Just venting that my hard work and contributions feel like they’re under appreciated. My husband works a full-time job as a teacher. I know being a teacher right now is difficult and stressful. He works an eight hour day teaching high school students, doesn’t bring school home with him, and is left with his evenings and weekends off to do as he pleases minus 3 hours Mon-Fri when he has to watch our daughter from the time he gets home until she goes to bed because I’m working. I work a full-time job from home as a customer service representative from 1 PM to 10 PM. I also am attending school online full-time to finish my college degree. I watch our daughter from the time she wakes up at 6 AM until she goes down for her nap shortly before 1 PM. I’m also the parent that gets up with her when she wakes up in the middle of the night because my husband needs his full eight hours of sleep to be able to handle his job. I do all the laundry, all the dishes, all the cleaning of the house. I do all the grocery shopping, run all the errands for household essentials, etc. I pretty much am the captain of the ship. Like I stated before the only additional responsibilities he has is to watch her for three hours from the time he gets home until she goes down to bed Monday through Friday, take out the trash, take out the recycling, and change the diaper genie pale when it gets full. That’s it that’s all I ask from him. He is definitely a great father, so I’m not saying in the slightest he’s not a good dad, he is and she loves him to death. But I can’t help but feel frustrated when everything that I am able to handle the full-time job, the full-time school, all the household responsibilities and the taking care of our daughter more than part time goes unnoticed and unappreciated. Especially when he makes comments like he’s overworked, or never has time to do anything for himself, etc. But he has the one full-time job and what I call part time helping out around the house and with our kid. He goes golfing, he plays poker, he’s gone to UFC matches, to concerts with friends, I make sure he has plenty of time to play his video games. All of which I have encouraged because I feel like I’m the stronger person in our relationship and I don’t want him to feel overwhelmed. I’m also OK with the sacrifices I’ve personally made to go back to school to get my degree to better myself and my future. But damn! Sometimes when he starts complaining about being overworked, or not having an a time for himself, I just want to scream and laugh at him like he’s nuts and has no idea! Like my day starts at 6 AM and goes until midnight and then I’m back up at two or four in the morning for these late night wake ups. He gets full days to himself uninterrupted, yet i’m 24/7. Like he forgets that I work a full-time job 40 hours a week, plus I’m attending college courses full-time, plus being a homemake mother to a baby full-time. So it would be nice if he could just appreciate that a little more or when he sees that I am tired, overworked, overwhelmed, offer to pitch in. And it’s not like I don’t ask him when those scenarios arise and when they do, I usually get the “can I just do it later I’m really tired” or “I’ll do that in a little while I just need to take a break” but a little while turns into three days later. So like I said, I’m just venting because I feel like women are a lot stronger than men sometimes and I feel like in scenarios like this we should be given more credit that’s all.

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Friday, May 28, 2010

• Adnan could have filed for post conviction relief at any time during these past seven years, and did not have to wait ten years. Rabia lied about that.
  
• According to Rabia, Justin Brown has decided not to subpoena Asia, given her reaction when approached by the PI.
  
• Attoney Justin Brown files for Post Conviction Relief citing "Ineffective Assistance of Counsel" aka "IAC." This filing contains the first appearance of Asia's letters in the record.
  
• Syed asks for new trial, claiming trial counsel (Gutierrez), and appellate counsel (Warren Brown) were ineffective:
  
  • 1) Gutierrez failed to establish a timeline disproving State's case
  • 2) Gutierrez failed to investigate alibi witness (Asia)
  • 3) Gutierrez failed to move for new trial based on Asia's statements
  • 4) Gutierrez failed to cross-examine Debbie
  • 5) Gutierrez failed to pursue a plea offer
  • 6) Gutierrez failed to request a change of venue
  • 7) Gutierrez failed to investigate Jay
  • 8) In Adnan's appeal brief, Warren Brown failed to include the fact that Waranowitz strayed from his area of expertise, at trial.
  • 9) Cumulative Ineffective Assistance of counsel.
  • [Four years later, on October 18, and November 18, 2014, Rabia lied to the readers of her blog, writing that Adnan was forced to wait ten years to file for post conviction relief. The truth is the defendant has ten years from the date of conviction to file, but cannot file AFTER 10 years. In her book, Rabia wrote that she and Adnan knew all along that Adnan could file for post conviction relief the day after his appeal was denied in 2003]
  • [Rabia also lies about how a 2013 google search led her to Sarah Koenig's coverage of Gutierrez' disbarment. Adnan's May 2010 filing for post conviction relief discusses Sarah Koenig's reporting. This is how Rabia would have become aware of Koenig.]

Sunday, June 27, 2010

• Adnan has been at Cumberland / Supermax for one year.

June 27, 2010

• Justin Brown files a Supplement to Adnan's May 28, 2010 Petition for Post Conviction Relief. Cites a 10th point for PCR.
  
  • 10) Sentencing counsel, Charles Dorsey, failed to request that the motion for sentence modification be held in abeyance.

  After Syed fired Gutierrez, he was represented by a public defender, Charles Dorsey. Mr. Dorsey filed a Motion for Modification of Sentence. Mr. Syed had just received a sentence of life plus 30 years. Rather than ask the Court to hold that motion in advance and raise it after, up to ten years, which is the common practice when a defendant receives a very long sentence, Mr. Dorsey didn't do that. The court ended up ruling on the Motion for Modification a couple of days after it was filed. And, of course, the motion was denied. So that's our third, ineffective assistance of counsel claim. That he should have handled that differently. - The supplement also included further points Justin Brown wanted to make about Gutierrez's failure to ask for a pleas deal.
  

No copies of this supplement exist on the internet.
July 27, 2010

• State of Maryland Department of Public Safety and Correctional Services announces that Fewer Cell Phones Finding Their Way into State Prisons

Summer 2010

• According to transcripts, Justin Brown attempts to subpoena Asia. (This could be the reason for one of the postponements.)

Friday, October 15, 2010

• Hae Min Lee 30th birthday

November 29, 2010

• Motions Hearing. The State Requests the defense file. Transcript Excerpt.

Friday, December 20, 2010

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. First postponement.

February 28, 2011

• Adnan has been in jail/prison for twelve years.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

• Adnan's 30th Birthday

June, 2011

• Dale Sides's blog

Thursday, June 9, 2011

• Adnan receives Certificate of Achievement at North Branch Correctional.
  
• Adnan has been at Cumberland / Supermax for two years.
  

Monday, August 8, 2011

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Second postponement.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

• Adnan moves to disqualify Kathleen Murphy as counsel for the state.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

• Hae Min Lee 31st birthday

Thursday, October 20, 2011

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Third postponement.

November 27, 2011

• Thiru Vignarajah joins Baltimore City State's Attorney's Office

January, 2012

• Rabia founds the "Safe Nation Collaborative." Unfortunately, law enforcement has never heard of it.

Monday, February 6, 2012

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Fourth postponement.
  
• Adnan's motion to disqualify Kathleen Murphy is denied.
  
• Murphy says she first spoke to Urick about testifying at the PCR in February 2012
  

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Fifth postponement.

February 28, 2012

• Adnan has been in jail/prison for thirteen years.

March 21, 2012

• Supreme Court Decisions [Lafler & Frye] re; Defense Attorney's obligation to seek plea deal

Monday, May 21, 2012

• Adnan's 31st Birthday

Friday, June 15, 2012

• Michael Sye named coordinator of athletics for the Baltimore County Public Schools, the top job in running one of the nation's biggest scholastic sports programs. He oversees competitive athletics for 24 high schools.
  
• Adnan has been at Cumberland / Supermax for three years.
  

July 13, 2012

• Adnan writes Justin Brown, asking for postponement of October court dates, due to a foot injury. No mention of July and August court dates.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Sixth postponement.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

• PCR Hearing scheduled, but postponed. Seventh postponement.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

• Transcripts: for Evidentiary Hearing in Post-Conviction Appeal.
  
  • (Shamim's and Rabia's testimony filed and paid for by stop_saying_right after Rabia refused to upload anything but Urick's testimony.)
• Justin Brown opens. He will focus on (3) issues.
  
  • Gutierrez's failure to investigate Asia.
  • Gutierrez's failure to pursue a plea offer.
  • Dorsey's failure to request that the motion for sentence modification be held in abeyance.
• Kevin Urick testifies:
  
  • Gutierrez never approached him seeking a plea bargain. If he had been approached, there would have been a possibility of a negotiated disposition.
  • Asia called him because she was afraid of being forced to testify. She had already made up her mind not to testify when she called Urick. And only called him looking for a way to get out of it.
• Shamim Rahman testifies: Posted and discussed on reddit thanks to SSR.
  
• Rabia Chaudry testifies: Posted and discussed on reddit thanks to SSR.
  

Monday, October 15, 2012

• Hae Min Lee 32nd birthday

Thursday, October 25, 2012

• Transcripts: for Evidentiary Hearing in Post-Conviction Appeal.
  
  • (Adnan and Meady's testimony filed and paid for by stop_saying_right after Rabia refused to upload anything but Urick's testimony.)
• Adnan Syed testifies. Posted and discussed on reddit thanks for SSR.
  
  • Adnan testifies that he told Dorsey about Asia, but there is no mention of Asia's letters, or giving Dorsey Asia's letters.
• Margaret Meady testifies
  
• Justin Brown fails to call Andrew Davis, the Private Investigator hired by Flohr and Colbert to investigate the library/track alibi.
  

February 28, 2013

• Adnan has been in jail/prison for fourteen years.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

• Adnan's 32nd Birthday

June 11, 2013

• Adnan's Cumberland Evaluation
  
• Adnan has been at Cumberland / Supermax for four years.
  

August, 2013

• It has been ten months since the October 2012 Hearing for Post Conviction Relief.
  
• Rabia says she watched the documentary "West of Memphis," looked up reporters who covered Gutierrez's disbarment, and found Sarah Koenig. Rabia hoped that media attention could influence Welch's pending decision, ten months after the hearing.
  
  • Rabia is lying when she talks about this 2013 google search that led her to Sarah Koenig's coverage of Gutierrez' disbarment for the Baltimore Sun. The truth is that Adnan's May 2010 filing for post conviction relief discusses Sarah Koenig and the coverage in the Baltimore Sun. This is how Rabia would have become aware of Koneig. Not via an August 2013 random google search, after watching West of Memphis.

August 12, 2013

• Rabia sends a letter to Sarah Koenig, asking her to take a look at the case. Rabia claims the police and prosecutors knew Adnan was innocent, and Gutierrez threw the case for money. Note here that leading up to Serial, Rabia was convinced that Jay did it, and would have pitched the story, with the carrot of exposing Jay.

August 29, 2013

• Rabia hastily sets up an LLC in Maryland, even though she is not licensed to practice law there.
  
• In anticipation of meeting with Sarah Koenig, Rabia sets up an office at Security Plaza, across the street from Woodlawn High School.
  
• Rabia wants Sarah to think this has always been her office, and that this is where she works. The truth is Rabia lives and works in DC.
  

August 30, 2013

• Approximate: In her "office" across the street from WHS, Rabia meets with Sarah Koenig, leading Koenig to believe Rabia has had this office for a while. Note here that Jay being the killer would have been part of this conversation.
  
• Undated: Rabia tells Sarah Koenig that Gutierrez threw the case on purpose, to get more money for the appeal - Despite Gutierrez having suggested that another attorney handle the appeal.
  

Late September, 2013

• Adnan receives a letter from Justin Brown saying that a reporter named Sarah Koenig wanted to do an interview. Justin wrote that he didn't think Sarah would waste time on a story if she didn't believe Adnan was innocent. Adnan receives the first letter from Sarah Koenig, a few days later.

Thursday, October 10, 2013

• By now, Adnan has received an introductory letter from Sarah Koenig. She sent him a pad and pencil and stamps. Adnan writes Sarah Koenig a letter about his story and case. Discussion. - [will update link soon]
  
  • Adnan says he wasn't much bigger than Hae.
  • Adnan says that students weren't allowed to use the top parking lot. (several WHSers and Krista have said that students used the top parking lot.)
  • Adnan describes the route to the Best Buy but neglects to mention the back way.
  • Adnan implies that the October 31 break up was the final break up.
  • Adnan says that he and Hae would joke about two women calling him on his cell phone at the same time. (Only we know that Adnan's first, ever cell phone was activated the evening of January 12, and there are no calls on the call log that support this story.)

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

• Hae Min Lee 33rd birthday

November, 2013

• Sarah Koenig meets with Chris Flohr to try to get some sense of Adnan's innocence. She tells Flohr that she won't do the story unless Adnan is innocent. Jay as the killer is context for Koenig's work on Serial.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

• Justin Brown talks about the importance of the defense investigator, despite having failed to call the defense investigator at Adnan's PCR hearing.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

• Adnan receives a reply letter from Sarah Koenig and puts her on his visitor list. Sarah has decided to report on the story.

