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2023.06.06 18:41 LRL4150 Frustrated by my (23F) soon-to-be unemployed boyfriend’s (29M) lack of motivation to find a job. Feels like I’m dating a man-child.
Some background on us: Been together for two years. Just moved in together last month, at his request. We have a very happy, healthy relationship besides this issue, which is progressively deteriorating my opinion/attraction towards him.
Some background on him: Joined the military right out of high school. Worked as an IT tech there for 8 years before getting out and moving back home. After he got out, he used the GI Bill to work towards his bachelor’s degree in MIS while the VA gave him a monthly stipend to cover all of his housing expenses. He drove for Uber Eats for extra cash before starting to work at a coffee shop, which is his first “real-world” job. He’s worked there for almost two years and is now a general manager. He works 50+ hours a week, which has taken a toll on him and is the reason why he quit a few weeks ago, but he agreed to continue working there until the end of June. He also took the semester off from school this summer. Because he took the semester off, he will not receive a housing stipend from the VA until he starts attending school again, meaning, as of last week, he’s been responsible for his full half of rent/utilities at our new (and quite expensive) apartment.
I’m frustrated because he suddenly quit this job with no back-up plan and after already deciding to take the semester off of school, meaning he’ll be unemployed in the matter of a few weeks and won’t be receiving any sort of financial assistance from the VA.
I completely revamped his resume and have picked out a handful of jobs to help him get started on the job-searching process, but he’s shown no interest. He’s applied to one job so far. He’s confident that he’ll be able to secure a remote, well-paying IT job in the next 3 weeks. I told him that the job market, ESPECIALLY for IT jobs and remote jobs, is horrendous right now and he’ll be lucky if his application is even looked at by a recruiter in the next few weeks, let alone go through the whole phone screening/multi-interview/offeonboarding process.
I just went through this whole process myself and he’s aware of this. It took me six months of nonstop job-searching and hundreds of applications to find an entry-level job in my field (healthcare) that still doesn’t pay even a fraction of what he’s expecting he’ll make.
I don’t think he’s depressed. He doesn’t seem depressed, but I know that that’s not always a good indicator. I don’t think he’s nervous or insecure. He’s a very confident person and is very good with people. He said he’s confident that he’ll be able to do well in interviews (even though he’s only ever done one low-stakes coffee shop interview in his entire life).
Last week, he mentioned that he’ll just start driving for Uber Eats again if he can’t find something. Didn’t specify for how long, or what the plan was after that, if there even is a plan after that. He’s also (semi-jokingly) mentioned asking his mom for a Salesforce (where she works) job if it comes down to it. But even then, I don’t think he realizes that connections aren’t everything, that Salesforce is a giant company that will absolutely be hard to get into, and that his mom has 30+ years of experience and two degrees under her belt that landed her that job. He hasn’t even graduated from undergrad and has only had one real-world job that isn’t even related to IT or Salesforce.
At this point, I don’t know whether he’s delusional, overly confident, or just unmotivated/lazy. I try to cut him slack because he works so many hours a week, but it’s so frustrating when he comes home from work and immediately cracks open a beer or pops an edible and starts watching TV or playing video games, rather than taking any sort of initiative towards this major, impending issue that’s only a mere few weeks away.
Another extremely concerning thing: last week, he, again half-seriously, said I should just started applying to jobs for him.
Prior to him saying that, I actually considered it just because I’m getting so annoyed about him not doing it himself. But hearing him ACTUALLY suggest it made me want to gag. I immediately put my foot down and said “Absolutely not.”
As for how he plans on paying for his share of expenses now that we’re living together, he’s said (in passing) that he has enough in savings. This is another thing that has concerned me over the course of our relationship: this savings account was set up for him while he was in the military and part of his paychecks were automatically deposited in it. When we first started dating, he (allegedly) had $27k saved up (he told me this when he was drunk and talking about how big of a diamond ring he could buy me when he proposes, so not sure if there’s any merit to that number or if he was just trying to impress me). But since then, for the past two years, he’s been saying he has no idea how much money is in there and that he needs to figure out how to log in and check. Last month, a statement was lying out in the open on the counter that said he now only has $13k. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t contribute any of his current paychecks towards his savings, and he’s said multiple times that he automatically pays off his credit cards with that account every month. This concerns me because he’s treating it like a checking account, rather than a savings account for future/emergency expenses, which is clearly the case since it’s dwindled down that much over the past two years. And now he’s planning on paying for all of his living expenses with it for the foreseeable future. I have no idea what he plans on doing if it ends up taking months to find a job (a very real possibility) and he ends up blowing through this account.
All of this—-having no plan for the future, no career prospects or even desire to have a career (not just drive for Uber Eats) despite working towards a degree, taking a semester off while acknowledging that he may “not have the motivation” to go back, and draining his savings account/not having good financial planning skills—-all at the age of almost 30 has me seriously reconsidering whether I feel secure continuing a relationship with him. It’s killed my mental attraction towards him because I now see him as someone who needs to be taken care of, rather than someone who’s my equal.
How do I say all of this to him without hurting his feelings?
Tl;dr My boyfriend abruptly quit his job with no plan for the future. Has no interest in applying to jobs, feels confident that he’ll land his ideal job in only a few weeks. Suggested that I apply to jobs for him. Generally has poor financial planning skills.
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Some background on him: Joined the military right out of high school. Worked as an IT tech there for 8 years before getting out and moving back home. After he got out, he used the GI Bill to work towards his bachelor’s degree in MIS while the VA gave him a monthly stipend to cover all of his housing expenses. He drove for Uber Eats for extra cash before starting to work at a coffee shop, which is his first “real-world” job. He’s worked there for almost two years and is now a general manager. He works 50+ hours a week, which has taken a toll on him and is the reason why he quit a few weeks ago, but he agreed to continue working there until the end of June. He also took the semester off from school this summer. Because he took the semester off, he will not receive a housing stipend from the VA until he starts attending school again, meaning, as of last week, he’s been responsible for his full half of rent/utilities at our new (and quite expensive) apartment.
I’m frustrated because he suddenly quit this job with no back-up plan and after already deciding to take the semester off of school, meaning he’ll be unemployed in the matter of a few weeks and won’t be receiving any sort of financial assistance from the VA.
I completely revamped his resume and have picked out a handful of jobs to help him get started on the job-searching process, but he’s shown no interest. He’s applied to one job so far. He’s confident that he’ll be able to secure a remote, well-paying IT job in the next 3 weeks. I told him that the job market, ESPECIALLY for IT jobs and remote jobs, is horrendous right now and he’ll be lucky if his application is even looked at by a recruiter in the next few weeks, let alone go through the whole phone screening/multi-interview/offeonboarding process.
I just went through this whole process myself and he’s aware of this. It took me six months of nonstop job-searching and hundreds of applications to find an entry-level job in my field (healthcare) that still doesn’t pay even a fraction of what he’s expecting he’ll make.
I don’t think he’s depressed. He doesn’t seem depressed, but I know that that’s not always a good indicator. I don’t think he’s nervous or insecure. He’s a very confident person and is very good with people. He said he’s confident that he’ll be able to do well in interviews (even though he’s only ever done one low-stakes coffee shop interview in his entire life).
Last week, he mentioned that he’ll just start driving for Uber Eats again if he can’t find something. Didn’t specify for how long, or what the plan was after that, if there even is a plan after that. He’s also (semi-jokingly) mentioned asking his mom for a Salesforce (where she works) job if it comes down to it. But even then, I don’t think he realizes that connections aren’t everything, that Salesforce is a giant company that will absolutely be hard to get into, and that his mom has 30+ years of experience and two degrees under her belt that landed her that job. He hasn’t even graduated from undergrad and has only had one real-world job that isn’t even related to IT or Salesforce.
At this point, I don’t know whether he’s delusional, overly confident, or just unmotivated/lazy. I try to cut him slack because he works so many hours a week, but it’s so frustrating when he comes home from work and immediately cracks open a beer or pops an edible and starts watching TV or playing video games, rather than taking any sort of initiative towards this major, impending issue that’s only a mere few weeks away.
Another extremely concerning thing: last week, he, again half-seriously, said I should just started applying to jobs for him.
Prior to him saying that, I actually considered it just because I’m getting so annoyed about him not doing it himself. But hearing him ACTUALLY suggest it made me want to gag. I immediately put my foot down and said “Absolutely not.”
As for how he plans on paying for his share of expenses now that we’re living together, he’s said (in passing) that he has enough in savings. This is another thing that has concerned me over the course of our relationship: this savings account was set up for him while he was in the military and part of his paychecks were automatically deposited in it. When we first started dating, he (allegedly) had $27k saved up (he told me this when he was drunk and talking about how big of a diamond ring he could buy me when he proposes, so not sure if there’s any merit to that number or if he was just trying to impress me). But since then, for the past two years, he’s been saying he has no idea how much money is in there and that he needs to figure out how to log in and check. Last month, a statement was lying out in the open on the counter that said he now only has $13k. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t contribute any of his current paychecks towards his savings, and he’s said multiple times that he automatically pays off his credit cards with that account every month. This concerns me because he’s treating it like a checking account, rather than a savings account for future/emergency expenses, which is clearly the case since it’s dwindled down that much over the past two years. And now he’s planning on paying for all of his living expenses with it for the foreseeable future. I have no idea what he plans on doing if it ends up taking months to find a job (a very real possibility) and he ends up blowing through this account.
All of this—-having no plan for the future, no career prospects or even desire to have a career (not just drive for Uber Eats) despite working towards a degree, taking a semester off while acknowledging that he may “not have the motivation” to go back, and draining his savings account/not having good financial planning skills—-all at the age of almost 30 has me seriously reconsidering whether I feel secure continuing a relationship with him. It’s killed my mental attraction towards him because I now see him as someone who needs to be taken care of, rather than someone who’s my equal.
How do I say all of this to him without hurting his feelings?
Tl;dr My boyfriend abruptly quit his job with no plan for the future. Has no interest in applying to jobs, feels confident that he’ll land his ideal job in only a few weeks. Suggested that I apply to jobs for him. Generally has poor financial planning skills.
2023.06.06 18:41 theotherjenny I (56f) found a woman’s top that isn’t mine in my husband’s (57m) laundry
Help, I think I’m losing it. We are both on our second marriage and have been together 4 years. We live with his 22yo son, who hasn’t had any girls over in months and claims no knowledge of the top.
