I’m good ma’am, sorry for the inconvenience.

[they start eating]

Mmhhhh that’s so good ! You need to teach your daughter how to do that !
ouch.. ahahah i don’t say you can’t cook my love, I just say you never do this. And I like it very much, maybe you can try when we get home?
Oh yeah that’s right, our living room is just a giant hole now…
Oh one of their attac…
What the hell? can we put the volume of the TV up please?
They.. they have that kind of weapon? But.. Wait ! The army has a weapon to suppress powers ?!
For how long? Wait and how long does it last? Is it permanent?!
Yeah sorry, I’m listening baby.

[pause]
[relieve reader]

Oh thank god.. It’s not permanent.. That means I will still be able to protect you..

*sigh\*
[listener doesn’t look happy]

My love? What's wrong? It is good news, why do you look so.. upset?
Normal?
I thought.. Do you.. Not like how protective I am? Does it feel too much for you?
What is it then?
No baby, it’s not nothing.. You seem very upset, talk to me…
Hey ! where are..

[listener stand up and leave]
[listener is hiding behind the door, so the last part sounds muffled]

But Ma’am..
Ok… I’m listening..

[pause while the mother is explaining]

But I don’t care if she has no powers! I know almost everyone has something.. Even if it’s useless.. But I never thought less of her because she doesn’t have anything. I don’t care about that! It’s not like she has any choice anyway, it just is. And I love her for who she is, powers or not !
Alright.. I understand…
I’m sorry, I didn’t think of that.. Yeah I will tell her when she’s back. I think she needs some time alone..
I didn’t think she could interpret my reaction to having no powers like that.. I was just so worried for her safety.. I can’t lose her, you know?
Ahahahah
About marriage and children, maybe we wait after the war, don’t you think?
Mmmh yeah that’s true…
Some happiness can’t hurt.. Having a wedding now could bring some joy around us, amongst our friends..
But I’m not sure I want to bring a new life into this kind of environment..
Maybe now that the army has a weapon capable of neutralizing powers the war will be over soon..
We’ll see with time I guess..

[listener coming back in the room]

Hey baby!
No no, I’m sorry! I didn’t think of how you’ll feel about all this…
You forgive me?
Good, come here please.
What? Your mom is the one making sex jokes, she can watch you sitting on my lap right?

*giggle\*

Alright, maybe we should go upstairs now..

*laughing\*
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2023.06.06 17:33 sansaveryAHHH AITA for suggesting my niece come live with me?

My niece is a young teen and has been having some trouble with my sis/her mom and moms bf of 4ish years. The kids (15f, 12m,9m) lived mostly with their father before he passed. The bf openly ignored their father at family events, only talks about himself, doesn't have friends of his own and says he has no family. He says he works a lot and I admit he drives a flashy car but he always tries to talk the group out of doing anything he deems expensive no matter the occasion.
The real issues started about a year ago when he started staying over there more. The house changed for him, a weekend guest. The thermostat went from 72 to 78. 78 isn't entirely uncommon in our hot state, but niece started puberty kind of late and has had hot flashes for the better part of two years. She took to cold water baths after the thermostat went up. He's got a half shelf of stuff in the fridge non of the kids can have but if niece buys something with her own money and it's not kept in her room he'll snack on it, etc.
Now sister and bf are talking about moving in together.
It might be important to point out that not only do we live in a hot state, our family grew up swimmers and running around in our swim suits. We're very comfortable with each other in swim attire or even covered similarly.
Niece called me in shambles a week ago because the bf, wh she didn't know was over, was in the kitchen when she went to get a snack in shorts and a sports bra and her mother's boyfriend told her since he was moving in she was going to have to start covering herself decently. She's never considered it indecent and neither does our family, her mother "tried explaining" to the bf but he doesn't want to hear it.
The worst part is kiddo just started getting breasts and they're already coming in strong. So now she feels like if she doesn't walk around her house in a moomoo or a sweater her likely soon to be stepfather will be staring at her chest.
It has caused a LOT of family issues, that came to a head last night when niece said she was going to apply for emancipation when she turns 16 and all hell kind of broke loose. Everyone was yelling over each other but I swear I heard the bf say slut, he denies it.
After things cooled down a bit I approached my sister who assured me she still wants bf to move in. I pointed out that I have a second bedroom and that niece has great grades and could Lilley qualify at a highly sought magnet near my house and that maybe it would be smart to let her come stay with me for a bit to hopefully avoid all the legal stuff. Sister kicked me out of her house.
This morning I got texts from both my sister and her boyfriend about how I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, but I don't think my sister is actually considering my niece's feeling here.
AITA for offering to have my niece live with me?
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2023.06.06 17:32 BabySchizo How do you handle the resentment?