Monday, November 25, 2013

• Adnan writes Sarah Koenig to thank her for her letter and let her know she is on his visitor list.
  
  • Adnan tells Koenig that no one but him (and the person who did it) will ever know if he did it or not. Adnan forgetting that Jay also knows the truth.
  • Adnan writes: Looking back, I always knew that Jay was jealous of my relationship with Stephanie. Stephanie had told me she was going to break up with Jay when she went off to college. Jay asked me if I knew about it. I told him that I did, and he wasn't too happy about that.
  • But on January 5, 2000, Adnan had said: Stepanie was so devoted to Jay that she talked about not going to college and possibly staying with Jay and renting an apartment.
  • Breakdown of lies in this letter that Koenig could have questioned, and/or featured in Serial.

Monday, December 30, 2013

• Post Conviction Decision written by Justice Martin P. Welch.

January 2, 2014

• Andrew Davis in a single car accident, that proves fatal.

Tuesday, January 6, 2014

• Post Conviction relief denied by Justice Martin P. Welch.

Mid January, 2014

• Koenig says that her first conversation with Adnan took place right after he received Welch's decision. Link to excerpt from first recorded interview
  
• Asia returns Sarah Koenig's call. Asia tells Sarah that when she was approached by the Defense PI, she "freaked out" and called Urick, who told her Adnan was guilty, so she dodged the attempt to produce her at the PCR.
  
• Bilal is notified of disciplinary action regarding his dental license, citing un-necessary treatments and overcharging on multiple occasions in 2010, 2011, 2012, and 2013.
  

Monday, January 27, 2014

• Defense files ALA (Applicaton for Leave to Appeal). Adnan's attorneys have to ask for permission to appeal Welch's decision, as there is no guaranteed right to appeal. Defense requests review of two issues:
  
  • 1) Whether Gutierrez was ineffective because she didn't contact/interview Asia
  • 2) Whether Gutierrez was ineffective for failing to pursue a plea deal, and telling Adnan she had.

Monday, February 17, 2014

• Adnan Defense Team PI Andrew Davis passes away. He was never asked about Asia or anything about the defense's pre-trial investigation. Drew Davis Photo Album

Late February, 2014

• Sarah has met with Deirdre Enright who has agreed to work on Adnan's case.
  
  • Two UVA law school clinics begin work on Adnan's case.
  • Rabia says that Sarah reached out to Dierdre on her own. But it's clear that Adnan told Sarah about the Justin Wolfe case and subsequently, Deirdre Enright.
  • DNA issue important to law student, Mario

February 28, 2014

• Adnan has been in jail/prison for fifteen years.

Late February/March 2014

• Justin George of the Baltimore Sun begins helping Sarah Koenig, at Rabia's urging. Rabia wanted a local reporter on the story, too.

Spring, 2014

• Approximate: Sarah emails Young Lee
  
• Approximate: Sarah interviews one of the prosecuting attorneys, Kathleen Murphy, for two hours
  
• Sarah and Dana Chivas visit Woodlawn, and surrounding areas:
  
  • Krista shows them her scrapbook, lets them read Adnan's letters, and see her photos of Hae.
  • Sarah and Dana Chivas do the drive test that Adnan asked Sarah to do. Rabia asks to go along. Sarah says no.
  • Sarah shows Rabia the Enehey Report from the MPIA file. Rabia had never seen it. Sarah has redacted the name of the author of the report. She has promised the author she wouldn't reveal her name. Later, Rabia would post the report on her blog, and tell the world the name of the woman who wrote the report.
  • Rabia says in her book that this report explained why the detectives focused in on Adnan. She leaves out that the report was not written until Adnan had been in jail for six months.
  • Rabia dates the report as August 24, 1999, without mentioning that by then, Adnan had been arrested, indicted, and awaiting trial for months. (Later, Rabia would say that Justin Brown had a copy of the report in the police file, but never showed it to her.
• Adnan sends Sarah Koenig two "Price of Tea" charts, and asks her to hold them until the next time they speak. In October, of 2014, Koenig wrote about the subsequent conversation here.
  
  • C-Mart Chart 7-11 Chart

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

• Adnan's 33rd Birthday
  
• Bilal sexually assaults patients.
  

May 31, 2014

• Adnan's Cumberland Evaluation

June 4, 2014

• Adnan has been at Cumberland / Supermax for five years: Prison Evaluation

July 25, 2014

• Original SERIAL podcast air date

Thursday, August 7, 2014

• Sarah and Julie fly to California, two weeks after the original air date for the podcast. Jay wouldn't talk to them on the phone, so they delayed the podcast, and flew to California to blind-side Jay.

Friday, August 8, 2014

• Sarah and Julie arrive at Jay's house. No one is home. They go away, then come back, for the second time, to walk across his lawn, unannounced.
  
  • Jay said this upset his children.
  • During the conversation, Jay refers to himself as a "scoundrel with scruples." Jay wisely doesn't see any upside to letting them record an interview.

Saturday, August 9, 2014

• Sarah Koenig emails Jay, apologizes for blind-siding him and causing upheaval, suggests they have a drink or coffee, and refers to the project she's working on as a documentary, not a podcast. Sarah tells Jay that the upside to doing a taped interview is that he can tell his version. Her message: "I'm going to do a story and talk about you, whether you like it or not."

August 2014

• Adnan completes Home Study Programs > 8/22: Substance Abuse 8/22: Anger Management 8/25: Offender Corrections 8/29: Contentious Relationships

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

• Maryland Court of Special Appeals orders the State of Maryland to file a response to the defense's January 27, 2014 "ALA" (Application for Leave to Appeal). Court asks for State's response to the defense's assertion that Adnan asked for a plea, and Gutierrez failed to seek one. Court sets deadline of November 14, 2014 for State's response

September 2014

• Adnan completes Home Study Programs > 9/8: Parenting 9/8: Cognitive Awareness 9/12: Theft & Shoplifting 9/12: Domestic Violence 9/12: DUI 9/12: Employment 9/22: Offender Responsibility

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

• Sarah writes to Rabia that the story will be presented in podcast form, over 12 episodes.

Friday, October 3, 2014

• Serial Episode 1 and 2:
  
  • "The Alibi" Transcript
  • "The Breakup" Transcript

Saturday, October 4. 2014

• /serialpodcast is created - [will update link soon]

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

• Rabia's first blog post on Serial; undermining Koenig. Jakeprops says its must-read
  
  • Rabia lies to her readers, writing that Adnan had no choice but to wait for ten years to file for Post Conviction Relief.
  • The truth is that the defendant can file any time during those ten years, but not after ten years has lapsed.
  • The truth is that in a 2004 letter to Rabia, Adnan articulated his strategy to wait out the years, until the deadline was upon them, and then file for PCR.
• Rabia begins to advertise her version of the story on reddit - [will update link soon]
  

Saturday, October 11, 2014

• Baltimore Sun: Relatives of Convicted Killer Suffer in Silence

Friday, October 14, 2014

• Serial Episode 3: "Leakin Park" Transcript
  
• Rabia promoted her blog on reddit.
  

Wedneday, October 15, 2014

• Hae Min Lee 34th birthday

Thursday, October 16, 2014

• Serial Episode 4: "Inconsistencies" Transcript
  
• Rabia tweets Jay's last name, and it is picked up on reddit. Pictures of Jay's house are posted on reddit as a result.
  
• Rabia texts Sarah and says that Redditers "figured out" Jay's last name and posted his Facebook.
  

Friday, October 17, 2014

• Rabia's blog post #2 on Serial. Response to "Inconsistencies"... Rabia reshapes Koenig's narrative. Posted on reddit.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

• Saad's Reddit AMA

Thursday, October 23, 2014

• Serial Episode 5: "Route Talk" Transcript
  
• Hae's classmate "Summer" listens, and reaches out to Sarah Koenig. In a later episode, "Summer" sounds an awful lot like "K." Summer has never been heard from again.
  
• Adnan is a Psychopath thread posted
  
• Yusuf's response to the Psychopath thread. Yusuf thinks the author is Bilal.
  

Friday, October 24, 2014

• Rabia's blog post #3 on Serial. Addresses "Route Talk." Reshaping the narrative for her own ends.
  
• Rabia writes that after her first few blog posts, she received an uncomfortable call from Koenig who rightly felt that Rabia was interfering with the storytelling. Rabia writes that she wasn't going to let this moment pass, but she agreed not to trump Sarah's show.
  

Saturday, October 25, 2014

• Saad names names and let's people know they will be bullied and harassed if they come forward.

Monday, October 27, 2014

• Rabia's blog post #4. She is offended at having been called "loosey-goosey"
  
• Rabia appears on a "google chat" with Pete Rorabaugh.
  

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

• Rabia's blog post #5 on Serial. Rabia announces that she will be appearing in a "google chat" every Monday with Pete Rorabaugh. and directs her readers to view the "chats."

Thursday, October 30, 2014

• Serial Episode 6: "The Case Against Adnan Syed" Transcript

Friday, October 31, 2014

• Rabia's sixth blog post on Serial. Addresses Serial's latest episode as "The worst of it."

Monday, November 3, 2014

• Google Chat #2 with Pete Rorabaugh
  
• Bilal signs Department of Health order suspending his license to practice dentistry.
  

Thursday, November 6, 2014

• Serial Episode 7: "The Opposite of the Prosecution" Transcript

Friday, November 7, 2014

• Rabia's seventh Serial blog post promoted on reddit.. Reframes "The Opposite of the Prosecution."
  
• Asia's classmate sends her a message about Serial via Facebook messenger
  
  • Affiant's version
  • Asia's version

Monday, November 10, 2014

• Google Chat #3 with Pete Rorabaugh

Thursday, November 13, 2014

• Serial Episode 8: "The Deal with Jay" Transcript

Friday, November 14, 2014

• Rabia's 8th blog post about Serial. She writes about the West Memphis Three, and promotes her blog on reddit
  
• State misses deadline to respond to defense's January 27, 2014 "ALA."
  
• Pictures of Jay's house are posted on reddit
  

Monday, November 17, 2014

• Google Chat #4 with Pete Rorabaugh
  
• Bilal begins defrauding Medicaid. He will eventually accrue 1.2 million from November 2014 to February 2016
  

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

• Hae's brother posts on reddit.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

• Rabia blogs about her first Facebook post on Adnan's case.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

• Serial Episode 9: "To Be Suspected" Transcript
  
  • Rabia tweets that they are poised to file to get the DNA tested
  • Items UVA IP seeks to get tested.

Friday, November 21, 2014

• Rabia blogs about "To Be Suspected," and promotes her blog on reddit.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

• Susan Simpson begins writing about Adnan, and posting her blog on reddit. - will update link soon.
  
• Baltimore Sun: City's Crime Image Based on Truth
  

Thursday, November 25, 2014

• Google Chat #5 with Pete Rorabaugh

Friday, November 26, 2014

• Rabia blogs re; Thanksgiving and letters of support she's received.

Saturday, November 27, 2014

• Rabia uploads Jay's first interview and Jen's interview. They are terrible copies she found in the defense file. Rabia still doesn't have the police investigation MPIA file, that Sarah Koenig has.

Monday, December 1, 2014

• Google Chat #6 with Pete Rorabaugh

Thursday, December 4, 2014

• Serial Episode 10: "The Best Defense is a Good Defense" Transcript
  
• Judge Heard posts on Facebook that Adnan is guilty
  

Friday, December 5, 2014

• Rabia blogs about how Gutierrez swindled them; posts a video of Shamim.

Saturday, December 6, 2014

• Approximate: Dierdre Enright and her students from the UVA IP travel to meet Adnan in prison.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

• Jon Ronson's piece in the Guardian written from an "innocent" perspective, appears to have been placed by a PR firm. Ronson includes Adnan's childhood drawings as originals. A redditor later found that these drawings were copied from a children's book. Not a big deal other than that they were presented as originals, for sympathy.

Monday, December 8, 2014

• Rabia blogs about Serial Episode 10; how Muslim kids in the USA hide things like dating from their parents.
  
• Google Chat #7 with Pete Rorabaugh
  

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

• Rabia posts interviews with Chris Flohr and Justin Brown

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

• City Paper: Where the Bodies Aren't Buried

Thursday, December 11, 2014

• Serial Episode 11: "Rumors" Transcript

Friday, December 12, 2014

• Rabia blogs about how the "Rumors" episode is "Much Ado About Nothing." She has organized a video chat of Adnan's friends to rebut every single one of the rumors.
  