I honestly don’t know how he’d have time to cheat. He comes straight home and we spend all our time together. He also works in a 99% male industry. He is by all accounts a good man and we have what I would say is an excellent relationship; good communication, and disagreements are quickly resolved. We’ve built a great life and he says he is happy. He’s affectionate and dotes on me, so I feel like an asshole for even thinking it.
Important note: I am easily triggered by the idea of cheating and I work very hard on this in therapy. Lots of betrayal in my life — so much so that I can no longer assess what to worry about and what not to. But I bend over backwards so he isn’t punished for others’ actions. I love him so much and he doesn’t deserve that.
I did ask him and he calmly said he didn’t know, staying calm even when I pressed a little. So am I overthinking here? What’s up with that shirt? How would it find its way into our home? I desperately need some perspective please!
I am on mobile so apologies for any formatting errors.
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I honestly don’t know how he’d have time to cheat. He comes straight home and we spend all our time together. He also works in a 99% male industry. He is by all accounts a good man and we have what I would say is an excellent relationship; good communication, and disagreements are quickly resolved. We’ve built a great life and he says he is happy. He’s affectionate and dotes on me, so I feel like an asshole for even thinking it.
Important note: I am easily triggered by the idea of cheating and I work very hard on this in therapy. Lots of betrayal in my life — so much so that I can no longer assess what to worry about and what not to. But I bend over backwards so he isn’t punished for others’ actions. I love him so much and he doesn’t deserve that.
I did ask him and he calmly said he didn’t know, staying calm even when I pressed a little. So am I overthinking here? What’s up with that shirt? How would it find its way into our home? I desperately need some perspective please!
I am on mobile so apologies for any formatting errors.
2023.06.06 18:40 SpiritedAccess3519 I don't recognize myself anymore
This is long and rambley, it's more meant as a diary entry, but if I write this is my own personal diary then no one ever sees, no one perceives it, even if no one reads this post I know it is out there.
I was given full unmoderated access to the internet at ~age 5-7, my mother was emotionally unavailable and at times would entirely ignore me, my dad works two jobs, my parents were hoarders so I never had anyone besides my immediate family and pets in my house, I didn't really have friends at school, and being part of a religion that my community didn't like, I was not allowed to play with any kids in my neighbourhood. I obviously clung to the internet as my only source of social interaction as a lot of people did. I built up a version of myself that is similar to me, yes, but it isn't actually me. I became chronically ill a couple years ago, and I was forced to switch to online schooling and I think that was one of the worst things to happen to me. I haven't left my house for any reason other than doctor appointments in months. I don't have any reason to. All of my friends are online, I live in a small town with nothing to do, I can't go on long walks, and I don't go to school in person. It's at a point now where I cannot process my day-day life. School no longer exists in my mind, daily activities like basic hygiene and chores no longer exist in my mind, I don't even have a concept of time anymore, it still feels like January to me. I'm so far behind in my classes that I don't even know what we're doing anymore, I haven't opened my school website in at least 2 months, and it's not even a matter of "trying harder", it physically does not exist in my mind anymore, I genuinely believe I am no longer a high school student on any given day. I am diagnosed with autism, ADHD, depression, and OSDD (otherwise specified dissociative disorder). I can exist in the moment, I love being alive and I love my body and I love nature and I'm a generally optimistic person. I don't hate my life, I just don't experience it any more. I feel like I'm simultaneously 5 steps ahead of where I should be and 5 steps behind. I'm fully aware that I'm laying in bed typing away on my phone, but what I was doing before this exact second and what I will be doing after this is not there, I have no concept of anything except for this exact moment. My bedroom is hoarding level messy, I brush my teeth maybe once a week, I don't remember the last time I did laundry. But I'm my mind I am a productive and put-together person. I genuinely feel like it's been the same day for months. at the back of my mind I know exactly how to fix this, I need a job and I need structure. I need to drop out and restart at a later point in time but I can't. I can't even ask for help because the version of me that talks to other people is not ME. I have a therapist, I have access to everything to help me but I don't need my current situation to be fixed, I need a NEW SITUATION. I don't know who I am and no matter how much people try to help resurface the "real" me it doesn't fucking work, it's not going to work I'm not real I exist in a vacuum. Every few months I come to this realization and I'm convinced that "today is the day! I'm going to clean my room and do my school work" but the moment passes and I am once again unaware of any moment except right fucking now. I hate seeing myself in photos, hearing stories about myself, being talked about or in any way being perceived by others because it's not me, I don't know what I am in any concept except my own perception. It's like hearing about a person that I don't know except everyone is convinced that they are me. I'm not suicidal and I don't intentionally self harm (nor do I ever feel the need to), but I am planning on abandoning everything, my family, my home down, dropping out of school, l any and all technology and completely cutting "myself" off from my current life just to restart. Once I establish stability and no one around me has already perceived the old version of me I know I will be okay. But right know I feel like I'm in purgatory.
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I was given full unmoderated access to the internet at ~age 5-7, my mother was emotionally unavailable and at times would entirely ignore me, my dad works two jobs, my parents were hoarders so I never had anyone besides my immediate family and pets in my house, I didn't really have friends at school, and being part of a religion that my community didn't like, I was not allowed to play with any kids in my neighbourhood. I obviously clung to the internet as my only source of social interaction as a lot of people did. I built up a version of myself that is similar to me, yes, but it isn't actually me. I became chronically ill a couple years ago, and I was forced to switch to online schooling and I think that was one of the worst things to happen to me. I haven't left my house for any reason other than doctor appointments in months. I don't have any reason to. All of my friends are online, I live in a small town with nothing to do, I can't go on long walks, and I don't go to school in person. It's at a point now where I cannot process my day-day life. School no longer exists in my mind, daily activities like basic hygiene and chores no longer exist in my mind, I don't even have a concept of time anymore, it still feels like January to me. I'm so far behind in my classes that I don't even know what we're doing anymore, I haven't opened my school website in at least 2 months, and it's not even a matter of "trying harder", it physically does not exist in my mind anymore, I genuinely believe I am no longer a high school student on any given day. I am diagnosed with autism, ADHD, depression, and OSDD (otherwise specified dissociative disorder). I can exist in the moment, I love being alive and I love my body and I love nature and I'm a generally optimistic person. I don't hate my life, I just don't experience it any more. I feel like I'm simultaneously 5 steps ahead of where I should be and 5 steps behind. I'm fully aware that I'm laying in bed typing away on my phone, but what I was doing before this exact second and what I will be doing after this is not there, I have no concept of anything except for this exact moment. My bedroom is hoarding level messy, I brush my teeth maybe once a week, I don't remember the last time I did laundry. But I'm my mind I am a productive and put-together person. I genuinely feel like it's been the same day for months. at the back of my mind I know exactly how to fix this, I need a job and I need structure. I need to drop out and restart at a later point in time but I can't. I can't even ask for help because the version of me that talks to other people is not ME. I have a therapist, I have access to everything to help me but I don't need my current situation to be fixed, I need a NEW SITUATION. I don't know who I am and no matter how much people try to help resurface the "real" me it doesn't fucking work, it's not going to work I'm not real I exist in a vacuum. Every few months I come to this realization and I'm convinced that "today is the day! I'm going to clean my room and do my school work" but the moment passes and I am once again unaware of any moment except right fucking now. I hate seeing myself in photos, hearing stories about myself, being talked about or in any way being perceived by others because it's not me, I don't know what I am in any concept except my own perception. It's like hearing about a person that I don't know except everyone is convinced that they are me. I'm not suicidal and I don't intentionally self harm (nor do I ever feel the need to), but I am planning on abandoning everything, my family, my home down, dropping out of school, l any and all technology and completely cutting "myself" off from my current life just to restart. Once I establish stability and no one around me has already perceived the old version of me I know I will be okay. But right know I feel like I'm in purgatory.
2023.06.06 18:40 RyanOskey229 if you have no budget, here's some ideas
A rising trend among younger generations has emerged, particularly millennials and Gen Z.
It’s the increased humanization, or anthropomorphism, of pets.
This generation often sees their pets not just as animals, but as members of their families. With this mindset, they are increasingly focused on their pets' overall well-being, as-well as seeking high-quality, organic, and sustainably sourced pet food and other wellness products and services.
Millenials and Gen Z’s commitment to social and environmental causes further bolsters their willingness to pay more for products and services that align with these principles.
This cultural shift presents a multitude of opportunities for businesses in the Animal Wellness sector, particularly those that can meet these evolving consumer demands.
Additionally, society's growing awareness of animal emotions and cognitive abilities, further augmented by the humanization of pets, has led to extraordinary growth in the sustainable wellness industry for animals.
The demand for premium pet care products and services, which ensure not just physical, but also mental and emotional well-being of pets, is growing at an unprecedented rate. As research in animal psychology continues to enhance our understanding of animal emotions and cognition, the need for pet care products and services that address these aspects is also on the rise.
The convergence of these factors makes the present moment an ideal time for businesses to tap into this expanding market.
Heavily researched business ideas for people with no budget are sent out every Sunday right here, but all points are included below for Reddit discussion as well.
Industry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals
Problem: With the growing interest in sustainable and holistic wellness for pets, there is a gap in the market for an easily accessible, centralized platform offering tailored advice, resources, and products related to sustainable pet care and wellness. It can be a challenge for pet owners to identify appropriate resources, vetted products, and connect with experts who share a similar sustainable and wellness-focused ethos. There is also a lack of platforms that utilize AI to personalize pet wellness recommendations.
Solution: Pet Nurturer is a digital platform that offers personalized, AI-driven sustainable wellness recommendations for pets. Utilizing GPT-4 AI, the platform learns about each pet's specific needs, preferences, and health history to curate tailored advice, educational content, and product recommendations. This could include advice on diet, exercise, mental health, preventive care, and even guidance on how to deal with common pet health issues using sustainable practices.
Competitive Advantage: Unlike existing platforms, Pet Nurturer's unique selling proposition is its AI-driven personalization, focus on sustainability, and aggregation of resources. By harnessing the power of GPT-4, Pet Nurturer can offer a far more personalized and interactive user experience than competitors. It will focus on curating sustainably sourced and manufactured pet products, vetted by a team of animal wellness experts, distinguishing itself as a truly eco-friendly pet wellness platform.
Monetization: Pet Nurturer can generate revenue through several channels. Firstly, a freemium model could be introduced where basic features are free, and premium features are unlocked with a subscription. Secondly, affiliate marketing can be a source of income - when users purchase recommended products through the platform, Pet Nurturer earns a commission. Finally, Pet Nurturer could collaborate with sustainable pet product brands for sponsored listings and advertisements on the platform.