My mom has apparently been drinking since she was 15. She's in her late 40s now. I'm 20, and I only picked up on her habits about 5 years ago. She started acting significantly different then but I didn't quite pinpoint it until about 3 years ago. She's a violent drunk. She's hit my dad, hit my brother, and has attempted to hit me. I guess she thinks they won't hit her back but I will because we're both women. I don't wish to lay hands on my mom.
She's also bipolar and often doesn't take her medication. She's not supposed to be drinking with her medication as it worsens everything. She starts from early morning until night. I think she believes shes a functioning alcoholic but she's far from it. She has lied about where she's gone, went drinking, and tried to drive back but my dad got her to pick up the phone and pull over before she got too far. She got drunk at a party that my brother was also at, hit someones mailbox and jumped a ditch in her car. This is when we tried to get her into AA. She went for a week, actually stopped drinking, started talking back with her best friend (they cut each other off because they had a drunken fist fight) and relapsed. She proceeded to lie to us and everyone in the AA meetings because she didn't want to "be like the others" and have to go back and get a day one chip or whatever.
She got drunk one night, tried to leave on her car but my dad and I blocked her from leaving, she proceeded to push me almost to the ground to get inside the car but my dad stopped her. She called her best friend to come get her. She screamed at the top of her lungs that alcohol meant more than her family. She told me that being groomed as a child from people on the internet was my fault. I was 8/9 years old. That's when I lost it. I lost my cool, I lost my respect for my mom, for a while I felt like she didn't love me anymore but thats when I knew she didn't. After she left, I cried in my dads arms for the first time in a very long time. When she came back a day later, she didn't even remember what she said but she tried to apologize. I ignored her. Another time, my dad had surgery to remove cancerous tumors from his kidneys. The surgery didn't work and he was very upset. He was grumpy from the medication and being in pain. My mom proceeded to tell him she didn't give a fuck if he died or not. She still to this day doesn't feel bad about saying that.
She was fine for a while. Still drinking but didn't have a freak out like the previous times. Until my dad had a re-do on his surgery. My boyfriend came to see me a day or two after. My dad wasn't feeling well and was running a fever so my mom drunkingly called me 3 times in the span of 15 minutes to go and get a thermometer to check his temp. Although it was not at all that pleasant, I got called every name in the book and she swore I was hiding the thermometer. She demanded I go buy one and be home in 10 minutes. I was at work, and work is already 15 minutes from home.
When we got there she kept screaming at me until I was hysterically crying in front of my boyfriend. Normally I wouldn't of let her get that deep to me but she was doing this in front of my boyfriend and telling me I didn't care about my dad because I didn't get home quick enough, along with other things. I went to my room and my boyfriend was behind me. We sat for a few minutes as I just cried in his arms. She came to my room, and kept screaming. My boyfriend kindly asked if we could separate for a bit so everyone in the argument could calm down. She went off on him telling him to stay out of her fucking business etc etc. She was making him apart of it, she called him a pussy for dealing with me crying and told him she had lost all respect for him. He said that he had lost all respect for her and she demanded he leave. She left for 5 seconds, pretended to talk to my dad (he was upstairs and we didn't hear her go upstairs) and she came back saying he demanded my boyfriend leave as well. He was going to leave before my mom snapped out of it. I don't know if this was the bipolar or the alcohol or both. This has been my absolute last straw. I told my dad about the ordeal and he said she never spoke to him and never even told him what happened. He apologized profusely and understands now why I'm so eager to move out.
Since this last occurance with her, I keep having dreams of her screaming at me and trying to hit me, and we end up in a fist fight. I don't feel safe in my own house anymore. I set up cameras in my room because I have cats and I'm scared she'll be mean to them. When she went to search my room for the thermometer she angerly turned both my cameras over, because I guess she figured they're more for her than they are for my cats.
I get angry every time I see her or speak to her. I get angry every time she texts me. I'm full of anger and resentment.
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2023.06.06 17:32 Pisatanic [TASK] Integrating python script in my wpf c# desktop application