• Krista creates a FreeAdnan Facebook page.
  

Saturday, December 13, 2014

• Deirdre and Justin Brown have been giving Adnan conflicting advice about how best to proceed, what to push for and when. On Saturday Adnan finally gave Deirdre the go ahead to file the motion to test DNA. It was an emotional decision for him.
  
  • Adnan Syed: It’s just anything about my case, I want to know it. I don’t want anyone to be able to say “well he didn’t want to know so boom, we went and found out.” No, I want to know. So I called Miss Deirdre and said “Look Miss Deirdre, I wanted you to test things. I’m the one that asked for this. You guys had it sitting for sixteen years and you never tested it. It’s impossible for it to be sitting there for sixteen years and you guys never tested it. So that’s fine, I want it tested... I want to see what it says. There’s nothing about my case that I’m afraid of.

Monday, December 15, 2014

• Asia contacts Adnan's defense team, after listening to the podcast
  
• Baltimore Sun: Serial Brings Healing to Syed Family
  

Thursday, December 18, 2014

• Final Serial Episode (12): "What We Know" Transcript
  
• Baltimore Sun: Rabia Chaudry Fights for Muslims - and Syed; Firebrand for Muslim Women inspired Serial
  

Friday, December 19, 2014

• Rabia launches the Adnan Syed Legal Trust on Launchgood.com: Dennis Robinson named Trustee - [Will update link soon]
  
• Rabia's responds to the final episode of Serial, in her blog and points to Don.
  
• Deirdre promotes the UVA IP via Time Magazine
  
• Asia:
  
  • At the 2016 Hearing for Post Conviction Relief, Asia testified that she binge listened to all the episodes at one time.
  • At the 2016 Hearing for Post Conviction Relief, Asia testified that she reached out to Justin Brown in "Mid-December 2014."
  • At the 2016 Hearing for Post Conviction Relief, Asia testified that Sarah Koenig recommended the attorney that Asia hired, Gary Proctor.

Undated between December 20, 2014 and January 2, 2015

• Rabia asks Sarah Koenig when she can have back all her hard copies and tapes.
  
• In the same email, Rabia asks if she can have the full police file from Sarah's MPIA request.
  
• Sarah doesn't realize that Rabia will sell/use documents from Sarah's MPIA request and research to raise money for Adnan's defense fund, and start her own podcast.
  

Monday, December 22, 2014

• Google Chat #8 with Pete Rorabaugh
  
• Rabia tweets that she will be selling transcripts. For every $10,000 raised for Adnan, she will release more documents.
  
• Tanveer characterizes Rabia's activities as a "campaign."
  

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

• Jay says that he is looking for an interview in which he can control the conditions. He is looking to expose Sarah Koenig for "who she really is."

December 28, 2014

• Rabia posts transcripts in keeping with her "transcripts for donations" advertisement.

Saturday, December 28, 2014

• Asia responds to her classmate's Facebook message

Sunday, December 29, 2014

• Susan Simpson posts the "previously unpublished" 2003 COSA Denial of Adnan's appeal, and says she filed to obtain this document, but it got water-stained in her mail box while she was out of town. However, this looks "obtained" from Rabia's water damaged documents.
  
• The Intercept publishes Part I of an Interview with Jay.
  
  • Reddit thread re; this interview: Addressing the Conspiracy Theory - will update link soon

December 30, 2014

• After receiving more money for Adnan, Rabia posts more transcripts, per her commitment to sell them for donations.
  
• Thiru Vignarajah named Deputy Attorney General
  
• The Intercept publishes Part II of an Interview with Jay.
  

Friday, January 3, 2015

• Sarah Koenig emails Rabia back about returning the documents and tapes. Sarah doesn't respond to Rabia asking for the MPIA documents. Sarah says they never identified Hae's pager.

Saturday, January 4, 2015

• ISB member calls for members to do the right thing.

Monday, January 6, 2015

• Rabia writes in her blog about Jay's lies.
  
• Rabia posts Sarah's January 3 email in her blog, saying Sarah tried to trick Adnan into thinking she had Hae's pager number when, she didn't.
  
  • Either this day or the next, Sarah calls Rabia, and is super angry: Sarah said she was mistaken, and that they did have Hae's number.
  • Sarah said Rabia's posting a private email made Serial look incompetent.
  • According to Rabia's book, Sarah and Rabia engage in a a full on shouting match re: "The Best Defense is a Good Defense."
  • Rabia is angry that Sarah only aired the part about Adnan being happy with Gutierrez, when he clearly isn't happy, and has a pending IAC claim against her.
  • Rabia told Sarah that what she used in Serial could affect Adnan's case. Sarah replied that the IAC wasn't her problem, and [Serial] used what parts of the interviews they wanted due to "editorial discretion."
  • [Note: According to Krista, Hae did have a pager.
• After receiving another $10,000 for Adnan's legal fund, Rabia posts two days of trial testimony.
  
• Jemima Khan asks her twitter followers to support Adnan's legal fund
  

Tuesday, January 7, 2015

• Kevin Urick Intercept Interview

Saturday, January 10, 2015

• Susan Simpson begins posting snippets of police files obtained via Sarah Koenig's MPIA request. She got them from Rabia who got them from Sarah.

Sunday, January 11, 2015

• Baltimore Sun: 'Serial' Prosecutor Speaks Out

Monday, January 12, 2015

• Rabia speaks at Stanford Law School
  
• At the 2016 PCR Hearing, Asia testified that she wrote her 2015 affidavit, but asked Gary Proctor and his office to look it over for grammar.
  

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

• 16th anniversary of Hae Min Lee's death
  
• Asia signs 2nd affidavit, but it is not yet released to the public.
  

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

• Part 2 of Kevin Urick's Intercept Interview

[Post Conviction III>>]()

Finally resolved to stop after I realized how bad the anxiety was affecting me both physically and mentally. Like many people with this problem I was only really able to enjoy eating while using and found myself much more stressful in the early hours of the day for one reason or another (if there wasn't something immediately wrong, my brain would be sure to find a new thing to worry about). I convinced myself I wasn't that bad because I never smoked during working hours, but after two years of pretty much using cartridges right after work until late at night (by myself from 11 till 1 or 2 every night, doing nothing but watching youtube or playing simpler video games) the while-not-high time got all-time bad. I'd say I was using cartridges about 5 time a day on average, every day.
I'd noticed the weed was starting to have an adverse affect even after using, with panic attacks occasionally triggering within half an hour of smoking for the first time a day, but then a couple weeks back the stress got to the point where I was feeling lightheaded, bad stomach cramps, zero appetite and generally just afraid of anything and everything. I convinced myself something must be seriously wrong, went to a clinic and had a series of tests done (and still smoking every evening while waiting for the results to come back). Eventually they called me in to confirm they found nothing wrong and that the most likely problem is the out of control anxiety. So knowing how likely it is that the cartridges were playing at least a part, I made the decision to at least take a break. I'd say 8 or 9 days passed, with things getting a little better. More energy, eating more throughout the day (and actual solids, not just things like soup and small servings of grain) until I did that thing we all do and say "ok, so I just need to cut back".
So that night when I was the only one up I used a cartridge two more times and *immediately* regretted it. Anxiety spike the next day, queezy gaseous stomach, generally just feeling like crap. I realized then that this is it, it has to be the end.
As of now the app I downloaded that morning says I'm at 4 and a half days. Yesterday was good, felt calmer, snacked through the day, even made it to a family event sober where I felt like I could contribute to the conversation for hours. Only problem is, in my excitement to eat again I had waaaay too much, and the day after I'm paying the price for it. Bad gas pain that makes doing everything a chore. Still completed some errands and took a long walk but definitely lingering.
Part of why I'm writing this is actually to try to resolve the nervous feeling that at this point in recovery I should be completely recovered physically and should only really be worried about mental effects, before I convince myself, like I did before, that something else must be wrong and go through the whole process all over again. Has anyone else felt this sort of thing this long? If you've read this long I want to also just say thanks, I appreciate you hearing what I had to say.

Hello! I am new to using a Fitbit (or any kind of smart watch) and am looking for advice regarding wearing it to sleep. One of the main reasons I started using it was to track my sleep patterns
I first used the Inspire 2 but after two or three days of wearing it I found it to be so uncomfortable and to wake up with forearm/wrist bone pain as well as some mild nerve pain. I made sure not to sleep directly on it but I usually keep my whole arm under my pillow and head while sleeping on my side/stomach. I decided to switch to the Luxe and while it has been much more comfortable to sleep with I still wake up with occasional discomfort. Even wearing it super loose or outside of underneath my pillow would still bring discomfort in the morning because I still have to lay on my arm, even if it’s towards the elbow.
I have tried wearing it on different wrists, alternating days etc. My art and work requires me to use my hands and I was wondering it if would be best to just not wear it to sleep, sleeping like I do is the only way I can fall asleep but I would hate to cause any soreness or nerve damage.
Any help or advice would be appreciated, thanks!

IKEA will be joining the blackout to protest Reddit killing 3rd Party Apps such as Apollo

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third-party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface.
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?

1. Complain. Message the mods of reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
2. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at ModCoord - but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their mod mail.
3. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely from June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
4. Don't be a jerk. As upsetting as this may be, threats, profanity, and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable, and law-abiding as possible.

See here for the original Apple thread on this issue.

Hello,
My 3 year old wheaten terrier ate a bunch of cheatgrass 3 days ago. Being from the East and moving west, I was unaware of the dangers of these plants. He vomited that night and I could tell he was not comfortable. Licking his lips and trying to clear his airway by swallowing. After an hour or so he calmed down and seemed to be doing better. The next morning I woke to vomit on the floor and mostly cheatgrass in it. That’s when I found out what this weed was and the damage it can cause.
2 days ago, he seems pretty much back to normal. Eating and drinking well and normal energy levels. Yesterday was the earliest vet appointment I could get. They gave him a quick checkup and said he looks good. They basically put it up to me on what they should do. They offered to run lab work to check for infections, or to put him under and check his throat and sinuses. Or to just keep an eye on him and watch out for anything strange. What is the responsible thing to do in this situation? I figure if there was going to be an infection, it wouldn’t occur right away and it might take weeks or months. He seems fine but I don’t want this to cause issues down the road. Hearing all the horror stories about this nasty plant makes me fear for the worst.
Any advice would be much appreciated

So today while I was working out, the head trainer came up to me and told me to use some deodorant?? coz I was apparently sweating and smelling too much?? and that a few people complained about it?? I WAS ALONE IN MY CORNER THERE WAS LITERALLY NOBODY AROUND ME TODAY. I then asked him who had complained and he said there were 2-3 people and that they left. I called BS. I got embarrassed and almost left my workout unfinished and was going home but I decided not to give him the satisfaction and just walked out to calm down. Now I feel I should've given him a piece of my mind, I'll do that tomorrow I guess.
I went outside and called my friend to tell him about this incident and while I was on the call, the trainer followed me AND ASKED ME IF IM DONE WITH MY WORKOUT?? I said no I just need a minute I'll be back. THEN HE SAID DONT USE YOUR PHONE IF YOU HAVENT FINISHED YOUR WORKOUT?? IM LIKE?? HELLO?? This isn't the first time this has happened. He acts like he owns the place. I've stopped going to him for advice and workouts because he doesn't even bother helping me. It's probably stupid but I can't help but wish there were more female trainers. The funny thing is women are in the majority in my gym and yet we're made to feel like this. I spoke to a few females there and they agreed that they've experienced some rudeness from him too. I'm just waiting to finish my membership so that I can join a better one.
Okay coming to the point, now I know I do sweat a lot while working out but it's not something I can control. I maintain good personal hygiene and always use deodorants and perfume before going to the gym. Them having poor ventilation and Air Conditioning doesn't help either. I wear dry-fit polyester material activewear so I think that's also part of the problem. It's not like other people don't sweat and stink but I don't go around asking people to use some deo like c'mon. I guess I'm gonna have to shower before hitting the gym as well now 🥲
But anyways I'm thinking of using Minimalist Glycolic Acid (8 %) Toner on my underarms as I've heard it helps with odor and darkness. If anyone has used it for these reasons please share your experience.Please help this girl out 😭

Hi, I want to preface this post by saying that I understand this is not a great situation and I should have done my best to avoid it, but I am stuck with this problem now and after trying to deal with it for over a month, I need help.
I am a Canadian student on an exchange program in Germany funded by ERASMUS. This is a European exchange program, but because my Canadian university has a partnership with my German university, I am able to obtain the scholarship funding awarded by this program. Therefore, I am currently working in an unpaid research internship role at a German university. Being an unpaid intern and my origin being Canada, I did not require a visa to enter Germany or to perform my internship. I am on my exchange in Germany from April 29th to July 30th and will travel within the Schengen region after this date, departing to Canada from the Netherlands on August 10th. This makes my total stay in the Schengen region to be 104 days, over the 90-day requirement.
I could not obtain my visa before entering Germany due to the short time between receiving my invitation letter and my departure. According to the German missions in Toronto, I can also legally obtain a visa for my "Youth Mobility" stay at other missions abroad or Alien's Authorities (Ausländerbehörde). Knowing this and knowing I did not have time to get my visa prior to leaving, I assumed I could get it by the same process while in Germany when I arrived. Boy was I wrong.
I have been sending emails to my local Migrationsamt for over a month now and they have not been able to assist me with visa advice, only providing me with instructions to receive a residence permit. I even received advice from the German federal foreign office helpline and they also instructed me to contact the Migrationsamt/local aliens authority/foreigners authority to extend my stay in the Schengen region.
What do I do now? Do I try to have a German-speaking friend assist me in calling the Migrationsamt? Am I even contacting the right people? Any advice is much appreciated as this entire process has been causing me so much anxiety since I arrived I have not been able to enjoy a single day in this beautiful country without thinking about this situation.
Thank you in advance and sorry for such a long post.