Viral Social Media Strategy: Pet Nurturer's social media strategy will leverage engaging, shareable content to drive brand awareness and customer acquisition. User-generated content will be at the forefront of this strategy - encouraging customers to share their pet wellness journey, transformations, and successes using a unique hashtag. Regular contests and challenges can be launched with sustainable pet product giveaways to boost engagement and shares. Additionally, educational content on pet wellness, sustainability, and product highlights can be shared in a visually appealing manner to further engage followers.
Industry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals
Problem: Despite the growing trend of pet humanization and the increasing awareness of sustainability, there's a lack of convenient, curated solutions that allow pet owners to access sustainable and wellness-focused products. Pet owners often have to navigate multiple online stores or physical outlets to find quality, eco-friendly products, which is time-consuming and often confusing.
Solution: Eco-PetBox is a subscription-based service that curates and delivers boxes filled with eco-friendly, wellness-focused pet products right to your doorstep. Each box is tailored to the pet's type (dog, cat, etc.), size, and any specific dietary or wellness needs. The boxes can include sustainable pet food and treats, toys, health supplements, grooming supplies, and even wellness accessories like calming pet beds or anxiety wraps.
Competitive Advantage: What sets Eco-PetBox apart from other pet subscription services is its focus on sustainable and wellness-oriented products. Every product in the box is vetted for its eco-friendliness and contribution to pet wellness. The convenience of having a curated selection of products delivered to their doorstep each month will appeal to busy pet owners who care about both their pet's health and the environment.
Monetization: Eco-PetBox operates on a subscription model, with customers paying a monthly fee for their custom box of pet products. There can also be premium subscription options that offer additional benefits, such as access to expert advice, larger product selection, or faster delivery. Another potential source of revenue could be partnerships with sustainable pet product companies that wish to feature their products in the box.
Viral Social Media Strategy: To spread awareness and create a buzz around Eco-PetBox, a strong social media campaign centered around unboxing experiences can be initiated. Encouraging subscribers to share their unboxing experiences, review products, and showcase their pets enjoying the products can create authentic and engaging content. Special promotions, giveaways, and contests can also be launched to encourage sharing and tagging. Sharing stories highlighting the sustainable impact of the products in the box can resonate with eco-conscious pet owners and further drive shares and engagement.
Industry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals, Pet Tech
Problem: As pet obesity becomes a growing issue worldwide, pet owners are looking for ways to monitor and improve their pets' health and fitness. However, solutions for pet fitness tracking are still quite limited, especially for non-dog pets.
Solution: PetFit Tracker is a wearable pet fitness tracker designed for all types of pets – not just dogs. The device tracks various data such as physical activity, sleep patterns, calories burned, and more. The data is synced with a user-friendly mobile app where pet owners can analyze their pets' health and fitness progress, set goals, and receive personalized recommendations for improving their pets' wellness.
Competitive Advantage: PetFit Tracker's main competitive advantage lies in its inclusivity for all types of pets, making it stand out in a market heavily focused on dogs. Furthermore, integrating the device with the latest AI technology, such as the GPT-4 API, can provide unique personalized insights for pet owners based on their pets' data. For instance, the AI could analyze a pet’s activity patterns and provide customized exercise or diet recommendations, detect any unusual patterns that might signal a health issue, or even provide reminders for preventative care measures.
Monetization: The primary revenue stream would be the sale of the PetFit Tracker devices. An additional recurring revenue model could be established through a premium subscription for the mobile app, which offers advanced features and more in-depth insights. Collaborations with pet wellness brands for product recommendations could provide affiliate marketing income.
Viral Social Media Strategy: User-generated content will play a big role in the social media strategy. Pet owners could be encouraged to share their pets' fitness achievements, fun moments caught by the tracker, or transformations powered by the device. These stories can be shared on the company's social media platforms, creating an engaging community of health-conscious pet owners. Additionally, collaborations with pet influencers and partnerships with animal welfare organizations could further increase brand visibility and credibility.
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It’s the increased humanization, or anthropomorphism, of pets.
This generation often sees their pets not just as animals, but as members of their families. With this mindset, they are increasingly focused on their pets' overall well-being, as-well as seeking high-quality, organic, and sustainably sourced pet food and other wellness products and services.
Millenials and Gen Z’s commitment to social and environmental causes further bolsters their willingness to pay more for products and services that align with these principles.
This cultural shift presents a multitude of opportunities for businesses in the Animal Wellness sector, particularly those that can meet these evolving consumer demands.
Additionally, society's growing awareness of animal emotions and cognitive abilities, further augmented by the humanization of pets, has led to extraordinary growth in the sustainable wellness industry for animals.
The demand for premium pet care products and services, which ensure not just physical, but also mental and emotional well-being of pets, is growing at an unprecedented rate. As research in animal psychology continues to enhance our understanding of animal emotions and cognition, the need for pet care products and services that address these aspects is also on the rise.
The convergence of these factors makes the present moment an ideal time for businesses to tap into this expanding market.
Heavily researched business ideas for people with no budget are sent out every Sunday right here, but all points are included below for Reddit discussion as well.
Business Idea #1
Name: Pet NurturerIndustry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals
Problem: With the growing interest in sustainable and holistic wellness for pets, there is a gap in the market for an easily accessible, centralized platform offering tailored advice, resources, and products related to sustainable pet care and wellness. It can be a challenge for pet owners to identify appropriate resources, vetted products, and connect with experts who share a similar sustainable and wellness-focused ethos. There is also a lack of platforms that utilize AI to personalize pet wellness recommendations.
Solution: Pet Nurturer is a digital platform that offers personalized, AI-driven sustainable wellness recommendations for pets. Utilizing GPT-4 AI, the platform learns about each pet's specific needs, preferences, and health history to curate tailored advice, educational content, and product recommendations. This could include advice on diet, exercise, mental health, preventive care, and even guidance on how to deal with common pet health issues using sustainable practices.
Competitive Advantage: Unlike existing platforms, Pet Nurturer's unique selling proposition is its AI-driven personalization, focus on sustainability, and aggregation of resources. By harnessing the power of GPT-4, Pet Nurturer can offer a far more personalized and interactive user experience than competitors. It will focus on curating sustainably sourced and manufactured pet products, vetted by a team of animal wellness experts, distinguishing itself as a truly eco-friendly pet wellness platform.
Monetization: Pet Nurturer can generate revenue through several channels. Firstly, a freemium model could be introduced where basic features are free, and premium features are unlocked with a subscription. Secondly, affiliate marketing can be a source of income - when users purchase recommended products through the platform, Pet Nurturer earns a commission. Finally, Pet Nurturer could collaborate with sustainable pet product brands for sponsored listings and advertisements on the platform.
Viral Social Media Strategy: Pet Nurturer's social media strategy will leverage engaging, shareable content to drive brand awareness and customer acquisition. User-generated content will be at the forefront of this strategy - encouraging customers to share their pet wellness journey, transformations, and successes using a unique hashtag. Regular contests and challenges can be launched with sustainable pet product giveaways to boost engagement and shares. Additionally, educational content on pet wellness, sustainability, and product highlights can be shared in a visually appealing manner to further engage followers.
Business Idea #2
Name: Eco-PetBoxIndustry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals
Problem: Despite the growing trend of pet humanization and the increasing awareness of sustainability, there's a lack of convenient, curated solutions that allow pet owners to access sustainable and wellness-focused products. Pet owners often have to navigate multiple online stores or physical outlets to find quality, eco-friendly products, which is time-consuming and often confusing.
Solution: Eco-PetBox is a subscription-based service that curates and delivers boxes filled with eco-friendly, wellness-focused pet products right to your doorstep. Each box is tailored to the pet's type (dog, cat, etc.), size, and any specific dietary or wellness needs. The boxes can include sustainable pet food and treats, toys, health supplements, grooming supplies, and even wellness accessories like calming pet beds or anxiety wraps.
Competitive Advantage: What sets Eco-PetBox apart from other pet subscription services is its focus on sustainable and wellness-oriented products. Every product in the box is vetted for its eco-friendliness and contribution to pet wellness. The convenience of having a curated selection of products delivered to their doorstep each month will appeal to busy pet owners who care about both their pet's health and the environment.
Monetization: Eco-PetBox operates on a subscription model, with customers paying a monthly fee for their custom box of pet products. There can also be premium subscription options that offer additional benefits, such as access to expert advice, larger product selection, or faster delivery. Another potential source of revenue could be partnerships with sustainable pet product companies that wish to feature their products in the box.
Viral Social Media Strategy: To spread awareness and create a buzz around Eco-PetBox, a strong social media campaign centered around unboxing experiences can be initiated. Encouraging subscribers to share their unboxing experiences, review products, and showcase their pets enjoying the products can create authentic and engaging content. Special promotions, giveaways, and contests can also be launched to encourage sharing and tagging. Sharing stories highlighting the sustainable impact of the products in the box can resonate with eco-conscious pet owners and further drive shares and engagement.
Business Idea #3
Name: PetFit TrackerIndustry: Sustainable Wellness for Animals, Pet Tech
Problem: As pet obesity becomes a growing issue worldwide, pet owners are looking for ways to monitor and improve their pets' health and fitness. However, solutions for pet fitness tracking are still quite limited, especially for non-dog pets.
Solution: PetFit Tracker is a wearable pet fitness tracker designed for all types of pets – not just dogs. The device tracks various data such as physical activity, sleep patterns, calories burned, and more. The data is synced with a user-friendly mobile app where pet owners can analyze their pets' health and fitness progress, set goals, and receive personalized recommendations for improving their pets' wellness.
Competitive Advantage: PetFit Tracker's main competitive advantage lies in its inclusivity for all types of pets, making it stand out in a market heavily focused on dogs. Furthermore, integrating the device with the latest AI technology, such as the GPT-4 API, can provide unique personalized insights for pet owners based on their pets' data. For instance, the AI could analyze a pet’s activity patterns and provide customized exercise or diet recommendations, detect any unusual patterns that might signal a health issue, or even provide reminders for preventative care measures.
Monetization: The primary revenue stream would be the sale of the PetFit Tracker devices. An additional recurring revenue model could be established through a premium subscription for the mobile app, which offers advanced features and more in-depth insights. Collaborations with pet wellness brands for product recommendations could provide affiliate marketing income.