[TASK] Integrating python script in my wpf c# desktop application
I'm currently developing a desktop application using WPF C# Visual Studios. It is an app to interact with my virtual assistant.
The Python Script:
I have developed the virtual assistant in python. It has an interface using pyqt5. You can type command or use voice to get responses. It does things like opening reddit, searching youtube, telling time etc.
The WPF C# desktop application: I'm done developing the commands that I needed such as creating excel file, selecting the data from the file and plotting a graph. Selecting a graph from the excel file and importing it to word and a few more other commands. I've also already developed the chat interface which we need to talk and get responses from the virtual assistant.
The [TASK] : When I run my project both python interface and the wpf interface show up. What I want is to either hide the python interface or remove it and link the commands in the python interface to my wpf interface.
For example: In this screenshot, you can see the voice assistant window which is the python script. It has run command which works after you type your command and click run. Then it has voice command which starts listening through microphone to your command and does speech to text and then runs the command. ( Remember "Run Command" and "Voice Command" )
https://preview.redd.it/xy3nf39h0f4b1.png?width=1670&format=png&auto=webp&s=da9a56556c3a9dad885cdb61c8a775eb91a04c64

Now in this screenshot you can fully see the wpf application chat interface which I have to link with the python interface such that:
1.Python interface and terminal are hidden
  1. When I click the send message in wpf, it should take the text from the textbox and run it in the python script's interface (Run Command which i showed u in previous screenshot).
  2. When I click the microphone button in the wpf, it should run the functionality of "Voice Command" (which i showed you in previous screenshot)
  3. The finally the responses which i get from python should be shown in the wpf chat ui.
https://preview.redd.it/chelhul51f4b1.png?width=1557&format=png&auto=webp&s=6a3b84792bd3bee50fbeec70d21dc137057d42e4


What I tried: I only tried one thing and gave up after that because I realized the complexity.
  1. First I removed the python interface completely
  2. Then I used IPC named pipes to send message to python (from the textbox in wpf chat) as client side
  3. Then as the server side (python script), i used connect to named pipe to receive the message and treated it as a command and wrote a handle_command function
But nothing is working, getting errors and stuff. I haven't slept in 2 days. I can't be asked anymore. Please help me. I don't care if you use named pipes or whatever other method. But I just want it to work.
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2023.06.06 17:31 Narender_moody BluSmart app is a scam and needs serious regulation

To begin with , I loved the Idea of a app with trained professional drivers with eco friendly cars.
The problem ? Their ridiculous app and backend policies.
Problem 1: If you book a ride , you HAVE to first transfer money to their wallet. No other way.
Problem 2: As per their rules, if you send money to their wallet , it can’t be sent back to ur source account. No matter how bad they screw up.
Problem 3: If you try to book a ride and THEIR backend delays the payment, you’re stuck cause your booking gets cancelled and you can’t ask for your money back from the wallet courtesy of problem 2.
Problem 4: Their customer care just knows to copy paste 3-4 pre written texts and won’t bother to listen to u in the first place.
Problem 5 : if you book a ride and cancel it even after 10 sec, they add cancellation charge + whatever extra promo they gave also from their wallet from which you can take your money back.
If you feel their dumb policies need to be brought to light , just spread this around.
Basically I’m stuck without a cab, my money is stuck in a pointless app and the customer care can go @!$% themselves. Tried to book another cab for later cuz my money is stuck anyway , cancel it and behold they screw me over again. These apps need some serious regulation.
Rant over.
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2023.06.06 17:31 Kadkata_the_Great Tips on climbing with Gwen and her role in the team.

https://u.gg/lol/profile/eun1/lmperatooverview
Hello, I am a Gwen main that recently hit Masters for first time playing on a 10 years old forgotten by the MMR gods account with abysmal LP win-lose ratio bringing it up from Bronze to Masters in 457 games with 57% WR overall and 62% WR on Gwen from 301 games. This post has few purposes:

BAD takes that you should not follow

Key concepts that you have to understand to make this playstyle work for you

Tricks that you might or might not be aware of:

Build

CORE ITEMS:

Riftmaker

Nashor's Tooth

Rabadon's Deathcap

I build in this order in >90% of my games. Go Nashor first if splitpushing is going to be completely uncontested. Start Doran's Ring unless its against a lot of poke in which case go Doran's Shield. Do not buy HP Pots, only buy refillable.