FILENAME: Mina Park ‘Eternal’

Personal Name: Mina Park
Mutant Name: Eternal
Faction: Institute Born: 12/04/2007 - Age: 16 Faceclaim: Number One. Number Two.
(Jihan Chioo)
Physique: Mina has a very average build for a 16-year-old. She is slender and fit, but thanks to her mutation she’s never felt the urge to work out before joining the institute. Mina also has no scars or skin blemishes. Thanks to her rapid healing, Mina has a stronger bone structure. Her skin is also harder to the touch as its resistant to force being applied on it. Mina also has an upbeat personality and is often hyper and easily excited. Voice: Born in Canada, Mina speaks with a Canadian accent. Her voice is higher and rather feminine. Mina speaks with a bubbly tone to her voice. She is very friendly, chatty, and enjoys making new friends. Hair: Mina has long black hair, that is usually straight. It’s either tied up in a bun or cascading down her shoulders and back. Mina is big on her personal appearance like most 16-year-olds, and her mood is often impacted by the look of her hair. Personality: Happy-go-lucky sums up Mina’s outlook on life. Mina is almost always happy and in an excellent mood. Mina finds it easy to approach people and make friends. Being so positive all the time, Mina finds it a bit harder to get along with gloomy, depressing type personalities. Mina has a fixation on modern-day K-pop which is linked to her family’s roots back in Korea. She often plays music during combat training and missions. Her favourite groups are Twice, New Jeans, and BlackPink. Mina has a fear of fire and is something she is working on getting over. When she was a child she was in a home fire. Thankfully, she and her family were all able to leave unharmed. Mina has a close relationship with her parents and sister. She is the only one in her family to show signs of possessing the X-gene, but her family is all ‘pro-mutant.’ Seemingly like a poster child for bubblegum pop, Mina often wears bright-coloured clothes and is totally into the modern take on 90s fashion. Mina enjoys playing video games, gossiping, and talking about fashion and the latest celebrity gossip. The teen enjoys cracking jokes, and keeping things light and bubbly even in the heart of combat. If you’re going die, might as well be with a smile on your face. Mutation: Rapid Cellular Regeneration To say that Mina can take a hit is a bit of an understatement. Thanks to the X-gene, Mina was born with the ability to rapidly heal almost any injury. Depending on the severity of the wound, her body can heal it instantly, or take a few seconds. The larger the heal, the more energy is taken away from Mina. After a while, the girl becomes sluggish and slow, until she eventfully passes out. Mina is able to heal and recover from almost any injury to her body, this includes reattaching limbs, and regrowing organs and parts of her body. The only thing she can’t recover from is beheading. If her brain is disconnected from her body, her healing power will not trigger. If the block is removed her healing powers will start again. The girl also has enhanced stamina compared to a human. She’s able to run longer and push herself a bit harder. Mina also has incredible durability. It takes a massive force, or a very, very, sharp blade to break through Mina’s skin. PowerPoints:
Physical: 8 Potency: 4 Control: 3 Control: 0 ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________

TWO DAYS BEFORE THE SIEGE

With the rising conflict around the world against mutant-kind, Mina’s parents decided the best course of action was to find a place where Mina would be safer than she would be in an unprotected home in public. The drive was long, quiet, and a bit awkward. Mina understood her parent's point of view, and she did. She was thankful that her family loved her. She also understood the danger she put the family in every day, just by living in the same house. After a long battle with her parents, Mina finally caved. She was a teenager and her entire life was at home. She had just made her academy cheer squad. Her crush had finally asked her out on a date. Mina was in teenager bliss. If thats actually a thing? It was her younger sister that got through to her. She had made a comment about how Mina wasn’t born to live a normal life, and instead of being a coward and running away from it, she should embrace the life she was meant to live. Mina was many things, but a coward wasn’t one of them. As her family’s car pulled up to the gates of the school, Mina’s mom broke down crying. Ugh. It was going to be this kind of send-off. With an overwhelming amount of hugs, kisses, and promises to call at least 3 times a week, Mina watched as her family drove out of sight. Pulling up her bag, Mina adjusted her dress. Behind her, she pulled a pale-pink suitcase on wheels. She was nervous, like, super nervous. But Mina had always found it easy to make friends and thrive in social situations. This was like, nothing more than the first day of school. Expect, all her classmates had literal superpowers. With her head held high, Mina made her way toward the entrance of the school.

We started dating 6 months ago and both fell seriously in love with each other. I asked her to be my girlfriend after 2 weeks and told her I loved her a few weeks later - the feeling was mutual, and things were heading to the moon for 2 months. Her name is "M".
Important background context: about 1.5 years ago, I was in a year-long relationship with a woman who is a member of the gym I work at, and who is also part of my main friend group (10+ people). After our relationship ended we continued hooking up on and off for about a year. It's not something I'm proud of, but at the time I was lonely and too much of a coward to set a firm boundary and stop talking to her. We stopped the hooking up, but because I see her regularly and she is also friends with some of my friends, we occasionally interacted in a way that I thought was benign. I would not have considered us friends after our break-up, but we were simply civil because I couldn't really avoid her since we are part of the same friend group and gym. Because I hadn't set any sort of serious boundary, she would occasionally text or send an Instagram message, to which I would either ignore or flatly respond to so as not to be rude. I didn't initiate contact. In my eyes these actions were harmless and I didn't even think twice about it, likely because of the weird social dynamic that occurs since we have to see each other more than any two exes would in most other situations. I do not have any feelings for her, and have no desire to have any sort of connection to her. Her name is "X".
The information I told M when we started dating was that "I dated a woman for a year who still goes to the gym I work at". I didn't expand because I didn't think more details were necessary given the fact that the relationship was long over and I had zero residual feelings of any sort. I've never cheated or been unfaithful to anyone I've been in a relationship with. I am a loyal person, and the type who believes that if someone is going to do something like cheat, they're going to do it and it's a waste of energy to be constantly worried about it. I told M I loved her (I've only told that to 1 other person), and in my eyes that means she can trust that I will be 100% faithful at all times. I've never been cheated on, so I'm very fortunate in that regard.
Two months into mine and M's relationship, I attended a destination wedding for two of my best friends, where X was also there, as she is friends with the two getting married (M couldn't go - wedding logistics). I made the conscious decision not to tell M that X would be at the wedding because I didn't know if M would worry while I was there, and because I knew that nothing would happen between X and I. There was no reason for M to worry about something that was a non-issue. It was easier for both of us that she didn't know so that she didn't worry. In hindsight, this was obviously a terrible judgement call and stupid of me to withhold that information, even despite being together for just two months.
About 2 weeks later, M learned that X had also been at the wedding. For M, this was a huge breach of trust. I tried to explain my reasoning, and told her that I understood why she was so upset. I apologized, admitted fault, and tried to reassure her that nothing had happened and that I loved M (both of which are true). I also came to learn that M had a past relationship in which her boyfriend at the time was cheating on her with his ex-wife, so obviously she has her reasons to be weary of exes in general.
Since that point 4 months ago there have been multiple instances in which M has questioned her trust in me, many of which are things I would have never thought of as trust issues. M and I had a conversation where I agreed that I would set a boundary of no communication with X other than professional interactions (me assisting X as a paying client of the gym). We also agreed that should X still reach out to me in any way, I would immediately tell M. This has occurred on two occasions, both of which I immediately told M and in both instances M was seriously upset/annoyed despite doing exactly what we agreed as a way of building trust (these were very, very benign interactions). The thing that was trying to build trust was also breeding distrust.
There are also instances in which segments of my friend group will go out for dinner at the end of the week - a sort of thing where anyone is invited, and anywhere between 4 and 20 people will show up, potentially including X. There was an instance in which I went to dinner not knowing X was also going, and when I told M that she was again upset/annoyed. Most recently, I was tagged in a heavily-viewed social media post (unrelated to X in any way). M saw it and read through some of the comments, some of which were mildly suggestive which also set her off (commenters are people I don’t know). These are things that are outside of my control, and now I don’t know what things will elicit a feeling of distrust within her. The social media post really sent me for a loop.
I am now at a point where I am unsure of what things I need to disclose to M. I'm nervous to attend functions with my friends because if X is there, it will likely lead to an argument or I simply won't attend. I'm worried that this level of distrust isn't something someone gets over. I'm also worried that I'm not doing enough to build trust, and that we have polar opposite expectations of what it means to trust your partner. This most recent trust argument (about the social media post) has me starting to fall out of love with my partner because it upsets me so badly to know M doesn't fully trust me. I've never not been trusted by someone close to me.
Does anyone have experience with something similar? I love M very much and genuinely believe there is "forever" potential.
Am I the problem and simply need to be more open? I'm a reserved, quiet, introverted person.
Any help is greatly appreciated.