Viral Social Media Strategy: User-generated content will play a big role in the social media strategy. Pet owners could be encouraged to share their pets' fitness achievements, fun moments caught by the tracker, or transformations powered by the device. These stories can be shared on the company's social media platforms, creating an engaging community of health-conscious pet owners. Additionally, collaborations with pet influencers and partnerships with animal welfare organizations could further increase brand visibility and credibility.
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2023.06.06 18:40 MarkOnKarma I am burnout i think, am i a loser to do all that stuff?
Hi guys i'am a 32 years old male. I think that i get burnout. I live with my parents and i have a distant relathionship of two and a half hours away from home and i have a job thats start to killing me. I do a part time job in an elderly care home and i work as educator for elderlies. There is such gossip, disorganization, evil collegues but at the same time it gaves me an opportunity to have money for pay my bills and go find my girlfriend. I love my girl and his family. I hope to get something to be more behind her. I had a long period of studying for a public competition in the public field but i failed. And it's almost two years that i had done a graphic design and web design training course of 90 hours. I had done 4 projects for 4 different people. It's not easy but for sure i prefer work in this job field.
I get overthinked about the future so much, my work contract expires in October and my girlfriend the same. I hope that things works better but i stuggle with anxiety and in the past also depression. I have melancony moments.
The point is, that after this intense period i got irritable bowl syndrome, but i am scared of having always this stomach issues. It's like 10 years that i struggle with gastritis and colitis. I am so tired of that. And i know that job is one of the causes, and of course i'm a sensitive person so i can get burnout easily.
One of the best cures to me is read books and listening rock music like grunge, alternative rock/metal, like Soundgarden, The Tragically Hip, Nirvana, Radiohead and of course i like Seether, Linkin Park, i don't like superficial stuff.
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I get overthinked about the future so much, my work contract expires in October and my girlfriend the same. I hope that things works better but i stuggle with anxiety and in the past also depression. I have melancony moments.
The point is, that after this intense period i got irritable bowl syndrome, but i am scared of having always this stomach issues. It's like 10 years that i struggle with gastritis and colitis. I am so tired of that. And i know that job is one of the causes, and of course i'm a sensitive person so i can get burnout easily.
One of the best cures to me is read books and listening rock music like grunge, alternative rock/metal, like Soundgarden, The Tragically Hip, Nirvana, Radiohead and of course i like Seether, Linkin Park, i don't like superficial stuff.
2023.06.06 18:40 kylexyz001 23 [M4F] [Relationship] Ohio/Worldwide- Let's Be Each Other's Everything (Longest post ever?)
Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6)
Expectations of You:
I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
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Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6)
Expectations of You:
I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
2023.06.06 18:39 Powerful-Impact-6453 What is the process of asking Hestia to help me find a new home? I know very little.
I'm still a little new to worship, I have worshipped gaia for a long time but it was very deep, natural and unconventional. I don't know how I am supposed to do things with others.
Ive only just learned about Hestia as I've been trying to find someone to help me find a new home. So I'm very early in these stages. I felt an immediate, intense resonance just reading her name and immediately got a feel for her personality which was confirmed by what I read about her. I feel like she already knows me.
But what do I do next and how do I get to the point where she can help me find a new place? To be clear I'm not using her, I intend to build a long and strong connection with her that will go on probably for my entire life. What she rules is very important to me. But is there a process for getting help with this? Do I simply ask her, straight and simple? Or are there other things I should do first like an altar, or a specific ritual, etc? I'm used to witchcraft where to make something happen, a lot goes into it.
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Ive only just learned about Hestia as I've been trying to find someone to help me find a new home. So I'm very early in these stages. I felt an immediate, intense resonance just reading her name and immediately got a feel for her personality which was confirmed by what I read about her. I feel like she already knows me.
But what do I do next and how do I get to the point where she can help me find a new place? To be clear I'm not using her, I intend to build a long and strong connection with her that will go on probably for my entire life. What she rules is very important to me. But is there a process for getting help with this? Do I simply ask her, straight and simple? Or are there other things I should do first like an altar, or a specific ritual, etc? I'm used to witchcraft where to make something happen, a lot goes into it.
2023.06.06 18:39 SubstanceOk1719 Should I stay or should I go?
For context, I am 22 years old working in a group home for vulnerable adults as a house supervisor. It’s nothing new that quality of care has gone down tremendously compared to what it was when I first started in this field four years ago. I don’t mind going the extra mile to re-train staff as needed and do more than what is expected of me. Most days I don’t have time to take a break and our company is not strict about if we take a break or not. Because of this, many of the house supervisors at other houses don’t stay long due to fast burn out which is very understandable. Lately, I have been getting burnt out and when I ask for help from my direct supervisor (program director), she does help me but I’ve learned that she will tell her colleagues that I cannot handle my position. I have been aware of the fact that admin is very cliquey as most reviews for the company I work for will mention this. There is a huge lack of accountability when it comes to our program directors. The program director I am under is the most helpful out of the others I have worked under so I do acknowledge I am lucky enough to have someone who will actually help when asked. Over the years I have heard program directors blame people in my position for everything under the sun. The one that made me most angry is when a program director said my colleague was lazy for using her pregnancy as “an excuse to get out of floor work” this is a house where they utilize gait belts and lifts for low mobility individuals and this person had weight restrictions due to her pregnancy. When we go to HR, these program directors either lie their way out or get a little slap on the wrist. Anytime I go to the main office, I more than likely will hear them gossiping. Moral of the story, I believe my workplace is toxic due to how admin treats us house supervisors.
I have stayed as long as I have because I very much care about my individuals and I have seen how they suffered without having a house supervisor. I also have gained so much knowledge and experience in order to climb the ladder but I am not sure if risking my mental well being is worth that. There are days where I go home crying due to things I have heard being said behind my back or program directors will show that they do not really care for the individuals served. When one of my individuals that I worked with daily for three years passed away from a very tragic death, they said I was too sensitive for crying. I didn’t even cry in front of the individuals I cried in the hospital room or in my office with the door shut. I used PTO for one day to grieve and they said if I can’t handle my position then I should demote. I can handle my job as I complete all of my tasks (I even created a weekly, monthly and yearly checklist to prove it) I just needed to grieve. This is one of the most high paying companies in the area and traveling to other cities is a challenge for me until I get a new car. Do you think all of the added stress is worth it? Am I being too sensitive? Should I stay for educational gain?
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I have stayed as long as I have because I very much care about my individuals and I have seen how they suffered without having a house supervisor. I also have gained so much knowledge and experience in order to climb the ladder but I am not sure if risking my mental well being is worth that. There are days where I go home crying due to things I have heard being said behind my back or program directors will show that they do not really care for the individuals served. When one of my individuals that I worked with daily for three years passed away from a very tragic death, they said I was too sensitive for crying. I didn’t even cry in front of the individuals I cried in the hospital room or in my office with the door shut. I used PTO for one day to grieve and they said if I can’t handle my position then I should demote. I can handle my job as I complete all of my tasks (I even created a weekly, monthly and yearly checklist to prove it) I just needed to grieve. This is one of the most high paying companies in the area and traveling to other cities is a challenge for me until I get a new car. Do you think all of the added stress is worth it? Am I being too sensitive? Should I stay for educational gain?
2023.06.06 18:39 angelinastevo I 27F have been in toxic relationship with 29M for 10+yrs
I 27F have been with the father of my children 29M for 12yrs, on and off. Engaged not engaged. Back story we met it middle school dated in HS and been together pretty much since. Senior yr of hs I was pregnant with our first son, then 7yrs later we had 2 daughters back to back leading into last yr 2022. He had a stable income for the majority of our years together, Ive worked since HS and I’ve also had seasonal jobs in between. As of our second child in 2021 I’ve been a stay at home mother due to me not wanting outside child care (it gives me anxiety) not to mention we wouldn’t be able to afford it unless I was full time and thats almost impossible. He is full time and everybody in my support system also works.. neatliess to say he’s always been in charge of the income. Weve both been with other ppl in the past and have recovered and tried to make things work for the better half of 5 years now.
I come from divorced parents so I really have the urge to make my family work even through my thoughts of unhappiness, just to say Im fully aware at some point staying together “just for the kids” may eventually cause more trauma than good.
Starting around or even before my second pregnancy he started drinking more and although he just proposed 2019 he also started stepping out on the relationship. I felt it was my time of need, pregnant and sick so I understand I put a strain on our sex lives but to think he would stick by my side and fight with me was a mistake. There’s two sides to every story but as I know as facts that I seen with my own eyes……..
I had a friend I didn’t really speak to due to life but we always been friends/friendly so I was shocked to see my child’s father texted her and they don’t even know each other, I met her in a summer school program. He said they never hung out when I asked but I asked her myself and he lied to my face. They hung out a few times and he paid her $100+ for “conversation”. I was shook but don’t care to lose a shxt person like that in my life. TOODLES girly! But HE makes me feel so EMBARRASSED by his actions,I can’t fathom the betrayal. I’ve seen his onlyfans account of transactions over or around $1,000 (buying visa gift cards so I don’t see transaction) of girls we went to HS with or he’s pretty much stalked girls social media’s, trying meet up with pornstars/celebrities. When I confronted him, he said “what do you expect you don’t give me nothing and I still give you attention so I don’t see the big deal, I only do it when we have money”.. He has full conversations with these girls under Anonymous accounts but can’t sit down with me to talk about our problems and issues or even about our kids?! When I speak to get to the bottom of things, he walks away and ignores my questions. These girls just want money and he’s trying his hardest to meet up until, I interrupt!! I’ve seen text threads of him talking to coworkers hiding their name under male names,trying to flirt or go out for drinks. I’ve spoke to the “massage therapist” he paid $200 to get “massages” from, off of Craigslist. I asked him first he said he never booked just talk to her, so I asked her and she confirmed he had a few sessions. I called him yelling only then did he tell the truth and or say he forgot details. I think I broke his switch in that same convo. He got fired on the spot by his boss. This boss was an old friend of his from a previous job years ago, his boss saw his wife’s phone and seen the same inappropriate text I seen between his wife and my child’s father. Texts like “I hope you’re keeping our text private”, telling her that she seems like she wants something more, asking about her sex life and what she likes..