FOLLOW UP OPTIONS:

Cosmic Drive Good AP, CDR, speed. Frequent build after Rabadon.
Void Staff When more than a few enemies have MR items. Overall increses damage. %pen is strong. Frequent build after Rabadon.
Lich Bane Good for faster splitpushing or nuking their squishies with E->AUTO. I recommend as last buy or sell boots to buy this when you have enough gold at full build.
Shadowflame vs frequent shielding and squishier teams. Good AP ammount and pen. I would buy this against a fed ADC with enchanter support.
Zhonya's Hourglass vs fed AD assassins or generally AD heavy teams.
Morellonomicon vs teams with a lot of healing. I never build this.
Thornmail vs AD heavy teams that also have a lot of healing. Occassional purchase.
Randuin's Omen vs teams that have a lot of damage from critical strikes. Example: Yone top, Yasuo mid and Draven ADC.
Spirit Visage vs teams with a lot of AP damage and prolonged fights. I do not build.
Force of Nature vs teams with a lot of AP damage. Generally better than Spirit Visage.
Abyssal Mask Great cheap item vs a lot of AP damage and when you have 2-3 AP on yours.
There are other items that could work like Wit's End or Death's Dance but it is extremely rare that it would be a better choice than any of the items above.

BOOTS:

I have bought all boots on Gwen except mobility boots. It is very dependant on enemy champions and how ahead I am. Usually I buy Mercs into a lot of CC, Steelcaps into AD heavy teams and Lucidity boots if I am very ahead.

RUNES AND SUMMONER SPELLS:

These runes will be most useful to you in majority of games. Swap armor and MR runes depending on your matchup. Go Second Wind instead of Conditioning vs poke matchups like Teemo or Gangplank. I like to pick Bone Plating against burst champions like Pantheon or Renekton. I climbed from Bronze to Diamond without Demolish, but my climb would have been way easier if I went Demolish instead of Unflinching due to the extra plates it can secure. I take it every game now. Presence of Mind is unnecessary and Triumph enables you to fight multiple enemies easier. It also gives you 20g per takedown extra which at the end of the game if you had 15 takedowns ends up being 300g. In my many games playing Gwen I can recall only a few times I wished I got Presence of Mind over Triumph. If you are nearing 0 mana then shove wave and walk up in river to get green slime plant.
Teleport is too useful not to take every game. For second spell I go Ignite for most games. Take Ghost if the kill pressure on lane is small AND the rest of their team is very mobile/ranged, for example a Malphite top lane with Kalista Rakan botlane, Azir mid and Hecarim jungle. That is a comp that you pick Ghost against. If the enemy team doesn't have a lot of mobility or you have easy lane on top then you should take Ignite. Makes tower dives much easier.

NOTES:

I cheese my games. I play around my enemy's mental and abuse Gwen's strengths. The account I played on was hardstuck Gold for many seasons, sometimes ending in Silver. My mental is not strong, I ran it down many times out of spite towards a teammate. My average vision score is 2x lower than that of an average Iron player. Despite all this my climb was steady with the exception of spending a decent ammount of time and games in D1, because I relaxed too much in my games. My point is that if I manage to climb like this, so can you. Just follow the template each game:
If I think of something else I will add it in an edit.
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2023.06.06 17:31 spicyspirit444 Woman keeps putting off my interview/rescheduling it?

I applied for this job the day it was posted to Indeed, then called & asked if I could come in & fill out a paper application. This is my usual strategy when I really want a position.
I was informed there was no paper app, because the building is still being built, but that some staff are already meeting/training at another location. Cool.
During the phone call, we set an interview for 2 days later. I was absolutely thrilled.
Until about 10 minutes after the call, when she texted that she was actually way too busy, & would have to set our interview for.. 2 & a half weeks from now?? I already knew something was up.
Anyway, I continued my job search, & about 3 days before my interview, I texted to reconfirm my interview. Glad I did, because she responded “oh, yeah, the positions still open but” (according to her) she had me written down for that Thursday instead of Monday, which she said was her bad, reviewing our text messages. She was going to be out of town till then. Ooookay. Only a couple more days no biggie, but clearly she’s a mess.
A couple days later, 3 days before my interview, she texts AGAIN. “Sorry to keep putting you off” ya I don’t think you are. “I’m headed back to town tomorrow & my day is already sooo full of issues, (ok dramatic) can we meet a couple days more late?” I haven’t responded, I don’t plan to.
💀 this shit has been wild. I considered the fact I have some experience with costumer service, but not in this field & I’d have to learn a bit about sales. It’s a sauna using LED technology, so like any basic spa/sauna reception/sales position. But I’ve run a store before so, I can learn.
I’d understand if there were more qualified applicants, however I was passionate & had a bit of knowledge/interest about the job from personal experience. Essentially, I’m already a costumer & know a bit about the technology.
Why would someone post a job application & then not have a single time slot in over 2 weeks for an interview? Either someone is doing interviews, just not mine, or this woman has no clue what she’s doing.
Which also wouldn’t be shocking, considering she keeps being soo busy she has to reschedule my interview 3/4 times. I’ve never met someone so busy.
I’d consider it’s a new business but I think more likely this woman is just completely unorganized or playing a game with me. It’s clear I’m not a highly valued candidate which I understand but I’m definitely not giving this woman the idea my time is just up to how she feels that day.
I am a bit bummed as I was pretty excited for the job. Anyway, anyone have any ideas for what this lady is on? I’d love to know, lmao.
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2023.06.06 17:31 singinKid Question on targeting graveyard