Loose English translations based on 2 Chinese translations listed below. Video links to specific timestamps listed in each section. Credit to the chinese translators for being so fast!
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Original Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dGZSA0p5Wj0&t=7s
Translation Source1: https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?spm_id_from=333.337.search-card.all.click&vd_source=9ec1d5c73f859cf1f3af24c55a1aef28
cr. Honeymoon TW
Translation Source 2: https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Pz4y1q7Zf/?spm_id_from=333.999.0.0&vd_source=9ec1d5c73f859cf1f3af24c55a1aef28
cr. Doviso
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Part 1: Intros
Zhant → 【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 00:13】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=13
HD: Hi everyone, I’m Heedo from B.I.G. Guess where I am today? You’re curious aren’t you?
HD: I’m here for the 24:00 online fan meeting (waves). Today I’ll be doing the online fan meeting with the fans together with the 24:00 members. We’ll be chatting over video calls. I’ve come here to spend a fun time.
(walks to Jong Up)
Part 2: Intro JU
ZH-hant → 【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 00:45】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=45
HD: Let me introduce our member hyungs to everyone.
HD: This is our leader hyung! Jongup hyung~
JU: Hello everyone, I’m Moon Jongup
HD: Isn’t this the first online fan meeting?
JU: Yes
HD: How do you feel? Towards 24:00’s fans?
JU: Uh….I’m full of anticipation. Umm….Is this your first online fan meeting?
HD: Oh…I’ve done this many times
JU: Ah I see. I’ve also done it before.
HD: Because you need to chat a lot within a limited time (BJ is fiddling with the toy on JU’s jeans), I’m not sure if I can do it well.
PArt 3: Intro Byungjoo + TMI
ZH-hant: 【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 01:27】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=87
HD: OUr 2nd member hyung! Our eldest hyung! It’s Byungjoo-hyung~ Wow~
BJ: Hello
HD: He’s in charge of charisma in our group and has the kindest gaze (BJ chuckles)
BJ: Ah today’s TMI!
HD: Oh but I didn’t ask?
BJ: Because I feel really uncomfortable now…
HD: What happened?
BJ: I originally didn’t want to talk about this TMI but it’s really bothering me so I’m telling you. This morning I ate yellow croaker (fish with many small bones). The fish bone got stuck in my throat after I ate it…
HD: Ah~
JU: Till now?
BJ: Till now.
HD: So did you eat a mouthful of rice? (pokkles note: I think it’s a common Asian thing to try and “flush” the bone out by eating rice. Umm this is probably just like an old folk remedy, better not to try it!)
BJ: I should have, but I’d already finished the instant rice by then…
HD: Ah…instant rice…
JU: It’s still stuck right now…
BJ: It won’t go down even if I drank water…
HD: Ah it won’t go down…
HD: It’ll probably be better if you sleep and see how it goes after a day or two. I got it…And that was Byungjoo-hyung who has a bone from a yellow croaker stuck in his throat and the angry Jongup hyung
Part 4: Heedo Vlog, JU Vlog, Byungjoo ASMR I
ZH-hant: 【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 02:24】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=144
HD: After Peak Time ended, we didn’t get many schedules where we got to meet with the fans. I’ve been feeling that it’s a pity. Because there’s such a great opportunity to meet with the fans, I’m very thankful. (BJ comes up from behind with bubble wrap while JU approaches from the front with his own camera and starts speaking as well).
JU: Hi everyone~
(BJ starts popping the bubble wrap)
Screen text: A sudden competition for the screen time
HD: Anyway, that’s how it is. (JU is talking away to his camera and blocking HD’s way)
HD: Hyung, hold on. (JU keeps talking and BJ keeps popping)
HD: Anyway, being together with everyone, being with 24:00 is very meaningful~ (JU talk talk talk, BJ pop pop pop)
JU: It’s Heedo!
Heedo to JU’s camera: Ah, hi everyone (BJ’s bubble wrap ASMR continues)
JU: And this is Byungjoo-hyung
BJ: (pops bubble wrap at JU’s camera)
HD & JU: (Laugh) BJ: (pop pop pop)
Screen text: A messy self-shot video
Part 5: Heedo in Oman
ZH-hant: 【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 03:11】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=191
HD: And aren’t we (B.I.G) headed to Oman to meet our fans soon?
HD: Wow~
HD: It’s the first time for us to have a concert and meet with the Beginning in the Middle East this year. Frankly, I’m very nervous because it’s a large-scale concert. Also because Gumin-hyung can’t join us, there’s much to prepare in many areas. But everyone! Please enjoy it happily with all of us. We’ll be going to see you soon, Oman fans! Please wait for a little bit~!
Part 6: Group Polaroids
【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 03:56】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=236
Screen text: Taking polaroids
HD: Is this the last one? Shall we do a 2424 pose?
Gon: Ah this is an 8 (pats BJ to get him to keep 1 hand)
BJ: Ah~
Gon: Are we very serious?
Staff: Are you normally this serious?
HD: Kimchi Kimchi…Pickles are really not a joke… (Chinese t/n: Heedo’s saying weird stuff in the background)
Screen text: The resulting photos
Part 7: Doing the video calls
【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 04:28】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=268
Screen text: Just before meeting the fans
Staff: Then let’s get started
Gon: Yes
BJ: It’s right in front?
Gon looks here and there
BJ: It’s in front. What’s this?
JU is practising how to pronounce the fan’s name
Gon is peering here and there
Gon: The call’s connected
Screen text: The video calls have started
Staff: That’s right just speak while facing it
HD: Hello. I’m happy to meet you
HD: You want to lodge a complaint? Where do you plan to lodge the complaint? (Ju hears it and chuckles)
JU: A sudden complaint?
(next call)
HD: Ah My Bag? At that time I spent a long time choosing between Back Door and My Bag. I made a good choice picking My Bag, right?
(Gon starts bouncing in his chair and flinging his earphones around)
HD: Back Door is too embarrassing so I can’t do that (Gon continues)
HD: I’ll show you all an ever better stage in future
Screen text: Gon who is dancing Back Door next to the shy Heedo
Gon to the camera: I’m feeling a bit bored? (Pokkles note: Gon isn’t speaking to a fan right now so he’s waiting for his turn)
Screen text: Signing on an album for the fans
(next call)
HD: Take a photo?
(next call)
HD: A Fool to A Fool? (Pokkles note: sorry song name I don’t know the original Korean name)
HD: A Fool to A Fool?
HD: I don’t…know
(starts singing 4:ever)
(break time, HD picks something off his upper lip??? and flicks it at Gon who brushes it off)
HD to staff: Didn’t pick up the call? I got it..(packs up)
JU: Did your call get rejected?
HD: Seems like it was Hyung’s fan? Seems like he/she hung up after speaking to you (everyone laughs)
Part 8: Chit chat
【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 06:19】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=379
HD to Gon: Which song is A Fool to A Fool?
BJ and Gon start singing together
HD: Ahh! (HD joins in)
BJ starts singing funny
Gon: Singing in this way suddenly?
Gon: How does hyung (BJ) know this song?
BJ: What do you mean how do I know? This is a song I love
Gon: Don’t lie~I’ve never heard you say you like it before
BJ: Un? Un??
Gon: You never said you liked it
BJ: Then how would I know it (how to sing?)
HD: Seongjung was speaking midway and there was a Chinese fan, and he said “kore” (this is japanese for “this”) ah ah, I’m sorry (HD and JU laugh)
HD: “Ah ah, kore wa, ah I’m sorry” (kore wa = This is in Japanse)
Gon: Going from this to that…Korean, Chinese, Japanese going round and round. It’s so easy to get mixed up~
HD: Kore wa…ah….This is (in English)
Gon: I wanted to speak in Chinese but I didn’t know any Chinese (JU is warming up his vocal chords?????)
Screen text: Heedo’s Chinese lesson begins
HD: zhe shi (= this is in Chinese)
Gon repeats: zhe shi
HD: it’s means the same as “kore wa”
Screen text: The fan meeting ends
On the way to COEX
【渣翻中字熙都vlog之24时线上签售快闪店之旅✨】 【精准空降到 07:30】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Pz4y1q7Zf/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=450
HD: The fansign has ended and we’re on our way to Coex. It’s now 10pm. The day is ending. We’re going to coex now to leave the fans our signatures and messages. This online fan sign feels like the first time for 24:00 to meet our fans formally, so I’m very touched. Because we met online, so I am feeling a bit greedy about meeting everyone offline. An offline meeting would also be very interesting, right?
HD: The Japanese fans have also worked hard to support me. Earlier, I saw fans who had been supporting us since B.IG times. I feel very thankful and also a bit pained. I recalled many past memories. I’m very thankful for the support even now as a part of 24:00. We’ll work hard and go to Japan for sure this year to meet everyone and show you a good side of us. (Pokkles note: I assume here “we” could actually be referring to B.I.G).
HD: Anyway we’ll go to Coex now to meet everyone! Let’s go!
At Coex part 1
【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 07:27】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=447
Everyone goes “wow”
Gon: Let’s find the members.
HD: For a start I’m here, right in front.
Gon: Isn’t Hyung here?
HD: When did you come here?
Gon: Why’re you here alone?
HD: We didn’t fight did we? (pokkles note: I think it’s because HD was away from the others in the photo)
JU: This place is done up really well. Whoa
Gon: Oh! Our song!
Screen text: Challenge the PC vending machine
Gon: Start by pressing this
Gon: We’re red, so let’s press the red button and see
JU: Press any button and it will come out randomly
Everyone “ohhh!”
Gon: I got my own PC!
JU: That’s crazy. For real?
HD and BJ are in disbelief
HD: Was this rigged?
Gon: It’s for real
BJ: Come out! Let me try!
Gon: Try it
HD: Ohhh, it’s mine!
Gon: Hyung, which color did you press? (BJ pressed blue)
Gon: Ah, that’s why. You need to press the red one!
HD: Let me try the other machine. Is this not rigged?
BJ: Try this one
HD: Why are ours the only ones coming out?
Bj: This makes no sense.
HD: Ah, this was rigged~
Gon: Is this token a 24:00 token?
Staff: These machines are 24:00 machines
Everyone: Ah these are?
Everyone: Ohhh!
HD: it’s a group PC
Gon: Hidden card!
JU: Ah this is a 24:00 machine?
Staff: You have a chance to draw from the 24:00 machine if you buy 24:00’s album
JU: Ah, it’s made in a very fun way
BJ: It’s out
Gon: Whoa! I’m very good at this!
Gon: We’ll be done if we draw one of Jongup hyung. We’ve got a complete set
JU: Ah sorry.
BJ: AH, it’s me again! You’ve got to let us get a complete set!!
BJ: It’s a repeated card~
JU: We’ve got to exchange this one
BJ: Where do we put this back (tries to put the card back in the machine)
Gon: Put it back
Screen text: Gon who’s working hard to get JU’s card
JU: Do you need to exchange for these with the albums? (pokkles note: the tokens)
Gon draws and they all go “Whoa!”
Screen Text: The golden hand of drawing cards, Gon (pokkles note: he got JU’s card quickly)
BJ: What are you for real?
JU: Wah, you’re really good at this
Gon: We’ve collected all the cards and the group card
HD: How much does it cost for 5 cards?
JU: You get 1 token for every album bought? Then how much does each album cost…?
Screen text: The members who suddenly got interested in the cost
Screen text: We’ll look into it the next time
At Coex part 2
【[中字] 230602 熙都的24時視訊簽售Vlog (文鐘業、丙周、熙都、GON)】 【精准空降到 09:43】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Bk4y1p7M7/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=583
JU: These are messages we wrote
Screen text: Leaving notes for fans who visit the popup store
screen text: Also signing on the large poster so the fans can see 24:00
screen text: Team 24 taking photos together
screen text: JU who caused trouble and is looking around
BJ: It’s ok as long as we keep quiet
HD: Uh but my camera’s filming right now?
HD: But I’ll keep this a secret
Screen text: Everyone, please keep this a secret
HD: Let’s try the tiger
screen text: Heedo = tiger
Everyone takes photos
HD: It’s well-taken
Screen text: End of the visit to the popup store!
Ending remarks
【渣翻中字熙都vlog之24时线上签售快闪店之旅✨】 【精准空降到 12:18】 https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Pz4y1q7Zf/?share_source=copy_web&vd_source=19119f63a6869d6eeaba216fe2a06f91&t=738
HD: Hi everyone, and that’s 24:00’s first online fan sign, drawing of PCs, and popup store. I’m very happy to meet the 24:00 fans who will be with us even in the future. Although it’s now very late, but I’ve had a very fun time. let’s meet at the concert the next time! I am very happy today! Bye bye!