I’ve seen all this myself but keep on making excuses like maybe I caused this? He’s begging to stay a family and not put him on child support. While hes been months late on rent and buying alcohol daily while were on our way to our 3 child around Christmas time. I was broken finding out all this and will admit I did some pretty horrible things to him in retaliation. Which leads me to believe this is TOXIC. Idk hormones were baddd!? I’m such a loving person or atleast was but I feel so stuck and angry lately. I did things Im ashamed of. Me being hurt isn’t an excuse but my reason. I feel more so justified although wrong. He refuses AA but won’t stop drinking bc I continue to find empty bottles hidden and he pulls out cash from atm so I don’t see transactions on card for liquor store. My eldest, now 9 know his dads a drunk. He has witnessed his father sleep on this siblings while he was suppose to be watching them or even worst, the time 2am drunk peeing on our sons floor. Our son woke me up crying cause he was scared by the way his dad was acting, he literally said “like a zombie”. He fell asleep on his bottom bunk and my son was scared to sleep in there. I let him sleep in my bed while I woke his father up by pouring a glass of water on him. He didn’t recall what he just did matter of fact “said no I didnt” as I clean up the warm pee.. I hate myself and was embarrassed to tell that story bc I feel like I’m someway allowing it by staying… idk what to do realistically with 3 kids involved but I need to do it soon, safely and efficiently. I can’t really heal from this, idk how, no matter how many ways he says sorry..He has never been honest, I have always only found out myself. I’ve never received any type of closure from all these situations, Which makes me feel crazy that he thinks everythings okay and normal, I feel crazy I stalk his phone, that I smell fireball on his breathe but he swears he’s not drinking. Him lying while I’m looking at facts/proof.. it’s all driving me crazy!
I’m not perfect I started talking to an my ex after I kicked him out when I found his first OF account. I also made a dating app to make him mad. Hes claims he’s never cheated physically and he wants to be a family, thats why I never really consider us “broken up” if hes constantly texting me begging for his family back and claims he tryna do for better us. I want to go to therapy before giving up on Him but he refuses to go. IDK if Hes the narc thats gaslighting me? Or if I’m the narc ? Idk if I’m going through a reactive trauma response? I feel like I was a happy child/teenager and I never use to be this angry….I don’t feel like myself anymore and as for him, I don’t even know who that man is when I look at him. All I feel is anger and disgust. If this isn’t fixable, what would be some good first steps to end this toxic relationship?
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I come from divorced parents so I really have the urge to make my family work even through my thoughts of unhappiness, just to say Im fully aware at some point staying together “just for the kids” may eventually cause more trauma than good.
Starting around or even before my second pregnancy he started drinking more and although he just proposed 2019 he also started stepping out on the relationship. I felt it was my time of need, pregnant and sick so I understand I put a strain on our sex lives but to think he would stick by my side and fight with me was a mistake. There’s two sides to every story but as I know as facts that I seen with my own eyes……..
I had a friend I didn’t really speak to due to life but we always been friends/friendly so I was shocked to see my child’s father texted her and they don’t even know each other, I met her in a summer school program. He said they never hung out when I asked but I asked her myself and he lied to my face. They hung out a few times and he paid her $100+ for “conversation”. I was shook but don’t care to lose a shxt person like that in my life. TOODLES girly! But HE makes me feel so EMBARRASSED by his actions,I can’t fathom the betrayal. I’ve seen his onlyfans account of transactions over or around $1,000 (buying visa gift cards so I don’t see transaction) of girls we went to HS with or he’s pretty much stalked girls social media’s, trying meet up with pornstars/celebrities. When I confronted him, he said “what do you expect you don’t give me nothing and I still give you attention so I don’t see the big deal, I only do it when we have money”.. He has full conversations with these girls under Anonymous accounts but can’t sit down with me to talk about our problems and issues or even about our kids?! When I speak to get to the bottom of things, he walks away and ignores my questions. These girls just want money and he’s trying his hardest to meet up until, I interrupt!! I’ve seen text threads of him talking to coworkers hiding their name under male names,trying to flirt or go out for drinks. I’ve spoke to the “massage therapist” he paid $200 to get “massages” from, off of Craigslist. I asked him first he said he never booked just talk to her, so I asked her and she confirmed he had a few sessions. I called him yelling only then did he tell the truth and or say he forgot details. I think I broke his switch in that same convo. He got fired on the spot by his boss. This boss was an old friend of his from a previous job years ago, his boss saw his wife’s phone and seen the same inappropriate text I seen between his wife and my child’s father. Texts like “I hope you’re keeping our text private”, telling her that she seems like she wants something more, asking about her sex life and what she likes..
I’ve seen all this myself but keep on making excuses like maybe I caused this? He’s begging to stay a family and not put him on child support. While hes been months late on rent and buying alcohol daily while were on our way to our 3 child around Christmas time. I was broken finding out all this and will admit I did some pretty horrible things to him in retaliation. Which leads me to believe this is TOXIC. Idk hormones were baddd!? I’m such a loving person or atleast was but I feel so stuck and angry lately. I did things Im ashamed of. Me being hurt isn’t an excuse but my reason. I feel more so justified although wrong. He refuses AA but won’t stop drinking bc I continue to find empty bottles hidden and he pulls out cash from atm so I don’t see transactions on card for liquor store. My eldest, now 9 know his dads a drunk. He has witnessed his father sleep on this siblings while he was suppose to be watching them or even worst, the time 2am drunk peeing on our sons floor. Our son woke me up crying cause he was scared by the way his dad was acting, he literally said “like a zombie”. He fell asleep on his bottom bunk and my son was scared to sleep in there. I let him sleep in my bed while I woke his father up by pouring a glass of water on him. He didn’t recall what he just did matter of fact “said no I didnt” as I clean up the warm pee.. I hate myself and was embarrassed to tell that story bc I feel like I’m someway allowing it by staying… idk what to do realistically with 3 kids involved but I need to do it soon, safely and efficiently. I can’t really heal from this, idk how, no matter how many ways he says sorry..He has never been honest, I have always only found out myself. I’ve never received any type of closure from all these situations, Which makes me feel crazy that he thinks everythings okay and normal, I feel crazy I stalk his phone, that I smell fireball on his breathe but he swears he’s not drinking. Him lying while I’m looking at facts/proof.. it’s all driving me crazy!
I’m not perfect I started talking to an my ex after I kicked him out when I found his first OF account. I also made a dating app to make him mad. Hes claims he’s never cheated physically and he wants to be a family, thats why I never really consider us “broken up” if hes constantly texting me begging for his family back and claims he tryna do for better us. I want to go to therapy before giving up on Him but he refuses to go. IDK if Hes the narc thats gaslighting me? Or if I’m the narc ? Idk if I’m going through a reactive trauma response? I feel like I was a happy child/teenager and I never use to be this angry….I don’t feel like myself anymore and as for him, I don’t even know who that man is when I look at him. All I feel is anger and disgust. If this isn’t fixable, what would be some good first steps to end this toxic relationship?
2023.06.06 18:39 the1220th Can I add anti-aircraft wings to Arisaka 99 sights?
I’ve seen them for sale or even complete barrels for like $50-75, can I remove the wings and put them on any 99? From what I understand the 99’s missing the wings are still the same sights, they were just removed in the battlefield or weren’t even put on during later production? I don’t have a 99 so I don’t know if there are holes with screws to hold them in or what
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2023.06.06 18:39 MB137 JVL's column about Sununu got me to thinking.
https://thetriad.thebulwark.com/p/chris-sununu-and-the-good-republicans?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email
But did Sununu pass up an alternative way to oppose Trump?
Let's say that, instead of not running, he gets into the race and says:
"I'm not running to win the nomination, I'm running to oppose Trump. My campaign will only be seeking to get on the ballot in NH and maybe in the other New England states. My aim is to take some delegates to the convention where I will pledge them to the strongest non-Trump candidate. Vote for me because you know me, approve of the work I've done as your governor, and trust me to oppose Trump at the conviction [err... convention].
I just had a call with Larry Hogan and I am urging him to get on the GOP ballot in Maryland and join me in opposing Trump."
Back when parties and conventions were more powerful, it was not uncommon for a politician to run in his home state in order to amass some delegates before the convention. Maybe the non-Trump GOP should have brought that tradition back.
With no meaningful primary on the Dem side, this would be an espeically good time to try this in states with open primaries or states that allow unaffilated voters to choose their side.
JVLast
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Yesterday Gov. Sununu announced that he would not run for president because Trump was on a “collision course” to win the nomination. Now Sununu is pledging to fight to stop Trump.There has been a lot of concern about too many candidates running on the GOP side, which helps Trump. That seems to be why Sununu decided not to get in.
But did Sununu pass up an alternative way to oppose Trump?
Let's say that, instead of not running, he gets into the race and says:
"I'm not running to win the nomination, I'm running to oppose Trump. My campaign will only be seeking to get on the ballot in NH and maybe in the other New England states. My aim is to take some delegates to the convention where I will pledge them to the strongest non-Trump candidate. Vote for me because you know me, approve of the work I've done as your governor, and trust me to oppose Trump at the conviction [err... convention].
I just had a call with Larry Hogan and I am urging him to get on the GOP ballot in Maryland and join me in opposing Trump."
Back when parties and conventions were more powerful, it was not uncommon for a politician to run in his home state in order to amass some delegates before the convention. Maybe the non-Trump GOP should have brought that tradition back.
With no meaningful primary on the Dem side, this would be an espeically good time to try this in states with open primaries or states that allow unaffilated voters to choose their side.
JVLast
2023.06.06 18:39 bobloadmire Suggestions for best DD-WRT router for use as a wired backhaul mesh setup
Essentially title, I'm looking to buy 3 routers for a wired mesh setup with wired backhaul in a large home. Doesn't need to be wifi 7 or anything crazy. Just want reliable, decently priced.
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2023.06.06 18:39 kylexyz001 23 [M4F] Ohio/Worldwide- Let's Be Each Other's Everything (Longest post ever?)
Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6)
Expectations of You:
I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
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Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6)
Expectations of You:
I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
2023.06.06 18:38 gnitsuj Stolen from r/Dallas: I do 50 mph in the left lane on the highways so that nobody gets caught speeding. People often thank me with their horns. What acts of kindness do you do for strangers in NJ?
I spread kindness in many ways throughout the day, but none are more appreciated than my standing at the counter of various Bergen County bagel places correcting everyone who orders "Taylor ham". I also like to help people find places to live, so once I get home from playing Breakfast Meat Nazi I log onto reddit to submit a post asking where I can find an apartment for $500 a month (utilities and pet fees included) that's close to the city, the beach, Philly, Hawai'i, the mountains (preferably only those above 30k feet in elevation), open farmland, New Orleans, the Suez Canal, fishing, and froyo (it also doesn't hurt to be very safe and walkable with great schools).
What do you do to help out your fellow Jerseyans?
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2023.06.06 18:38 ak47512 Are fat women more acceptable/accepted im society over fat men?