I'm building a [[Codie, Vociferous Codex]] and [[Hypergenesis]] cheese deck. My question is if I activate Codie, then cast [[Witness The Future]] can I name an illegal target like Hypergenesis before its in my graveyard. My hope is after casting wtf codie triggers, I dig and cast Hypergenesis, once resolved wtf sends hyper back into my library. Is that a thing? Or will wtf just cause the shuffle and reveal 4 pick a card effect.
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2023.06.06 17:30 Invy_Dexter My friend ( F19 ) started ghosting me ( M18) for no reasons.

We were online friends, primarily communicating through sharing reels and memes ( pichle 7 months se dost the). She even added me to her close friend list, and everything seemed to be going well. However, this morning, after a conversation, she blocked me on Telegram, Twitter, and Instagram. She even deleted the chats for everyone in our Telegram group. I had created a group on Telegram where I used to share all the study materials, but she also left the group. When I asked her why she blocked me through my second account, she blocked me there as well. I just don't know why she blocked me, but this morning she said " mera bura phase chal rha hai ". I never disrespected her, always spoke to her politely, respected her need for privacy, and never bombarded her with excessive texts. I would only reach out for 5-10 minutes every other day. I consistently tried to help her and she was the only person I trusted enough to share my problems with. It's devastating that she has chosen to distance herself from me, and I am feeling utterly broken right now. I genuinely need your help and support.
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2023.06.06 17:30 1realHan Me [23M] talked to my (idk ex?) Gf [20F] about last chance

Hi everyone, I'm not really good at writing so I apologise in advance.
I have been in a relationship LDR for 2 years now and everything was good until last 4months. Background about us: we are from different cultures tho we agree on a lot of things. She knows I don't like girls with best guy friend or a lot of guy friends around. She isn't that type or at least wasn't and we even talked about it.
4 months ago she started playing with 2 guys she met online in a game it wasn't much until one day I found out that she lied about going to sleep when she was actually playing with them "weird but she said she would focus and embarrassed to text after it's late" I confronted her and we went pass that.
She started playing with them more and more calling and playing almost everyday. I talked to her that it's getting too much specially she talk with one of them more. She said we just friends and thar kind of talk.
We had a little fight but we went through. Then she started delaying our stuff to play with them or even sometimes forgot about out plans while playing. We had a big fight and I told her texting a guy online everyday calling and texting a lot is too much she agreed and said yeah not respectful since she is in a relationship. Ofc every time we fight so I can make her actually talk about the problems otherwise she just avoid.
Then next week kinda after that big fight she slept accidentally on a weekend we were supposed to call. Next day apologised and we wanted to make it out that day. So night come and she is on her friend's stream watching him and texting while I'm waiting to call.
I got so annoyed to be honest and talked to her at the time that it's not right how she is prioritising him/ them. We broke up/she wanted space because we have been fighting a lot. During that space she was mostly online playing with him mostly. During that month I texted her sometimes to fix things but she is avoiding ofc. We called one day and I got that they have now group on snapchat not just discord anymore and she text that guy like way before and call with him one on one till late night "playing".
We had some fighting I managed to in a way now we talked today that I want to fix this and let's work on it even though she says she doesn't know how we can fix it. We called she cried ofc and I tried to be as calm as possible not asking or talking about that.
So now I'm planning when she stop thar annoying avoiding to talk and if she doesn't cut it off with boundaries I will be the one who leaves.( kinda I want a real closure that she really doesn't give a shit not that there's some mistakes.) She didn't give closure when she broke up so that's probably why I want this. Don't get me wrong I really want it to work I still love her but she treated me bad and its all around this guy. Not like I have problems with her having a guy friend because she actually have but not that close so fast to a point she talked to him after we broke up tell him that she was sad "her excuse was her irl friends don't know about us and he knows".
I'm overthinking and I don't know what's going on I know I'm trying hard to make it work. I'm not stupid but I just don't want to give up because I believe that she just in her first real relationship and she is dumb with it. So please be harsh I don't care. What you thinking. I'm not gonna text her tomorrow and will see if she gonna initiate for the first time in months.
If you got to here thank you for reading..
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