Just a disclaimer, I am a 15 year old female with dark hair and bright eyes which is what most people would consider "The Supermodel Look". I am also quote tall (over 5'8 I'm just not sure lol). Now before I begin this story, I just want to say that I believe that kindness takes you far and I don't like being rude at all, I would never fight a girl over a guy. Even if I'm in a bad mood I always try to be nice and seem like an approachable person even when it may be tough to do so. I just try to be a nice person and I think everyone should aswell. Anyways there are a few stories in this so buckle up.
Yesterday, I was out shopping with my Father like a FatheDaughter day out. I decided to wear shorts and a white tank top as we are currently at the time of this story in June. Now, the shorts I was wearing were not short. Quite strange to hear from a girl my age as some of us could go out shopping in a tiny bikini and say its suitable lol. But they really weren't, they were about 2 inches above my knee and the tank top went all the way down to the waistband of the shorts. If you have an image in your head you would understand its not in anyway sexually revealing, plus I'm 15 and I can't really show off my body, and I don't want to. So, we were walking through the mall and a man and his wife were walking by, (I know it was his wife because they were holding hands and they both had rings on) and we were walking towards eachother for a good 8 seconds and the whole time the man was just staring at me. I of course stared back because this has happened over 7000 times in the past so now I feel like doing it back. We held eye contact for a bit before he got embarrassed and looked ahead and so did I. But then I looked back at him and there he was staring at my chest whilst his wife was there. I scoffed loudly while looking him up and down making sure he heard and saw me. He quickly looked ahead. This infuriated me as my heart went out to his wife. I know if I had a husband and he was not only looking at other girls chest, but a minors chest?? I would be absolutely furious with him. Absolutely disgusting. I kept walking alongside my father and I just shook my head. He asked me what was wrong and I didn't even want to begin because I was so used to it by then.
Story 2.
So about a week prior to the previous story a friend and I were walking outside beside a big road. We were both wearing denim shorts and jackets. I was wearing a crop top but she was wearing a T-Shirt. Suddenly a car comes speeding up the road. It just so happened to be clear with nobody else out walking and not too many cars on the road. Again, it was a man in the car by himself. He quickly comes to a halt and stops his car on the curb. He does a full 90 degree turn and just stares at us while checking us out. The man was over the age of 45 and I genuinely felt sick to my stomach. I gave him the middle finger and he sped away. Me and my friend were laughing about it awkwardly but I think we both knew how uncomfortable we were. Again, Absolutely disgusting.
Story 3.
The same friend and I were in the city center just walking around, shopping etc. We were stopped at a crosswalk waiting for the signal to turn green. Infront of us were two rough looking men. And when I say that, they were dirty, missing teeth, dirty finger nails, but they were wearing 'designer' so I think you know what I'm trying to say and it's not 'homeless'. One of them turns around of just starts staring at us. Particularly my friend. He nudged the other guy and he begins staring at me. Not even trying to hide it, just straight up, full body turned staring at us and they were both doing a nasty looking smile at us while staring at everything but our faces. They both look at eachother and both nod in approval. These men were like mid 30s atleast. Once again, DISGUSTING.
Story 4.
This time I was walking past a bar with my mom. This was only about 3 weeks ago and it was pretty hot so there were tables and chairs outside for people to sit on. So, as I was walking past there were a group of men, mid 40s. They were all talking until my mother and I walked past. One of the men completely stops talking to watch us walk past which obviously instigated the other men to turn around. Just. Staring. The. Whole. Time. D.I.S.G.U.S.T.I.N.G. Oh and yes they were staring at my butt the whole time.
Story 5.
I was in the airport with my parents as we were going to visit family on the other side of the US. I live in California and they live in Florida. So we were sitting down waiting to board the plane. There was a man. Probably late 30s with his family. He had 3 young children with him. One in a stroller and the two were probably 7 or 8 sitting next to us. I wasn't using my phone, I was just sitting there because I didn't want to use the battery on my phone or any other device so I was just glancing around. So the Father had the phone very close to his face. And sort of aimed towards me because he clearly didn't want his wife or kids to see what he was looking at. He was on Instagram, and you know when you go to search something on Instagram a bunch of pics come up beneath it that are based from your search. Well yeah, there were a bunch of girls in bikinis. They definitely weren't minors thank god but it was a bunch of Instagram models filled with filters and surgeries. I wanted to take the phone and throw it across the airport. This man is sitting beside his wife and family of young children and is sitting there, staring at these unrealistic images of half naked women. Please control yourself. It made me sick.
I could go on for hours, days, weeks and even years with stories of men being absolute perverts or just being so careless of their families because they want to look at half naked women online but I don't wanna waste anyone's time.
Now, i just want to say I'm not one of those girls who take part in the 'kill all men' horse crap and im certainly not a girl who hates men for no reason. I am friends with some boys who are genuine sweethearts and I hold out for them to go far in life and have loving families etc. But the way men act nowadays has a huge influence on young boys to act just as perverted and creepy as they are and it will create a chain of absolute pedophiles throughout the coming decades. It has to stop. Some parents have to be aware of how their children speak about others, particularly women because if you've ever heard how they speak about their wives or girlfriends you will genuinely never want to go near a man again.
And another thing, if some men want to know why some women have such high standards its because they have went through the creepiness and perverted behavior by men they don't even know as a young girl so many times, they naturally think all men are like that. So maybe if certain boys and men change how they speak, act and present themselves the standards will lower. But until that changes, more and more women and girls will continue to rise their standards.
Now, I will not sit behind a screen and absolutely slander men because its not all men and don't even lie, we both know its not all men. But it is enough men for women and girls to be afraid of going near them. And from my point of view, my friends are constantly chasing boys and not to sound like a pick me, but I don't. I genuinely don't bother chasing boys because most of them act the same. The way they speak about girls etc. I personally have high standards because of what kind of behaviour I've seen from so many men at a young age.
I think it's important to spread awareness about this. And please nobody say 'it's just what men do'. No. I firmly refuse to believe its just what they do and if there were a set of words to describe what they do they would be "Utterly Desperate". If you feel the need to stare at other girls while you have a girlfriend?? Its ungrateful and desperate. Ungrateful because you don't realise what you have, and forgive me for saying this, but some boys have a set standard for what they look for in girls during their teenage years and they usually are skinny, 4'11, size D chest, no waist, no belly fat, no stretch marks and a huge butt so 9 times out of 10 that's what their girlfriend will be. So yeah, they don't appreciate their girlfriend enough and it's desperate because what makes you feel like staring at other girls?? To see if she's pretty? Most likely. Are you that desperate to see other pretty girls. It also works the same if he looks at girls on Instagram etc. If he's looking at these unrealistic Instagram models, it's desperate.
I also don't understand how some girls let their boyfriends watch porn. It really dosent compute in my head. It's not realistic. It litterally sets unrealistic standards for how you should look, act etc during the devils tango. I hope one day people realise how bad it is for you. Realise that's not what the female body looks like, nothing in it is realistic, and the actors are so dramatic. Some of them are litterally screaming?. Once again not realistic. Society needs to change how they view women. Its disgusting.
Also for the boys reading this, feel free to comment about your experiences with strange women in public. I think people forget this happens to boys too.
I ask you to not attack me. I just want people to listen to me and become aware of these situations. Stay safe out there and have a lovely day.

“Rule #1: Guns don’t do jack.”
All the others vary, but this is always the #1 rule at every park in the country.
Personally, I would have added precisely four extra letters to it, but upper brass insists we need to uphold at least some modicum of professional decorum. Still, there are no words to describe just how frustrated it makes me every single time I see some jagoff standing there gormlessly unloading his magazine into some unfathomable nightmare creature who obviously isn’t going to feel a thing. Once I even saw someone run empty and then try to reload, instead of just, I don’t know, running away. I was almost glad to see him get exsanguinated.
Many folks have attempted to get creative with it. You name it, they’ve tried it. Silver bullets, 50 caliber high explosive incendiary ammunition, shotgun slugs cased in gold carved out from the Ark of the Covenant and pumped full of aglaophotis and blessed by the pope himself… and nothing. Nada. Zilch. As far as I know, throughout the entire history of the NPS, not a single bullet we’ve fired has even lightly tickled any of God’s half-finished rejects that stalk the wilderness.
I guess we just have trouble coping with the fact that our generation’s favorite hammer doesn’t work on this particular nail. In all fairness, though, there’s a psychological benefit to holding a gun, even knowing this foremost rule. It’s a lot more bearable to weave through trees in the pitch black wood miles from civilization when you have ol’ Remington’s gift to humanity gripped in your shaking hands. Venturing out with just your bare fists feels like you may as well give up, drop trou, bend over, and hope the thing with forty thousand eyes is feeling romantic.
I have to admit, even I keep my trusty old 1911 on my hip, even knowing it’d be absolutely useless for anything but putting a round through my own brain stem in case I get cornered by any of the things you really don’t want capturing you alive.
“Rule 2: Handheld UV lights are required when bushwhacking after midnight so fluorescent spider silk may be seen and avoided. If caught by a strand, or if you feel the earth beginning to part beneath you, throw down a circle of salt, recite the Gayatri Mantra, and clap exactly thrice.”
I’m sure you’ve wondered how we even come up with the really elaborate and specific rules like this one. The answer’s simple: a little bit of occult research, and a hell of a lot of deadly trial and error.
Sure, sometimes we get lucky and somebody else does our homework for us. For example, up at Isle Royale, an Ojibwe elder was kind enough to provide us with a few rules that help greatly when dealing with… well, you-know-what. Sorry, but never referring to them by name was one of the rules. In general, though, if you see a rule emphasizing that you have to clap exactly thrice, you can bet it’s because some poor bastard tried clapping two times or four times and ended up paying the ultimate price for it.
In this case, it was Annemary, or ‘Crazy Anne’. I worked by her side for twenty years, at least. She was a hell of a woman, the kind who made everyone hush into a terrified silence whenever she walked into a room. Still, even she wasn’t as scary as that spider-thing that kept her alive for a week in his web while he extra-orally digested her. He was a right bastard, and for a while I worried we’d have to write off Shenandoah as a lost cause… but since this rule was put into place, the evil cunt has been more or less left to starve. I consider it my magnum opus.
We only pulled it off because of you, Anne, you crazy diamond. Once you’ve conquered Hell, save a spot for me beside your throne, okay?
“Rule 3: If approached by a man with the head of a deer, offer to make him tea. He likes it strong with milk and two sugars. Sit with him as he drinks, and respond to him with absolute politeness and good manners at all times. Never ask him his name.”
You’ll be pleased to know that not every strange thing that lurks in these parks is the sort that yearns to tear your intestines out through your arsehole while you cry for mommy. Just like real wild animals, a vast majority of them just want us humans to leave ‘em alone… and a few even like us.
We’ve got a swell arrangement worked out with this peculiar deer-man who manifests in front of rangers on graveyard shift every once in a while. That 10 foot tall sonuvabitch has got the body of a man but the head of a stag with a rack any hunter would drool over, the digitigrade legs of a wolf, and he wears these flowing robes which look to be made of the night sky, glimmering stars and all. He talks all cryptic and posh, but all he asks us for is some tea time. In return, he opens that third eye on his forehead and glimpses into the future, giving us a few hints as to what sort of trouble might be brewing in the next few weeks. From our encounters, he seems like a nice enough fellow.
We only tell you not to ask his name because it’s beyond pronunciation and will just leave your ears bleeding. You know how it is.
“Rule #4: If you hear the wailing of an infant in the woods steadily drawing closer to the park office, open the red lockbox with code 0681. There is a living fetus inside on a bed of satin; pierce its heart with one of the provided golden pin needles until the noises cease.”
Another complicated mess of a rule we had to bring in a Goetic daemonologist to help cook up. I know what you’re thinking. Yeah, sure, if we knew more about these things, we could probably pare these rules down some more, come up with something simpler, easier. But the point is that the rules we have now have weathered the test of time and have been proven to keep us safe consistently. Once we’ve achieved that consistency, a rule pretty much never changes, since any propositions to study alternatives are always shut down by the question of “what happens if your hypothesis doesn’t work?”
Oh yeah, by the way. You recall how I mentioned there are certain entities out here you really don’t want to get taken alive by? This is definitely one of those. Cutting up that fetus is never very pleasant, but trust me, it’s worth the trouble.
But if you want to trail blaze and stake your life testing out some theory you cooked up… be my guest.
“Rule #5: When staying at the old barracks, always cover every mirror in a room before turning out the lights, and never remove or break-“
“Wait. Slow down a second.”
I had not even made it through five rules before the rookie sitting across from me at the cabin rudely interrupted. He was a young man who’d look more at home in Hollywood or Los Angeles than out here in the woods, his immaculately groomed jet black hair slicked to the side like all the posh celebs are doing it. I didn’t have a very good first impression of him, but hell, I always hated when I had to babysit a newbie through a night. Patience was never my strong suit.
“Can I ask why these are all so… infuriatingly vague?” He continued. “Like, what do I do if forgot to cover a mirror? What happens if I don’t clap three times or whatever?”
“Because there’s fifteen rules even just here in Shenandoah. That might not sound like a lot, but when you’re fighting fer your life ‘gainst something with more mouths than you have teeth, it’s a hell of a lot to remember. Got to keep details sparse, y’see. Make sure to drill in the important bits. And it wouldn’t help you none to know what happens if you break a rule - it’d only scare ya,” I explained. “Now shut your yapper while I finish reminding you of ‘em all.”
He groaned. “I’ve already heard them far too many times. At least a thousand today.”
I stared daggers through him. “There’s no such thing as ‘too many’ in this case, boy. People died to write these rules, and they’ll save your life.”
“With all due respect: how, exactly, are these supposed to protect me? Like… how is clapping and throwing salt around supposed to ward off anything? It’s complete nonsense!”
We got a lot of these types of guys: the “rational skeptics” who don’t believe in your silly rules. It’s either that or the fools with more muscle than brains who think they can kill a creature who can make your heart pop with a single thought. Usually, they get filtered out and fired quick. Usually. I made a mental note to beat the ass of whoever decided that this smarmy, cocksure rookie was ready for the graveyard shift. But it was too late to send him home; he wouldn’t make it out of the park alive, if he tried to traipse off through the woods at this hour.
“It doesn’t have to make sense. These things don’t work by our logic.” But I knew I couldn’t convince these types with words alone, so I stood. “C’mere, boy. Let me show you something.”
I led him to the huge window pane on the cabin’s wall, overlooking the forest down below, and checked my watch - only 20 minutes til the show started. It was a pain convincing him to shut up and wait, but that big mouth of his snapped closed the instant he realized something was emerging from the bushes down there.
It was a raccoon - not an unusual sight out here, if not for the fact that it was walking upright. And not the clumsy waddling on hind legs you expect from animals, but it seemed to stroll bipedally with all the grace of a man, as if its body had been unnaturally twisted and deformed to befit a style of movement that was never meant for it. It moved with purpose, crab walking across a mossy field with its upper body rigid as a statue’s would be, one ‘arm’ pointing towards the sky and the other to the ground below. It plodded along its set route for a minute before disappearing back into the shrubbery without ceremony.
He was baffled, slack-jawed. “What the hell was that?”
“Exactly what it looked like,” I told him. “If you’re lookin’ for a logical explanation, there ain’t any. Some places on earth, they aren’t run by our logic. They’ve got a different basis for their rules entirely.”
“And what’s that?”
“Symbolism,” I replied, as if it were obvious. “In our world, everything’s got to follow the laws of cause-and-effect. For what you’ve seen to have happened, two raccoons must’ve fucked at some point to birth the one we saw. Then somebody, probably me, would’ve had to surgically or genetically mutilate it in ways beyond current medical science, tame and train the wretched thing, and set it up to perform this exact routine at this exact time… and all for what? To mildly confuse a rookie ranger? Explaining it would require so much contrivance, so much pulling assumptions out your ass, that it would laugh in the face of Occam’s razor. For our logic, it is unexplainable. Impossible.”
“But symbolically, it made perfect sense. That creature don’t need a backstory or a cause - it prolly just came into existence a few minutes ago, and will pop out of existence once it’s sent its message. Its gesture was the hermetic mantra ‘as above, so below’ - reminding us that everything that everything that happens on the surface world is mirrored in the underworld. It happens every morning at 1:33 AM because that’s the exact time the Witch of Woodbridge killed ‘erself to become the intermediary between the two here in Shenandoah. And it’s a raccoon because...” I paused. “Well, actually, I haven’t really figured that part out yet.”
My words failed to comfort him. In fact, the more I spoke, the more horrified he seemed, eyes widening in confusion and horror as if I’d just sat down and told him that the voices in my head command me to lick the dandruff off of camels. “Oh my God. You’re crazy. You’re actually insane.”
I sighed and rolled my eyes. “Tell ya what. Think of, for an example you’d be familiar with, a voodoo doll. You use a strand of their hair or a toenail or something so that the doll comes to symbolize their physical vessel. By hurting the doll, you’re symbolically hurting their actual body, so the damage happens to both. That’s how the supernatural works.”
He blinked. “Voodoo dolls work?”
“In places like this, they do.” I raised a brow. “Does that surprise you?”
Suddenly, he stood and threw up his hands, as if realizing he’d been made the victim of some sick prank. “You know what? Screw this. I don’t know if this is some kind of hazing thing or what, but I feel like continuing this line of conversation would just leave me as batty as you are.”
My heart lurched with terror as he stomped to the front door and began undoing the numerous slide locks and dead bolts. “Wait! Hell are you thinkin’, boy?”
He’d only barely opened the door a crack before I’d wrapped him in a chokehold, but it’d been enough. He let out a startled yelp as I started violently pulling him across the cabin, practically clobbering him just to keep him from wrestling out of my grip. I was no spring chicken, and the younger man probably could have bested me, but I had the element of surprise on my side, plus a blow to the head that had left him drowsy.
I tossed him headlong through a hatch, down into a crawlspace under the cabin where sage burners and dried tobacco and protective talismans were waiting. I slammed the hatch shut behind him, restraining the squirming rookie with my weight and clapping a hand over his mouth to silence his protests. His face was twisted by confusion and rage, and he was just about to throw me off of him, but then he froze… eyes widening, as we both heard the unmistakable sound of… something walking in through the ajar cabin door.
We’d made it into the crawlspace just in the nick of time.
There was the heavy click-clack of hooves against the wood floor above us, interspersed with quieter thuds. It took him a moment, but I could tell when he’d figured it out. With one pair of legs, the creature walked with normal hooves… with the other, it walked on the knuckles of human hands. And as it stalked the house, knocking over plates and bookshelves, it growled and hissed and groaned not out of one maw, but three: one sounding high and avian, one low and reptilian, and another letting out the soft bleating of a sheep, all in unison like some unholy choir.
Just when it seemed like it couldn’t get any worse, a fourth maw must’ve opened up, for a new sound filled the room “Daddy?” Came a little boy’s voice, desperate and whimpered, sniffling in a way that made me feel sorry for it even despite knowing better. “Why did you leave me out in the woods, daddy? It was so dark… and I was so scared. Please, daddy. I thought you loved me. Where are you?” The child’s voice devolved slowly but pitiful begging to outright sobbing and inconsolable weeping, downright screaming itself hoarse as the clock neared 2 and the creature’s searching grew frantic.
But the very instant the clock struck 2 o’clock, all the sounds ceased, all at once. We waited there for a moment, in that deafening silence… until I smacked the rookie across the back of the head. “Rule 11, you smug prick. You never open the door at this hour of the night. That… thing takes it as an invitation.” My voice made it obvious I was desperately holding back my simmering fury. I’ve beaten folks half to death before, and I’m not afraid to do it again. “If you want to get yourself killed tonight, have at it. But I am not letting you take me down with you.”
Once the nightmare had left, his brain had an opportunity to register what had just happened… which quickly escalated into a full-bore panic attack. “Fuck this, man. What in the hell was that!? Oh God, oh God, oh God, I can’t take this man, no, no, no, I’m not cut out for this, I need to go home, I need to, I can’t-“
I watched nervously as he jumped up and started frantically pacing the cabin. He was acting erratically, sloppily. This couldn’t end well. “Snap out of it, boy! No sense in braving the woods this late at night. Ya won’t be able to see more than a foot in front of your face. Just wait here until sun-“
He swung at me when I tried to restrain him again, almost breaking my nose. “No, man! I can’t take an entire night of this! I need to go! Jesus, let me go, you crazy bastard!”
I didn’t want to admit it, but this one was looking like a lost cause. There was no way I’d be able to overpower him again once he inevitably did something else stupid. Call me selfish, but at this point, my only concern was making sure he didn’t get me killed.
“Alright! God, fine! If it’s really so important to ya… you can go. Your shift’s officially over, rookie. But I ain’t goin’ out there with ya. You’ll have to brave it on yer own. As long as you follow the rules, you should be able to make it back to your car in one piece. You hear me? The rules!”
He pouted like a child being lectured by an overbearing father. “Yeah, yeah, Christ, old man, I get it! I’ll follow the damn rules!”
In my defense, I did furnish him with every single thing he’d need to survive out there. UV flashlights, salt boxes, obsidian talismans, volcanic ash, the dried and shrunken head of a lamb, and more… not that he appreciated any of it. He was just whining at me to hurry up, ignoring all my attempts to remind him of the rules, like he was in a rush to get out there and die horribly. Eventually, I just gave up, shrugged, and let him hike off into that pitch blackness.
To his credit, he made it farther than I’d expected. Twenty minutes of silence passed, and I started to wonder if he’d actually pulled it off after all.
That was about when the screaming started.
I’d heard it too many times before: the distinctive wailing of a man realizing everything he’d done and accomplished in his life had all just been leading up to this moment when a shambling abomination saw fit to deliver him to the afterlife kicking and screaming and missing a few body parts. It didn’t surprise me in the slightest, really, but it was still unpleasant to listen to.
Judging from what little of it was intelligible, he was crying about something pulling out his eyes. Must’ve broken rule 13. Poor, stupid bastard. That one’s so easy, you’d almost have to be breaking it on purpose.
I remember the first time somebody broke a rule and got themselves killed under my watch. It almost broke me. I blamed it all on myself, then. Sent me into a depression for months. But now, after all these decades… I’m just numb.
After all, my only job is to write the rules.
If they don’t want to follow them, well… it’s their funeral.