I say this as a fat 6ft 1, 96kg 30 year old man.
The context is, my sister was eating cheesecake the other day (she's been whinging about being fat for months-repeatedly pulling her clothes tight in around her stomach and saying how she needs to go on a diet, do the whole couch to 5k thing, etc) . She hasn't and doesn't do any of this fitness stuff at all whereas i cycle every other day and play tennis every sunday for two hours. My sister is 5ft 2 (take my sisters exact height and weight with a pinch of salt) and is around 59-61kg (26 yrs old).
i said to my sister there's no point in her eating unhealthily and whinging afterwards. No one likes to hear that.
My mum happened to be walking by overhearing me talking to my sister and said she's ok to have the cheesecake not me because of her figure.
Tired really of being made to feel like sh*t- the other day at my tennis match, someone else on the court called me round and chubby- it came up in random conversation. I'm trying to be healthy and lose weight but modern day Life, working from Home its tough at times. I have tended to use food as an emotional crutch in the past but meeting with a friend who's got terminal cancer recently has put life into perspective and I needed to make a change.
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The context is, my sister was eating cheesecake the other day (she's been whinging about being fat for months-repeatedly pulling her clothes tight in around her stomach and saying how she needs to go on a diet, do the whole couch to 5k thing, etc) . She hasn't and doesn't do any of this fitness stuff at all whereas i cycle every other day and play tennis every sunday for two hours. My sister is 5ft 2 (take my sisters exact height and weight with a pinch of salt) and is around 59-61kg (26 yrs old).
i said to my sister there's no point in her eating unhealthily and whinging afterwards. No one likes to hear that.
My mum happened to be walking by overhearing me talking to my sister and said she's ok to have the cheesecake not me because of her figure.
Tired really of being made to feel like sh*t- the other day at my tennis match, someone else on the court called me round and chubby- it came up in random conversation. I'm trying to be healthy and lose weight but modern day Life, working from Home its tough at times. I have tended to use food as an emotional crutch in the past but meeting with a friend who's got terminal cancer recently has put life into perspective and I needed to make a change.
2023.06.06 18:38 ConversationOdd826 Which Precision bass
Hi fellow bassplayers, I’m looking to buy an upgrade of my practice bass. For live gigs I play on two Fender American standerd Jazz Basses. At home I have a precision bass from the brand Vega. I’m looking to buy a fender precision.I’m online negotiating about a Fender Precision Bass 2015 Mexican standard (black, not a lot of damage, real bone nut and a semi rigid case) The second one is a 1995 Fender precision bass assembly in Mexico. (Alder body, rosewood maple neck and a soft case). Which one would be a better buy? Both prices around 600 euro.
Thank you!
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2023.06.06 18:38 angelinastevo I 27F have been in toxic relationship with 29M for 10+yrs
I 27F have been with the father of my children 29M for 12yrs, on and off. Engaged not engaged. Back story we met it middle school dated in HS and been together pretty much since. Senior yr of hs I was pregnant with our first son, then 7yrs later we had 2 daughters back to back leading into last yr 2022. He had a stable income for the majority of our years together, Ive worked since HS and I’ve also had seasonal jobs in between. As of our second child in 2021 I’ve been a stay at home mother due to me not wanting outside child care (it gives me anxiety) not to mention we wouldn’t be able to afford it unless I was full time and thats almost impossible. He is full time and everybody in my support system also works.. neatliess to say he’s always been in charge of the income. Weve both been with other ppl in the past and have recovered and tried to make things work for the better half of 5 years now.
I come from divorced parents so I really have the urge to make my family work even through my thoughts of unhappiness, just to say Im fully aware at some point staying together “just for the kids” may eventually cause more trauma than good.
Starting around or even before my second pregnancy he started drinking more and although he just proposed 2019 he also started stepping out on the relationship. I felt it was my time of need, pregnant and sick so I understand I put a strain on our sex lives but to think he would stick by my side and fight with me was a mistake. There’s two sides to every story but as I know as facts that I seen with my own eyes……..
I had a friend I didn’t really speak to due to life but we always been friends/friendly so I was shocked to see my child’s father texted her and they don’t even know each other, I met her in a summer school program. He said they never hung out when I asked but I asked her myself and he lied to my face. They hung out a few times and he paid her $100+ for “conversation”. I was shook but don’t care to lose a shxt person like that in my life. TOODLES girly! But HE makes me feel so EMBARRASSED by his actions,I can’t fathom the betrayal. I’ve seen his onlyfans account of transactions over or around $1,000 (buying visa gift cards so I don’t see transaction) of girls we went to HS with or he’s pretty much stalked girls social media’s, trying meet up with pornstars/celebrities. When I confronted him, he said “what do you expect you don’t give me nothing and I still give you attention so I don’t see the big deal, I only do it when we have money”.. He has full conversations with these girls under Anonymous accounts but can’t sit down with me to talk about our problems and issues or even about our kids?! When I speak to get to the bottom of things, he walks away and ignores my questions. These girls just want money and he’s trying his hardest to meet up until, I interrupt!! I’ve seen text threads of him talking to coworkers hiding their name under male names,trying to flirt or go out for drinks. I’ve spoke to the “massage therapist” he paid $200 to get “massages” from, off of Craigslist. I asked him first he said he never booked just talk to her, so I asked her and she confirmed he had a few sessions. I called him yelling only then did he tell the truth and or say he forgot details. I think I broke his switch in that same convo. He got fired on the spot by his boss. This boss was an old friend of his from a previous job years ago, his boss saw his wife’s phone and seen the same inappropriate text I seen between his wife and my child’s father. Texts like “I hope you’re keeping our text private”, telling her that she seems like she wants something more, asking about her sex life and what she likes..
I’ve seen all this myself but keep on making excuses like maybe I caused this? He’s begging to stay a family and not put him on child support. While hes been months late on rent and buying alcohol daily while were on our way to our 3 child around Christmas time. I was broken finding out all this and will admit I did some pretty horrible things to him in retaliation. Which leads me to believe this is TOXIC. Idk hormones were baddd!? I’m such a loving person or atleast was but I feel so stuck and angry lately. I did things Im ashamed of. Me being hurt isn’t an excuse but my reason. I feel more so justified although wrong. He refuses AA but won’t stop drinking bc I continue to find empty bottles hidden and he pulls out cash from atm so I don’t see transactions on card for liquor store. My eldest, now 9 know his dads a drunk. He has witnessed his father sleep on this siblings while he was suppose to be watching them or even worst, the time 2am drunk peeing on our sons floor. Our son woke me up crying cause he was scared by the way his dad was acting, he literally said “like a zombie”. He fell asleep on his bottom bunk and my son was scared to sleep in there. I let him sleep in my bed while I woke his father up by pouring a glass of water on him. He didn’t recall what he just did matter of fact “said no I didnt” as I clean up the warm pee.. I hate myself and was embarrassed to tell that story bc I feel like I’m someway allowing it by staying… idk what to do realistically with 3 kids involved but I need to do it soon, safely and efficiently. I can’t really heal from this, idk how, no matter how many ways he says sorry..He has never been honest, I have always only found out myself. I’ve never received any type of closure from all these situations, Which makes me feel crazy that he thinks everythings okay and normal, I feel crazy I stalk his phone, that I smell fireball on his breathe but he swears he’s not drinking. Him lying while I’m looking at facts/proof.. it’s all driving me crazy!
I’m not perfect I started talking to an my ex after I kicked him out when I found his first OF account. I also made a dating app to make him mad. Hes claims he’s never cheated physically and he wants to be a family, thats why I never really consider us “broken up” if hes constantly texting me begging for his family back and claims he tryna do for better us. I want to go to therapy before giving up on Him but he refuses to go. IDK if Hes the narc thats gaslighting me? Or if I’m the narc ? Idk if I’m going through a reactive trauma response? I feel like I was a happy child/teenager and I never use to be this angry….I don’t feel like myself anymore and as for him, I don’t even know who that man is when I look at him. All I feel is anger and disgust. If this isn’t fixable, what would be some good first steps to end this toxic relationship?
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I come from divorced parents so I really have the urge to make my family work even through my thoughts of unhappiness, just to say Im fully aware at some point staying together “just for the kids” may eventually cause more trauma than good.
Starting around or even before my second pregnancy he started drinking more and although he just proposed 2019 he also started stepping out on the relationship. I felt it was my time of need, pregnant and sick so I understand I put a strain on our sex lives but to think he would stick by my side and fight with me was a mistake. There’s two sides to every story but as I know as facts that I seen with my own eyes……..
I had a friend I didn’t really speak to due to life but we always been friends/friendly so I was shocked to see my child’s father texted her and they don’t even know each other, I met her in a summer school program. He said they never hung out when I asked but I asked her myself and he lied to my face. They hung out a few times and he paid her $100+ for “conversation”. I was shook but don’t care to lose a shxt person like that in my life. TOODLES girly! But HE makes me feel so EMBARRASSED by his actions,I can’t fathom the betrayal. I’ve seen his onlyfans account of transactions over or around $1,000 (buying visa gift cards so I don’t see transaction) of girls we went to HS with or he’s pretty much stalked girls social media’s, trying meet up with pornstars/celebrities. When I confronted him, he said “what do you expect you don’t give me nothing and I still give you attention so I don’t see the big deal, I only do it when we have money”.. He has full conversations with these girls under Anonymous accounts but can’t sit down with me to talk about our problems and issues or even about our kids?! When I speak to get to the bottom of things, he walks away and ignores my questions. These girls just want money and he’s trying his hardest to meet up until, I interrupt!! I’ve seen text threads of him talking to coworkers hiding their name under male names,trying to flirt or go out for drinks. I’ve spoke to the “massage therapist” he paid $200 to get “massages” from, off of Craigslist. I asked him first he said he never booked just talk to her, so I asked her and she confirmed he had a few sessions. I called him yelling only then did he tell the truth and or say he forgot details. I think I broke his switch in that same convo. He got fired on the spot by his boss. This boss was an old friend of his from a previous job years ago, his boss saw his wife’s phone and seen the same inappropriate text I seen between his wife and my child’s father. Texts like “I hope you’re keeping our text private”, telling her that she seems like she wants something more, asking about her sex life and what she likes..
I’ve seen all this myself but keep on making excuses like maybe I caused this? He’s begging to stay a family and not put him on child support. While hes been months late on rent and buying alcohol daily while were on our way to our 3 child around Christmas time. I was broken finding out all this and will admit I did some pretty horrible things to him in retaliation. Which leads me to believe this is TOXIC. Idk hormones were baddd!? I’m such a loving person or atleast was but I feel so stuck and angry lately. I did things Im ashamed of. Me being hurt isn’t an excuse but my reason. I feel more so justified although wrong. He refuses AA but won’t stop drinking bc I continue to find empty bottles hidden and he pulls out cash from atm so I don’t see transactions on card for liquor store. My eldest, now 9 know his dads a drunk. He has witnessed his father sleep on this siblings while he was suppose to be watching them or even worst, the time 2am drunk peeing on our sons floor. Our son woke me up crying cause he was scared by the way his dad was acting, he literally said “like a zombie”. He fell asleep on his bottom bunk and my son was scared to sleep in there. I let him sleep in my bed while I woke his father up by pouring a glass of water on him. He didn’t recall what he just did matter of fact “said no I didnt” as I clean up the warm pee.. I hate myself and was embarrassed to tell that story bc I feel like I’m someway allowing it by staying… idk what to do realistically with 3 kids involved but I need to do it soon, safely and efficiently. I can’t really heal from this, idk how, no matter how many ways he says sorry..He has never been honest, I have always only found out myself. I’ve never received any type of closure from all these situations, Which makes me feel crazy that he thinks everythings okay and normal, I feel crazy I stalk his phone, that I smell fireball on his breathe but he swears he’s not drinking. Him lying while I’m looking at facts/proof.. it’s all driving me crazy!
I’m not perfect I started talking to an my ex after I kicked him out when I found his first OF account. I also made a dating app to make him mad. Hes claims he’s never cheated physically and he wants to be a family, thats why I never really consider us “broken up” if hes constantly texting me begging for his family back and claims he tryna do for better us. I want to go to therapy before giving up on Him but he refuses to go. IDK if Hes the narc thats gaslighting me? Or if I’m the narc ? Idk if I’m going through a reactive trauma response? I feel like I was a happy child/teenager and I never use to be this angry….I don’t feel like myself anymore and as for him, I don’t even know who that man is when I look at him. All I feel is anger and disgust. If this isn’t fixable, what would be some good first steps to end this toxic relationship?
2023.06.06 18:38 SinfulAbsorption Best Portable Power Station
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2023.06.06 18:38 writingforthefeels My Grandpa was a Dragonslayer.
That's what my parents told me.
It was the end of summer, the cold fall air was starting to come in, when my parents sat me down to give me a talk. My mother took a long breath,
"Lucas, your grandpa is going through a very tough time right now, he is currently fighting a ferocious dragon, and so he may seem a little off sometimes, but just know he is very tired from fighting the dragon"
I was a bit confused at the time. A dragon? I had no idea my grandpa was a Dragonslayer. My 6 year old brain was overjoyed.
"Grandpa fights dragons?! He's even cooler than I thought!"
There was a somber look in my mother's eye, but she said nothing afterwards and just rubbed my shoulder.
A couple weeks later we went over to my grandparents house for a visit. The waft of fresh baked chocolate chip cookies fills the air as we walk in, my grandma made the best cookies in the world. My grandpa sees me and his eyes light up with that same joyous love they always do.
"Heya there sport! How's my favorite second baseman doing?"
"Grandpa! I play third base, you know this!" I respond while giggling
"Oh r-right of course, I'll grab the gloves and we can go toss the ball around"
He walks towards the kitchen before catching himself, then walks upstairs to go grab our baseball gloves. The autumn leaves were starting to fall as we went outside to play catch. My grandparents house was in a nice neighborhood that had a lot of trees. Ray's of sunshine were flowing through the trees as we tossed the baseball around. After we play for a bit, we go back inside and help ourselves to my grandma's favorite chocolate chip cookies.
"I can't believe you're really a dragon slayer grandpa!"
My grandpa's eyes widened for a half second before going back to his usual, joyous self.
"Haha, well an old man can have a few secrets can't he?"
"I want to help you fight it!" I insisted
"Haha! I'd love to have you help me, but sadly I fight the dragon after your bedtime every night"
I pouted, but that seemed like a reasonable enough explanation for my 6 year old self.
Shortly after we finish eating the cookies, my parents and I pack up in our car and wave bye as we pull out of the driveway.
That was the last time I saw my grandpa at his house.
That night I dreamt of a dragon. It spouted fire from it's mouths and snarled as it stared at me. I shook in fear as the dragon raised it's claw and began a massive swipe at me. I could see the razor sharp edges at the end of each finger that looked about as big as me. But all of a sudden my grandpa was there, clad in shining silver armor. he raised a mighty shield and deflected the dragon's claw, before shouting to me
"C'mon sport! We got a dragon to fight!"
All of a sudden I realized I also had a sword and shield, perfectly fit to my size. My fear had evaporated when I saw my grandpa, and I let out a roar as I charged to follow my grandpa towards the dragon.
I woke up with a start immediately after. I felt frustrated I couldn't end up fighting the dragon, but I was still smiling thinking of my grandpa being a heroic dragon slayer.
The months go by as school starts and we aren't able to visit my grandparents, though I did manage to talk to them on the phone sometimes. My grandpa started to seem less like his usual self; he was still the kind old man I came to know and love, but he seemed to be talking like he was distracted by something, and lost his train of thought frequently.
My parents told me he was just tired from fighting the dragon.
6 months after I had the dream about fighting the dragon, I had another similar dream. The dragon was there, and my grandpa was too, but things were different. My grandpa was pinned under the dragon's talons, and looked to be struggling.
"Grandpa! GRANDPA!" I shouted
My grandpa looked at me, but the usual joyous glow that was always in his eyes wasn't there. He looked scared, confused.
I wasn't about to just let the dragon win though. I drew my sword and charged towards the dragon, it stared at me with dark, soulless eyes.
I woke up with a jolt, panting. I was scared, not of the dragon, but of what was gonna happen to my grandpa.
2 months later, my parents tell me we are gonna meet grandpa at the hospital. When we walked in the room, my grandma was crying quietly. She quickly wiped her eyes as we walked in the room. "Hey buddy, grandpa might be a bit confused right now, he's very tired from fighting the dragon, but just know that he loves you and that will never change. I give my grandma a big hug. I didn't want her to cry, I wanted to be brave for her.
My parents and I walked up to my grandpa. He was laying on the hospital bed, he looked like he was looking at something a million miles away. My mom was the first one to speak
"Harry… this is your grandson, Lucas. You remember him right?"
"Lucas? Hmmmmm. Oh right! How could I forget! My favorite baseball player! You play for the Detroit Tigers right? 3rd baseman?"
I giggled "Grandpa! I'm only 6! I can't play for the Tigers yet!"
"Oh r-right, I'm sorry buddy"
He's never called me buddy before.
I was confused, but at the time I chalked it up to him being tired from fighting the dragon. Still, I couldn't help but feel a hint of sadness as we walked out of the hospital room. But right as I was about to head through the door my grandpa shouted.
"Hey sport!"
I looked back and for just a glimpse, I saw that same joyous love in my grandpa's eye.
"I'm gonna beat that dragon"
I smile at him before heading out the door. The drive home was quiet, I could tell my mom was sobbing quietly into her coat, my dad was driving, his eyes looked somber in the rearview mirror.
"Dad, is the dragon too strong for grandpa to beat?"
My dad looks at me and sighs deeply.
"I don't know Lucas, but I know he's gonna try"
That night, I had another dream. The dragon was there, and so was my grandpa. But this time, the tides had turned. My grandpa fought furiously, all while laughing with his same, joyous laugh. I see him climb onto the back of the dragon, the dragon bucking wildly to get him off.
"Grandpa! Grandpa, I'm here!" I shout
He looks at me with those same joyous eyes.
"Heya there sport, toss me that rope! I know you got a mean throw!"
Right as he said it I realized there was a bundle of rope right next to me. I pick it up and throw it with all my strength. Miraculously, my grandpa reaches out one arm and catches it.
"Thanks sport! I can always rely on you!"
My grandpa swings the rope around the dragon, getting it right through it's mouth. The dragon bucks even more wildly, but my grandpa holds on. Eventually, the dragon submits, and stops bucking. I stare at my grandpa on the back of the dragon. He was not only a Dragonslayer, he was a dragon rider!
"We did it grandpa! We beat the dragon!"
He takes a long look at me, with those same joyous eyes, and smiles. Then he guides the dragon into the air as he flies away.
My grandpa died that night.
It was a sad day, my mom was sobbing the whole time as my dad tried to comfort her, and I couldn't even bring myself to cry. I was confused, I thought we won. If we beat the dragon, why did my grandpa die?
The funeral was a few days after. A soft breeze made the trees rustle. It was a small event, he wouldn't have wanted anything else. There was a lot of crying, and a lot of speeches about the great person he was. As the ceremony came to a close, my grandma came up to me and tried to smile.
"Your grandpa wrote this for you a few months ago, as he was first starting to fight the dragon"
She handed me a letter. I thanked her and gave her a big hug, promising I'd find the dragon that did this.
As the sun started to set, my parents started to pack up the car. On the ride home I decided to open the letter. It read:
Dear sport,
I know how this must feel right now. I was supposed to beat the dragon! Then why am I not there
still? Well Lucas, there's something you should know about this dragon. Truth be told, I had no idea
this dragon was coming; it came out of nowhere, and was as surprising as it was scary. I was scared,
sport. I know that might seem surprising to you, your brave old grandpa being scared, but I was.
Dragons are scary, even to old-timers like me. But there was one thing kept me pushing on, kept me fighting.
That thing was you, sport. You were my sword and shield, my shining silver armor. I couldn't have
fought the dragon without you. I know you can't see me now, but trust me when I say I'm out there
going on adventures. I carry you and your grandma and your parents with me, you guys are my
courage, my protectors. I don't know where I'm going, but I know I'm gonna be okay because I have
you with me. I love you, sport. Hit a home run for your old grandpa huh?
Your favorite Dragonslayer,
Grandpa.
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It was the end of summer, the cold fall air was starting to come in, when my parents sat me down to give me a talk. My mother took a long breath,
"Lucas, your grandpa is going through a very tough time right now, he is currently fighting a ferocious dragon, and so he may seem a little off sometimes, but just know he is very tired from fighting the dragon"
I was a bit confused at the time. A dragon? I had no idea my grandpa was a Dragonslayer. My 6 year old brain was overjoyed.
"Grandpa fights dragons?! He's even cooler than I thought!"
There was a somber look in my mother's eye, but she said nothing afterwards and just rubbed my shoulder.