Design for Spatial Input

Note: I'm going to post these for each of the sessions I watch. If you find them useful, please let me know and I'll continue to publish them.
Link: https://developer.apple.com/wwdc23/10073

Eyes

• The device is designed to work with you comfortable at a distance
• Eyes and hands are the primary inputs, but you can also use: voice, mouse and keyboard, gaming controllers.
• To make apps comfortable for the eyes:
  • Design apps to fit within the field of view
  • Keep the main content in the center of the view, the most comfortable part for the eyes
• Consider depth when thinking about comfort
  • Keep interact content at the same depth
  • Modals can “push” back the main window and take on the same depth
  • Tab bars can overlay on top of the main content, indicating hierarchy
• Avoid using shapes with sharp edges, as your eyes tend to focus on the outside of the shapes with sharper edges.
• Minimum target area for eye selection should be 60pt. Use generous spacing in between interactive elements.
• Use dynamic scale for UI, not fixed scale. When a user resizes a window with a fixed size, all content (including targets) will get smaller. This will make things harder to read and interact with.
• All system provided controls highlight when you look at them.
• If you use custom elements for your apps, user hover effects to provide feedback.
• All search boxes, when tapped, will automatically use voice search.
• No focus information is ever sent to the app (privacy protection)

Hands

• Available gestures: Tap, Double Tap, Pinch and hold, Pinch and drag, Zoom, Rotate
• Custom gestures should be:
  • Easy to explain and perform
  • Avoid gesture conflicts
  • Comfortable and reliable
  • Accessible to everyone
• Magic moment: Zooming in on images will be anchored on the point at which you’re looking.
• Magic moment: Drawing in FreeForm is done by looking with the eye and pinching with your fingers.
• Since there is no haptic feedback, add additional visual feedback to convey interactivity.

It’s still not easy. I’ve been craving painkillers, my original love, dilaudid, oxys, Roxy’s. I do not crave fentanyl. I wasn’t even getting high for the last year. I was just not getting sick, it basically felt like a mild head change and i was smoking San Francisco’s best fentanyl which is really nothing to brag about. I’ve heard to chemists are making the fentanyls withdrawals worse while making the actual high last way less time. That combo will fuck you up and keep you hooked, in pain, and feeling like you’re trapped in a jail cell with fetty tattooed on the top of your wrists. It’s like a demon that gets inside of you and starts controlling your thoughts, actions and morals. If weed killed my ambition when I was younger, then fentanyl has completely high jacked the drivers seat and changed who I was. I felt shame every time I used, along with relief. Only to be well for 3-4 hours before knowing if I don’t use again the back pain will be excruciating. By the end of my 8 hour work days I could barely stand. I work a job where I tell people on the streets to stop using drugs, so everyday I watch people on the brim of death, at the lowest low hitting rock bottom, and they usually look 25-50% worse as the months go by. This guy used to be walking around, now he had both legs ambulated. Theirs such a thing as a diminishing return. That’s fentanyl. What kind of drug is worth smoking that can kill you in one hit? I overdosed 4 times. Woke up in the hospital saved by an ambulance and luckily some crack head “friends” of mine. I have replaced my addiction with a strict diet, and ample exercise and strength training. Today I head back to work, on the 12th I head back to college. I’ve been back home for id day 3 nights? Which has been the only solace to me, weed, tv, comedy, my new speaker, music, and eating right/getting fit. Sorry for the long post, but it’s been impossible to get a therapist as they want me to have one that specializes in drug recovery. All the outpatient centers priotizes inpatient graduates first, so they are booked for two months as well. Basically I’ve spoken with over 25 people and they all say the same thing. Pat you on the, say good job, lyk that suboxone is an option and tell me they are booked for months and go figure this shit out yourself basically. What I’ve learned is if you don’t want sobriety from hard drugs 1000% no rehab, family love, signifier other or moving away will change you. You have to be ready to put the drugs on the shelf, lock the door and throw the key into the center of the earth. It’s going to get real very quickly. All that pleasure, sadness and emotional compartmentalization is going to bubble back up and explode like hot oil in you face and it’s going to fucking BURN. But your suffering will be rewarded with a happy life, a life you don’t have to be ashamed of. I’m still ashamed. But shame doesn’t get you anywhere. Check your self pity at the door. You can do this. I believe in you, friend. <3
Thank you for letting my air out my thoughts. I needed this today.

This is probably going to be a long post but here's some background. My sister is 7 and I'm 18. We have an age gap of 11 years and my bf is also 18. He isn't usually fond of kids. My sister has an aggressive, is never properly disciplined by our parents and she's always hyper and stuff. She fights with everyone, like physically. I've told my mother multiple times on strictly correcting her but my mother insists she'll grow out of it. Further, my bf is a single child and I'm the eldest out of two kids. So last day, my bf and a mutual friend came over and my mother was at work and my sister home. I was babysitting her. She was acting up and fighting a lot, and wouldn't calm down no matter what. Eventually she got into a tussle with him. She tried to bite him and pull his hair and eventually he got away. But he didn't step away and started yelling at her really loudly and eventually even went on to aggressively hold her legs down to keep her from moving. At some point she yelled "I'm going to kick you out of the house" and he yelled back "do you think i (fucking (?)) Care ?" . He only stepped back when i started yelling at him to get away. I'm at crossroads rn. I'm so mad at them both. It makes me furious and worried. I talked to him later asking why he didn't move away or why he thought it was okay to physically hold her down and reacting so aggressively like that. In my head he could've had moved to the side and let me handle it, and he need to shout since he's already a very loud person. I don't blame him for reacting defensively but i am upset he decided to further take to the point he restrained her even after he got away. He even said he doesn't believe he's in the wrong because that's how he was brought up and it's okay and i told him I was raised differently. Yet he still refuses to acknowledge that he should not have overstepped his boundaries and disciplined her himself. As for her, I'm equally upset at her and made it a point to mention all this to my mother and all she said was ' I'll correct her and don't invite your friends over anytime soon ' . I don't trust her one bit. But now i can't trust my bf either. I've never seen him get so aggressive and loud and out of control like this before and it happened so fast. And it was towards my sister who is rn a seven year old child. He's usually very calm and caring, though not patient. Later that night, my sister started complaining to my mom about a small scratch she got on her palm after the tussle claiming she got from "(my name)'s friend". Idk if i believe her but I'm worried. Idk what to do anymore. Everyone tells me I'm overreacting but smth about his reaction to this is not sitting right with me. On top of that is my parents' lack of concern for my sister's behaviour. I'm mad at everyone also very tired and emotionally screwed up rn. Do i forget about this and move on?