A couple weeks later we went over to my grandparents house for a visit. The waft of fresh baked chocolate chip cookies fills the air as we walk in, my grandma made the best cookies in the world. My grandpa sees me and his eyes light up with that same joyous love they always do.
"Heya there sport! How's my favorite second baseman doing?"
"Grandpa! I play third base, you know this!" I respond while giggling
"Oh r-right of course, I'll grab the gloves and we can go toss the ball around"
He walks towards the kitchen before catching himself, then walks upstairs to go grab our baseball gloves. The autumn leaves were starting to fall as we went outside to play catch. My grandparents house was in a nice neighborhood that had a lot of trees. Ray's of sunshine were flowing through the trees as we tossed the baseball around. After we play for a bit, we go back inside and help ourselves to my grandma's favorite chocolate chip cookies.
"I can't believe you're really a dragon slayer grandpa!"
My grandpa's eyes widened for a half second before going back to his usual, joyous self.
"Haha, well an old man can have a few secrets can't he?"
"I want to help you fight it!" I insisted
"Haha! I'd love to have you help me, but sadly I fight the dragon after your bedtime every night"
I pouted, but that seemed like a reasonable enough explanation for my 6 year old self.
Shortly after we finish eating the cookies, my parents and I pack up in our car and wave bye as we pull out of the driveway.
That was the last time I saw my grandpa at his house.
That night I dreamt of a dragon. It spouted fire from it's mouths and snarled as it stared at me. I shook in fear as the dragon raised it's claw and began a massive swipe at me. I could see the razor sharp edges at the end of each finger that looked about as big as me. But all of a sudden my grandpa was there, clad in shining silver armor. he raised a mighty shield and deflected the dragon's claw, before shouting to me
"C'mon sport! We got a dragon to fight!"
All of a sudden I realized I also had a sword and shield, perfectly fit to my size. My fear had evaporated when I saw my grandpa, and I let out a roar as I charged to follow my grandpa towards the dragon.
I woke up with a start immediately after. I felt frustrated I couldn't end up fighting the dragon, but I was still smiling thinking of my grandpa being a heroic dragon slayer.
The months go by as school starts and we aren't able to visit my grandparents, though I did manage to talk to them on the phone sometimes. My grandpa started to seem less like his usual self; he was still the kind old man I came to know and love, but he seemed to be talking like he was distracted by something, and lost his train of thought frequently.
My parents told me he was just tired from fighting the dragon.
6 months after I had the dream about fighting the dragon, I had another similar dream. The dragon was there, and my grandpa was too, but things were different. My grandpa was pinned under the dragon's talons, and looked to be struggling.
"Grandpa! GRANDPA!" I shouted
My grandpa looked at me, but the usual joyous glow that was always in his eyes wasn't there. He looked scared, confused.
I wasn't about to just let the dragon win though. I drew my sword and charged towards the dragon, it stared at me with dark, soulless eyes.
I woke up with a jolt, panting. I was scared, not of the dragon, but of what was gonna happen to my grandpa.
2 months later, my parents tell me we are gonna meet grandpa at the hospital. When we walked in the room, my grandma was crying quietly. She quickly wiped her eyes as we walked in the room. "Hey buddy, grandpa might be a bit confused right now, he's very tired from fighting the dragon, but just know that he loves you and that will never change. I give my grandma a big hug. I didn't want her to cry, I wanted to be brave for her.
My parents and I walked up to my grandpa. He was laying on the hospital bed, he looked like he was looking at something a million miles away. My mom was the first one to speak
"Harry… this is your grandson, Lucas. You remember him right?"
"Lucas? Hmmmmm. Oh right! How could I forget! My favorite baseball player! You play for the Detroit Tigers right? 3rd baseman?"
I giggled "Grandpa! I'm only 6! I can't play for the Tigers yet!"
"Oh r-right, I'm sorry buddy"
He's never called me buddy before.
I was confused, but at the time I chalked it up to him being tired from fighting the dragon. Still, I couldn't help but feel a hint of sadness as we walked out of the hospital room. But right as I was about to head through the door my grandpa shouted.
"Hey sport!"
I looked back and for just a glimpse, I saw that same joyous love in my grandpa's eye.
"I'm gonna beat that dragon"
I smile at him before heading out the door. The drive home was quiet, I could tell my mom was sobbing quietly into her coat, my dad was driving, his eyes looked somber in the rearview mirror.
"Dad, is the dragon too strong for grandpa to beat?"
My dad looks at me and sighs deeply.
"I don't know Lucas, but I know he's gonna try"
That night, I had another dream. The dragon was there, and so was my grandpa. But this time, the tides had turned. My grandpa fought furiously, all while laughing with his same, joyous laugh. I see him climb onto the back of the dragon, the dragon bucking wildly to get him off.
"Grandpa! Grandpa, I'm here!" I shout
He looks at me with those same joyous eyes.
"Heya there sport, toss me that rope! I know you got a mean throw!"
Right as he said it I realized there was a bundle of rope right next to me. I pick it up and throw it with all my strength. Miraculously, my grandpa reaches out one arm and catches it.
"Thanks sport! I can always rely on you!"
My grandpa swings the rope around the dragon, getting it right through it's mouth. The dragon bucks even more wildly, but my grandpa holds on. Eventually, the dragon submits, and stops bucking. I stare at my grandpa on the back of the dragon. He was not only a Dragonslayer, he was a dragon rider!
"We did it grandpa! We beat the dragon!"
He takes a long look at me, with those same joyous eyes, and smiles. Then he guides the dragon into the air as he flies away.
My grandpa died that night.
It was a sad day, my mom was sobbing the whole time as my dad tried to comfort her, and I couldn't even bring myself to cry. I was confused, I thought we won. If we beat the dragon, why did my grandpa die?
The funeral was a few days after. A soft breeze made the trees rustle. It was a small event, he wouldn't have wanted anything else. There was a lot of crying, and a lot of speeches about the great person he was. As the ceremony came to a close, my grandma came up to me and tried to smile.
"Your grandpa wrote this for you a few months ago, as he was first starting to fight the dragon"
She handed me a letter. I thanked her and gave her a big hug, promising I'd find the dragon that did this.
As the sun started to set, my parents started to pack up the car. On the ride home I decided to open the letter. It read:
Dear sport,
I know how this must feel right now. I was supposed to beat the dragon! Then why am I not there
still? Well Lucas, there's something you should know about this dragon. Truth be told, I had no idea
this dragon was coming; it came out of nowhere, and was as surprising as it was scary. I was scared,
sport. I know that might seem surprising to you, your brave old grandpa being scared, but I was.
Dragons are scary, even to old-timers like me. But there was one thing kept me pushing on, kept me fighting.
That thing was you, sport. You were my sword and shield, my shining silver armor. I couldn't have
fought the dragon without you. I know you can't see me now, but trust me when I say I'm out there
going on adventures. I carry you and your grandma and your parents with me, you guys are my
courage, my protectors. I don't know where I'm going, but I know I'm gonna be okay because I have
you with me. I love you, sport. Hit a home run for your old grandpa huh?
Your favorite Dragonslayer,
Grandpa.
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2023.06.06 18:38 ismiseceallaigh Where Am I From?
I'm moving to NYC to start an MFA program and as begun making preparations, the question 'Where are you from?' has started too.
Here's why I'm not sure what to say:
Other notes: Pennsylvania is where I have chronologically spent the most time comparatively, but I haven't been back in 8 years and the lack of parents still being there means it's not exactly 'home' anymore.
I think both my parents dying while I was in Seattle is part of why I stayed there so long (I definitely wasn't content there) and I also cobbled together a new family of people who care about me there (eg I'd go there for Thanksgiving). However, it still was only 10 years and after about 3yrs I knew it wasn't my true spot. I'm not 'Seattle' in a lot of ways...most of which are why New York seems more comfortable.
There's a reason I moved from each of these places - they aren't me, I grew out of them, whatever....Especially at this stage/age if any of them were more home-like I might have moved back. Even Seattle, where I now have the most ties, is not somewhere I would consider going back to.
So PA or Seattle seem like the 'right' answers, but I don't feel that way.
It seems a little pretentious or insufferable to say 'I'm from Everywhere!' even if that's somewhat closer to how I feel.
So...how do you think I can answer that question? [and we won't even get into the question of 'when' or if I could start saying New York! :p]
PS: asking NYC because you're who's going to be wanting to know
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Here's why I'm not sure what to say:
- I will be moving directly from LA, but I've been here less than 2 years. I am not LA.
- Before that I was in Seattle for 10. More info below.
- Before that Chicago for 1 year.
- Before that, 3 years in the small town where I grew up and my parents were living because I was offered - especially in retrospect - a very solid opportunity re my career and - even more in retrospect - subconsciously I think to look after my parents and have some time with them as an adult before they passed (which they both did less than 5 years later, though they were both pretty young so it wasn't an obvious reason at the time)
- I also literally landed there because it was easiest to do so as I left Ireland where I was living for 2 years before that.
- I was in Pittsburgh (where I was born and had family and fun big city ties while growing up) for an MA at Pitt before that.
- I was in chapel Hill for 2 years before that.
Other notes: Pennsylvania is where I have chronologically spent the most time comparatively, but I haven't been back in 8 years and the lack of parents still being there means it's not exactly 'home' anymore.
I think both my parents dying while I was in Seattle is part of why I stayed there so long (I definitely wasn't content there) and I also cobbled together a new family of people who care about me there (eg I'd go there for Thanksgiving). However, it still was only 10 years and after about 3yrs I knew it wasn't my true spot. I'm not 'Seattle' in a lot of ways...most of which are why New York seems more comfortable.
There's a reason I moved from each of these places - they aren't me, I grew out of them, whatever....Especially at this stage/age if any of them were more home-like I might have moved back. Even Seattle, where I now have the most ties, is not somewhere I would consider going back to.
So PA or Seattle seem like the 'right' answers, but I don't feel that way.
It seems a little pretentious or insufferable to say 'I'm from Everywhere!' even if that's somewhat closer to how I feel.
So...how do you think I can answer that question? [and we won't even get into the question of 'when' or if I could start saying New York! :p]
PS: asking NYC because you're who's going to be wanting to know
2023.06.06 18:38 cgc278 anyone else's partner behaving weird/out of the norm?
my husband is fixated on any tiny thing we can change in our home, to a degree that is definitely different and more intense than it has ever been. is he nesting? i'm wondering if this is his way of weirdly getting ready for baby? idk..
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