New Management

Hello, ladies and gentlemen of WomanHands. I'm u/sebwritessecrets. Some of you might know me already, but most of you will not. Despite the young age of this particular account, I've been a lurker here for a long time and I've been a Reddit user and moderator for many years. I've just learned today that I am going to be the new lead moderator here at WomanHands. My DMs are open to any member of this community going forward. Consider it an open invitation to contact me in regards to any matters of the subreddit.
The past few weeks on the mod team have been rocky as the team grew to include new people. Some of you may have noticed that your content was removed unfairly, some of it even months old. Unless I have told you otherwise, you are not in trouble. If I have not already contacted you about this and you still have missing content, please contact me. I have done my best to restore everything to normal, and maintain the light, fun, flirty nature of the subreddit. Things should normalize now.
As a result, I am now the only moderator here. I would like to potentially expand the team, but I will be prioritizing established members of our community. If you are a regular contributor or commenter, do feel free to contact me through chat to learn about what it might mean to be a mod.

New Rules

There are going to be some changes going forward, and I would like to put the existing rules up for discussion among the community. Here's what's changed:
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1. Hands no longer need to be the dominant focus of every post. Feature them prominently, but follow the 50% rule. They should be in 50% of the photo, 50% of the pictures in a gallery, or featured in 50% of the video.
2. Trans users are now allowed to post. They were previously excluded via the old Rule 3, but they are now allowed under the new Rule 1. Hands should be feminine and aesthetically-pleasing. Hands that do not pass will be removed.
3. Photographers are now allowed to post their original content that fits the subreddit even if they are not the model, with the model's permission. I have not drafted the process for this, but submitting proof through modmail will be the go-to method until I get a verification system working. Feel free to contact me with questions about this.
4. NSFW comments are allowed in NSFW posts. A little more might slip past Rule 1 in NSFW content threads, but the rule is still to keep it classy. Ladies, if someone makes you uncomfortable in your comment threads despite that, please report or message me and it'll be taken care of.

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Nudity?

As of now, no nudity is allowed on the subreddit, even on our flirty NSFW posts. There are other communities that allow that kind of content, but they are almost all hardcore pornographic subreddits. This will never be that, but I have had contributors approach me to ask about the limits of the the NSFW tag and whether or not the rule will ever be relaxed. So, I wanted to open the question to the community as a whole.
Personally, I am open to potentially allowing tasteful, artistic, non-sexual nudity in pictures on the subreddit, so long as they are properly tagged as NSFW. However, I don't want to alienate users who aren't comfortable with it. I am primarily looking for the opinions of users with a submission history to our subreddit, but lurkers and commenters are welcome to reply, too. If you are not comfortable commenting your opinions on the matter, feel free to contact me through modmail or Reddit Chat.

Verification & Flairs

I'm currently contemplating the addition of a contributor verification system, as well as a flair system to allow users to tag their posts. The primary goals will be to allow users to build up their profiles, establish trust, and let other users know what they're looking for with their content. Maybe a post flair could give hints like flirty, or tasteful comments only, or talk dirty to me, or anything like that. They're a chance for you to express your desires to the community through your submissions without the need for them to explore your profile.
Thoughts? Any suggestions you might like to see as flairs? If there were a verification system, how likely would you be to use it?

Questions, Answers, Opinions

I'm going to leave this thread open for a while for any members of the community with questions or concerns about the changes. If you have had absolutely any questions, thoughts, problems, etc. with the subreddit, this is your platform.

I haven't felt this strong in a long time. I feel confident in my recovery. My meds are right. I'm conscious of my mindset. I'm therapizing like nobody's business. But most importantly of all... I am so grateful to the amazing people who have been there every step of the way.
I don't think they'll ever know the impact they've had on my life, how they have been the sole thought in my mind at my darkest and how they have pushed me to become a better person who can truly appreciate every moment with them. They've made me feel excited to live again. They make me disregard my fear of losing them and just allow myself to love them as deeply as I do. They are my family. I will never forget any of them, no matter what happens or how time goes. They are a part of me that I won't ever let go. I feel lucky for the first time in a long while because I have a clear head now. I can see the amazing things they have done for me just purely by being there. They have saved me in person and also on many nights where I felt completely alone. They have made this recovery so impactful and I am so proud to be able to stand here today and say:
I am 100 days clean and I am confident that I will never harm again. Because I have found a strength inside of me that only they could've ignited. I am excited (if a little terrified) of living, past the limit I put for myself.
I now hope to live past 25. I don't predict my death anymore. Because I want to live.
For them, for myself, and for anyone who might read my writing or watch my films one day, telling them that living, while terrifying, is also so fucking worth it when you meet the people that truly get you and have your back and make you laugh even at your worst.
For anyone who ever fears that they're alone... I want to live for them. So that they can see that "better" is possible and that it's not some theme park or tourist destination. It takes a lot of work, but that work becomes esy once you can see what you're fighting for.
Life is worth living, there is a rainbow at the end of the road, and while you might not see it now, your future self is smiling down at you for living another day, so that you can become who you need to be. Who you will be. Who you will love to be.
One more day guys, one more day ❤️

I'm looking for insight into Latin American cities that are generally great for running. Didn't find much searching this sub and a few others that I thought could have this type of info. I know that there's a lot of info on popular areas for fitness in general but serious running has some very different requirements than the more typical DN activities you see talked about a lot like surfing, lifting, yoga. I'd be working remotely with a budget that would comfortably cover normal living in most LATAM places by my estimation.
High priority things

• Be able to run 10-30km a day with a high % of that on soft surface (dirt roads, paths, trails, parks) from 10-30km. I'm not opposed to running longer runs on relatively short loops if thats what it takes to get off the pavement.
• Safe for a 28M to run solo. I don't train with headphones or anything expensive looking beyond a cheap GPS watch.
• Access to a decent gym
• No more than 2200m altitude
• While I'm happy to run in weather conditions the average person probably wouldn't, It still can't be so humid and hot that it's uncomfortable just to exist -I don't have enough determination to defeat thermodynamics
• Reasonable air quality

Bonus things

• Place with fast running clubs or otherwise strong community of serious runners that would be down with a somewhat fast gringo joining them
• Decent community of people my age
• A place that I can get by with bad Spanish while learning to get better
• A place I could surf, paddle, or otherwise do fun stuff in the water

Looking at what info I could find and the Strava heatmap It seems Argentina in particular has a lot of good locations but I'd love some more boots(running shoes) on the ground intel.
Thanks!

Context: just weaned breastfeeding (1 on Saturday!) and just now due for the 3rd Depo shot. I've got 3 kids, 5 and under. Husband is a stay at home dad, I'm a teacher off for the summer.
I know a big source of stress is always being on. When I got home from work during the school year (4pm), I would take over as caregiver meaning dinner most nights, bath, bed, water, snacks, playing outside, diaper changes- everything. Now, during the summer, I am doing all of those things all the time. Every meal, every diaper change, every activity is all me. So I'm frustrated that my husband will say that being a stay at home dad is a full time job (9-4?), and for most SAHP it is, but doesn't acknowledge that it's equally a job when it shifts solely to me every evening, weekend, sick day, and school break. It feels like he gets those days off, not me. Even if I'm doing something that should be enjoyable like watching TV or playing a video game, it doesn't feel relaxing because I'm interrupted every 5 minutes to break the kids up from fighting or I'm being summoned for snacks or water or to look for some random toy.
As much as this isn't the relationship I imagined, it's not new. It's been like this for years. But the past few months, I've been raging out at everything. The dog throwing up on sheets I just washed? Rage. Kids suddenly acting like they can't put on shoes when we're trying to get out the door? Rage. Having to ask a kid to do something 3 times? Rage. Lawnmower malfunctioning out after I just fixed it? Rage.
This is not how I used to respond. I was never one to snap at my kids. I was always the one to give choices, help them take deep breaths, and talk them through things. We always baked, went on walks, and played trains. Now, I am just lashing out at any and every bump in the road and I don't know how to stop.
"Me time" doesn't rejuvenate me. I'm not one to go get my hair or nails done. Even when I do, I spend my time worrying about getting back to my kids. My kids rejuvenate me but this means that the things that make my heart happy are the things crashing it down. My son pedaling his bike for the first time while I steady him? Amazing! My daughter covering our front porch with chalk scribbles? Perfect! My son quickly giving up on his bike, saying he can't do it, and refusing to try again? Disappointment. My daughter trying to go into the road for the 3rd time? Frustrating. The dog takes off, the kids are now trying to go in and out of the house, and they are fighting over toys and turns. Back to rage. So the kids, dog and I all go back inside and go our separate ways.
This isn't how I want it to be. Is it the Depo shot? Is this postpartum stuff? Unrealistic expectations on my part?0

I have 1 SS8, my kids from a previous marriage 8M and 11F, and a 6 month old M from current relationship. I try to make sure my 3 have all the help they need with things they are struggling with along with doing their doc appointments, dental, and extra curricular things. It’s a struggle bc it’s a lot. My SS8 hadn’t been to the dentist his whole life despite having dental insurance the whole time, until 4 months ago. He required a lot of work and I had to tell my boyfriend that that was ridiculous. He has his mother, father, and paternal grandparents here that can help. Up until 2 yrs ago, I was on my own with my kids in a new state with no family, friends, or money in a battered women’s shelter and had to manage so much on my own. Anyways, my SS has some other things going on that I’ve had to give a little push for him to be put in therapy. His school has suggested he be tested for autism and ADHD. His mother says “everyone has a little bit of that in them.” Well, he failed. No testing done. Behavioral issues at school. Extreme anxiety. I recently asked my boyfriend if he’s had his 8 yr old physical yet since he turned 8 a few weeks ago. Mainly hoping someone can get him in a see if the doc will send a consult. No one knows. I hate watching this and not trying to do something to help him. Should I just butt out and tend to my own?

Damn
That's all I was thinking watching the reunion.
Vanessa for me really turned a leaf.
Yoly was exposed as a manipulative two faced snark fest
Mildred damn
Tiff damn
Mal I love you
Sam girl run
Aussie girl (gender neutral) grow up
Lexi DAMMMMMMN (in a good way)
Rae girl damn (ending text)
I feel like Vanessa was shown as a villian in Lexi's and Rae's story (which was justified) and then made into a villian in her own story (which was unjustified)
She felt the same what Lexi felt. I know that she was the cause of the hurt in Lexi's relationship but she went through the same hurt in her own relationship and wasn't given the same grace when she expressed those same emotions.
(This is speculation)
I feel like Mildred was truthful about what she is saying (it's such a wild thing that I don't think anyone can lie about it on live TV) but that doesn't justify the assault. Tiff has been verbally abusive in the past with sam and is openly manipulative. Mildred's responsive style is aggressive. A shit show all around. I would not put it above tiff to not call Mildred a trash mother which is evidently something Mildred is insecure about. You can't hit a woman when she's down and expect her to take that shit. SHIT SHOW. I genuinely can't pick a side because they both are so volatile. Mildred can't assault someone but tiff isn't that great compared to her either.
Yoly was so weird saying "you could NOT wait to bring that up" to Vanessa saying Xander and Yoli had plans to meet up. Girl. We know you would not have bought it up at all. You are mad you got caught. You are mad you can't lie to mal that you are a confused damsel in distress who just doesn't know what to do~" you are 33 not a teenager. Omitting parts of the truth to show yourself as a better human being is still lying. Vanessa has complete right to be mad. She was trying to work things out with Xander (which she was reciprocating) and you were the other woman. You ARE the other woman.
Lexi girl I don't understand how you didn't see this coming. Rae use your words.
Aussie. Do you know you are 44. At that big age? Sam. At Aussie's big age?
Mal. You deserve better.